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    • Officially Mrs M
      CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 25th 2013
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    Just wondered if we could perhaps debate the merits or not of the housewives from the 1950's, is there still relevance to what they were taught and brought up to believe?
    Would it make a difference in today's society? Does being a housewife help marriages or degrade women in the home?

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    The inspiration from this came from the image above which read as per below:

    •Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

    •Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

    •Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

    •Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.

    •During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

    •Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.

    •Be happy to see him.

    •Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

    •Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

    •Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

    •Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.

    •Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

    •Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

    •Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

    •A good wife always knows her place.

    Just remember that even tho it is a debate please be plesant and respect each others opinions.

    Have fun!

    (Thanks to GC2B for the topic)

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    • Mel D
      CommentAuthorMel D
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    Sorry I can't read it ... it's too fuzzy and hurts my eyes :-(

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    • MrsA-J
      CommentAuthorMrsA-J
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    lol GOOD HOUSEWIFE GUIDE can F off! lol

    Im not a very good housewife! And it pisses me off when they say what a housewive should do!
    I do make sure that the OH has his dinner on the table when hes home but thats only cos he works hard. Id tell him where to go otherwise. My OH does believe that these statements are what a woman should do, however since being with me (and having rows!) hes changed his opinion-too right hes changed his opinion.
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    • PenguinJ
      CommentAuthorPenguinJ
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    Fantastic topic!
    I think some of the merits can be brought into today's society as a whole, never mind just housewives. I think some of these points denote respect and should be looked at and used by both parties in a marriage along with children and other members of society. I think today's society is generally lacking in respect for one another including marriages.
    Points like listening to each other (not the whole 'a mans opinions is more important than a woman's') is important. me and my oh tend to like to sit and have a chat every night about our days and its a bonding moment for us.
    I tend to do most of the cooking at home as its my 'job' in the house and he does the washing up. but sometimes when ive had a rough day he will do the cooking. the whole of the article is fantastic but it should be used for the household itself, not the man or the wife.
    I think going a little back to old ways might get society back to a respectful one.
    The points i don't like that this makes is the 'husband staying out and being home without an explanation'. This is plain wrong as again it amounts to respect. If you cannot tell your wife/husband where you have been or who with or why you are late, wheres the respect? wheres the trust?

    I think that's all i can say at the moment

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    • Officially Mrs M
      CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
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    MeIN i've managed to find a typed copy of what it says online xx

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    • Tatty
      CommentAuthorTatty
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    I personally would LOVE to have been a 1950's housewife. Apart from the 'Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. ' I wouldn't like that. x

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    • Mel D
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    HA HA HA ... well apart from the fact that we BOTH work in our house he does all the cooking! And as we work at the same place for either of us to be able to be home before the other is actually impossible as we carpool.

    Most of this I am incredulous at! Why are his topics of conversation more important than mine? and WHY wouldn't I complain if he was out all night and didn't let me know? I have no right to question him?????????

    Also - if I took his shoes off ... I would pass out from the fumes :-)

    All I can say is ... I know my place - at his SIDE!

    This is just too funny! (and Dan tells me I am a good wife ... especially when we're watching the TV and I let him lie on me and I tickle his back :-)

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    • Mrs-Mouse-2-be
      CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
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    I think men and women have changed a lot over the years, the roles in some households have completely reversed almost what with some husbands being stay at home fathers and wives going out to work.
    I remember both of my grandmothers telling me that both my grandfathers were excellent fathers but they never pushed prams as it was not "the done thing" in a public place and that's just how it was in our hometown in the 50s and 60s. By the time I was born in the late 70s that had started to change so I suppose a lot of it comes down to what society expects of us.
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    • MargaretH85
      CommentAuthorMargaretH85
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    While most of these notions don't apply today - especially the bit about his topics of conversation being more important than yours, I mean really - there are two points in the article I think any wife (whether a housewife or not) should adhere to.

    There are:

    •Be happy to see him.

    and

    •Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

    My brother's wife (a housewife) often nags him to death the moment he walks in the door after a long, hard day at work. If she isn't moaning about him ("you're 10 minute late"), she is moaning about someone else to him. He doesn't mind listening to any complaints/problems she has, but I know he would appreciate it if she could at least greet him nicely first, and make him feel pleased to be home. She can share her gripes a bit later.

