I'm getting married in 2016 and have got 4 really close friends and my step sister as bridesmaids. My problem is that we want a MOH to help with my gown and to share the top table with us but I really can't choose between 2.
I'm afraid one would get upset however it wouldn't work having both, I lived with both and shared so much with them, they are like sisters to me. Meir anyone else have a similar problem?
CommentAuthorCamilaL
Ok, I have 6 bridesmaids so far (don't know yet if all of them will be able to attend to the wedding), and really can't choose my MOH. I don't know how to choose, I'm always thinking someone will get upset. And, to make things worse, I need my MOH to speak english (5 of them are Brazilians and or don't speak english at all our just speak a terrible one)!!!!!!
I really don't know what to do :(
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
How about them all being equal? They can all help with the gown etc. that way nobody gets offended.
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CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
if they are all your friends they should just be happy with whatever you go along with. xx
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CommentAuthorJennK
I agree with above comments, they could all be equal? I have 3 BMs and one has been given the chief title as she is my absolute best friend and is in charge of the hen do planning.
But I think the MoH is soooo important! She is like your right arm... I don't think everyone can be equal... so hard :(
CommentAuthorInDreamland
I like the idea of 2 being equal joint MOH.
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CommentAuthorFlossie
I don't think having a MOH is even important in this day and age.. It's an American thing really, isn't it? I have 4 bridesmaids and they are all my closest friends. I could not choose between them, so I'm not going to.. They are all equals and will all be involved in the planning/dress choosing process :) we're not having any of them at the top table either as I think it would be much nicer for them all to be sat together x
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CommentAuthorPhilippaS67
I would really like one to be on top table with us as best man will be there and I'd want one of my girls. Didn't think it'd be this stressful.
CommentAuthorFlossie
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Is that really important? We will be having the best man on the top table too but I'm not worried about it looking uneven.. I would prefer all my girls to sit together and have a great time rather than one of them be stuck on the top table sat next to my parents who she would hardly even know.
If you really want a MOH I would probably choose just one rather than two; people would expect you to choose one, but I think by choosing two you would risk upsetting the other three even more as they may think 'why wasn't I considered?!' x
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18th June 2016
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CommentAuthorclairenina
They could just all be bridesmaids, and still help. That's what they are for anyway I think....maids to the bride xx
CommentAuthorJodieL35
Ive got 7 bridemaids and i cant decide so tol them they r all bridemaids but i think im going to have my daughter as MOH as she is my true bestfriend ok she will only be 9 when i get married and i know she cant do much but she has been the only one interested in the wedding out of all the bridemaids xd
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I don't think you need a moh if they all have different personalities and can all contribute something separately then why not give them all different tasks x
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
And if they all have equal roles, nothing is left down to one, they can all contribute in helping with things.
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CommentAuthorAprilS61
You don't have to have a MOH or chief BM. I have three BMs so they are all the same. Keeps it friendly as I personally think having a MoH or chief BM is favouritism x
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CommentAuthorIrishbride2be
I'm having my sister as my MOH and that is because its my sister and it meant a lot to her my other 2 is my best friend of 6 years who is just chuffed to be bridesmaid and said she knew that my sister would be my MOH anyway and my 3rd bridesmaid is my brothers wife so once again she is fine with it as she knew i would make my sister the MOH xx
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CommentAuthorMinkyM
I wouldnt single one out, you don't have to and I am not going to myself. All bridesmaids will be sitting with their partners as well rather than being on top table