    With Ed and I, I'm always home first, and when he comes through the door an hour later, I'll always greet him with a smile and let him know I'm pleased to see him. And on days where Ed has had a day off, or has worked at home, he'll greet me the same way when I get in.

    I don't think a spouse should nag/grumble the moment their loved one gets through the door.

    So yeah, those two points I agree with, the others I don't!
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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
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    The main difference is that there are not that many stay at home wives/Mums any more. Back then it was expected that the roles were set, men worked, women worked at home. The balance has changed, which in turn has changed the roles at home.

    I see nothing wrong with the role of a housewife, I think its an important role. I don't however agree that a man's attitude and actions should belittle women.
    I guess that's where the saying comes from "behind every strong man, there's a stronger woman"

    I am at home, as a Mum (and soon a wife) I see my role as a homemaker and carer, I'm not a doormat though but My H2B is head of the house. I respect him and really appreciate that he works really hard for us as a family. I do have a cuppa waiting for him and dinner is usually on the go (depending on what's on the Menu)

    I'd hate to walk in the house after a days work to a whiny partner, a mess and lots of stress. So I think the merits of greetings is still valuable.

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
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    Don't question if he turns up late or stays out all night.....?? I'd kill him
    I do normally have tea ready for 5 but tonight I'm getting a chippy and he isn't getting any cos I've seen he's had a chippy for lunch the fat beep lol..... So he can sort himself out tonight!x

    I think there are a few points you can compromise on but I don't think any of them are 109% true at all x

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    • SianyCaitlin
      CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
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    I'm old fashioned where I believe (if both parties are happy with it) that the woman should stay at home with the children, do the housework & cook BUT as I said, only if the woman is happy to do so. If we ever have children, I know that's what I'll be doing, but only cos I would want to, not because that's what women are 'supposed' to do. I know couples where the woman goes to work & the man stays at home & cleans, cooks etc. It's just whatever suits each couple. I don't agree to the others though! xx

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    • SianyCaitlin
      CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
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    I just read this out to h2b & he said 'if only' .. cheeky so & so lol xx

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
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    I think every man would love this...it's all about domination and submission lol

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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
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    If he is at work all day and the wife isn't is it about being submissive?

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    • CommentAuthorJoannaS
      Posted: Jan 25th 2013
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    my hubby has just read it and laughed so much he has tears running down his face especially when I said but darling thats exactly me!!!!!!! I stayed at home when my boys were small and didn't go back to work until the youngest was at senior school ex was in the army so we travelled about alot I loved being at home while they were small I was lucky I could!
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    • HelenW
      CommentAuthorHelenW
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    hmm i work full time as does he, so a lot of these sorts of things are shared between us. If i was a housewife, i would probably do those things - i love the old school style (possibly not to the extremes of basically being his slave!) but i do agree that dinner should be ready, the house should be clean and welcoming.. unfortunately none of that is going to happen, as I am the breadwinner so i have to work (wonder if that means i can turn all this stuff around onto him?!).. he does get home later than me and i do usually have dinner ready for him. id love to not have to work and be able to have a spotless house, a well exercised dog and be able to pick my son up from school rather than after school club, but this just isnt possible in todays world.. (not for us anyway unless he can get an amazing job!!) most people i know come from 2 working parent families now.. not many people i know have a stay at home wife.. xx

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
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    his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

    Hello honey, the house has burnt down and the kids are dead, but dont worry, you're bad day at work is MUCH more important! :D

    I have no issue with being a 'good housewife' if I don't work all day, then I should be expected to keep the house tidy and get the food on the go and i wouldnt start nagging the moment he gets through the door, but the rest of that would just see me thumping him one in the gob.

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    • LynD
      CommentAuthorLynD
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    I agree that it doesn't apply so much now as both parties go out to work. I would've loved to be a stay at home mum, but as it was just me from when she was 3 months old then it just wasn't feasible.

    To be honest I'd like to be a stay at home wife - I've had enough of work and I'd love to retire to be honest, that's after moving to the coast - oh dreams.

    but as to his topics of conversation are better than mine - well I thinketh not - each are as equal as each other..




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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
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    Apart from women also needing to go to work why else do you think the role of being at home has change for many?
    Do some women believe its beneath them? That its demeaning to do those thing listed? (in the general sense)

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    • Bobsi
      CommentAuthorBobsi
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    I find that quite funny.
    Arrange his pillows and take off his shoes.

    Who would want to go anywhere near a mans feet after a full day of work.

    I think some points are good, but these are just good manners and should be followed anyway but some just do not fit in modern society.

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    • PenguinJ
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    yeh true bobsi, my oh keeps his shoes on lol

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
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    Im more than happy to stay at home, I would like to work, but at the moment, its too much like hard work trying to juggle work and childcare. Although I dont like not having my own money, Im much happier as the housewife than going out to work as well. Half the time it ended in rows as when we were both workign fulltime, the housework and cooking suffered. But that doesn't mean I feel like Im beneath him in any way. It's me that does all the odd jobs and DIY, Im the one that gets sh1t done in the house, without me, he'd just live off pies and wouldn't do anything house related. Aside from the fact that I don't earn, I find it no less demeaning than having to go to work and put up with some complete cock of a boss, and ive had a fair few of those. I think the issue is, you're dependent becasue you don't have your own money.

    If a woman is happy to stay at home, then I don't think it should be seen as demeaning, I enjoy it. I have my car, so its not like Im marooned here by myself with no mates - and he's not bothered if ive gone out for the day and the house is still untidy - he doesnt expect (though I expect he'd like!) me to be a stepford wife.

    I'm sure the cheeky git would think the 50's housewife was amazing though lol. think il keep this list to myself haha!

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    • mym72
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    I wouldn't have survived 2 minutes in the 1950's lol - I'm definitely not the model housewife!!!

    I doubt couples today could operate like that, because people, and society, has changed - for the better!!! A marriage is a partnership and that's how couples operate nowadays, thank god.

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    • MrsLJDeaton
      CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
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    Lool 1950s house wife is lool do or that No one in this day and age does that anymore I think now days we are getting more matrifocal and so we ladies can be more dominant in the household. I do not think it is degrading that's just how women where seen to or should be doing.
    I wouldn't last long as a 1950s wife nah I don't role like that Don't get me wrong happy to stay at home look after the kids obvi look after my hubby see that he is happy satisfied etc... ♥ X

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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
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    Dont you think women were actually dominant though, basically the husband had to go to work. A cash cow. The women controlled the home and everyone in it, the husband just thought he did. The wife brought the kids up, taught them respect, kept the house functioning. Much like today in many ways.

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    • KayleyV
      CommentAuthorKayleyV
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    omg that bad lol hahahahaha

    i think that women in those days had to be quiet and just do it but women these days are so head strong that they wont take that kind of shit....
    For me i will cook clean n watch my son but wen it gets stupid like my OH leavin his scruffy work stuff allover ill leave them there till he moves them or tell him to get his arse in gear lmao.
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    • MelanieR15
      CommentAuthorMelanieR15
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    Times have changed!! A lot! There is no way I could be a 1950's housewife. One because by the sounds of what it said in the artical, I would not like to be looked down on and not be seen as equal to the man and two because I would find it really boring to stay at home all day and cook and clean! Ok I suppose this could change if I had kids but for now no way! I love my job (primary teacher) and wouldn't be without it, it keeps me busy and I like to be busy. My fiancé works in sales and manages his own hours meaning he can be home at 3 whereas I don't usually get in until 6ish. However when I do get in I love it... I am greated with a lovely smile and a hug and kiss and he tells me what he is cooking fur dinner, (he us a great cook- I am not!) I then do the washing up, and we share the cleaning around the house.

    I say times have definitely changed where luckily now there is no public perception of how a couple should be. Play to your strengths in a relationship, both do your fair share and treat each other with respect.

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    • VintageChic
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    "encourage the children to be quiet"



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    • MrsLJDeaton
      CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
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    GC2B good point woman were dominant in the household and the men thought they were I like the way you put that because we cooked clean bought up the children taught them manners respect took them to school etc . . . so there for the house is very matrifocal while your Hubby at work I guess till he comes home We Woman the Boss We Rn Our House =D ♥ X

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    • Mrs-Mouse-2-be
      CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
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    About the conversations and his being better or more interesting than mine, a small disagreement kicked off between myself and H2B today and it went like this -
    Me- I got a phonecall today from someone in a call centre looking for a Mrs Aldeson.
    Him- really?
    Me- Yeah and I said there's no one here with that name
    Him- so what someone got a wrong number
    Me- well there's more to it than that
    Him- yeah whatever I'm bored now!

    So about 10 minutes later he starts to feel inquisitive about the story

    Him- so go on tell me what happened on the phone earlier
    Me- I thought I was boring you?
    Him- no I was just messing what happened?
    Me- not telling you because you were being rude.

    So his mate comes in to the house and there's a little silence between me and h2b lol

    His mate- what's up with yous 2
    Him- she was banging on about someone getting the wrong number earlier and I couldn't be bothered listening so she's huffing now!
    Me- well it was actually an interesting story
    His mate- yeah I'll bet
    Him- laughing
    Me- yeah well next time you start one of your hour long epilogues about your interesting day I'm just going to say I'm bored now instead of trying my best to be interested.
    Him- don't care
    His mate- right well I'm off now see you!

    A few minutes later-
    Him- seriously what happened on the phone?
    Me- forget it!

    Lmao he's probably still wondering what happened but I'm never going to tell him lol
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    • SamanthaG76
      CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Hahaha i love your stubborness I'll-be-36, hang in there, don't tell him! Heehee! As for the guide, times have certainly changed! Won't be showing this to h2b!! x

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    • PB
      CommentAuthorPB
      Posted: Jan 27th 2013
     
    My husband found this very funny, he says i fail on nearly every point! I have promised to try and be more 'gay and amusing' when he comes home lol! x
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    • PenguinJ
      CommentAuthorPenguinJ
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    I don't my oh would have the guts to try and enforce half of this! He says we are equals! But he does earn more money than me xxx

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    • RaggedyAnne
      CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jan 27th 2013
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    I am what I think , a modern wife, I work full time....which the 1950s wife didnt, so they had time to do all the stuff in that list.
    We do share some of the work, but I will now explain to you how MY life is, and perhaps why it is like it is......

    I was born in 1960...so I am 52 yrs old. My mum was a young wife and mum in the 50s and 60s, and brought me up much in the way detailed above. So I grew up in that way, believing the man comes home from work to a cooked dinner.......mostly because they had a hard job, possibly on the land, and did need a hot meal when they came home. I believe this is still true today, in my home life.

    I work full time, but I work in an office. My husband works full time too but his work is more physically demanding than my job, so consequently he is knackered when he gets home.
    (He is on shifts though, and when he is on earlies every other week, he is home first so he cooks tea)

    I dont pamper myself to make myself pretty for him, he sees me all the time.....warts an all.

    I get very 'wifey' sometimes and have a baking day, and prepare special meals for him.....not because its expected of me, but it all comes down to the way we were brought up, and like I said above.....I was bought up by a 1950-60s mum...so I guess its rubbed off.

    I dont feel down trodden, because if I did I simply wouldnt do it, but something inside says.....you do it, it is more of a womans job.

    I wont be a slave and pick up after him, I wont shut up like a good little wife does, I dont run his bath ......but I DO do a lot of stuff that maybe some of you girls wouldnt dream of doing........I do his washing, ironing, I do all the shopping and MOST of the cooking. I do all the cleaning, making and changing beds....the list goes on...but I do it because I want to, and feel it IS up to me to do it. Sometimes I get p1ssed off with being the only one that does anything, then I go off on one, but mostly I am happy to do it........

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    • MrsColetobe
      CommentAuthorMrsColetobe
      Posted: Jan 27th 2013
     
    This good housewives guide really makes me laugh because it sounds so bloody rediculous now lol

    It's almost like if you were to act like that now, you would have zero respect from your h2b, or maybe thats just me?

    although i actually wouldnt mind being a housewife, cos i could just take care of the house etc, i mean i do the washing, ironing and general house chores anyway, but he does help out too. i am more than happy to do it and i know he doesnt take the piss with it, he appreciates what i do and vice versa but no way would i wear a ribbon in my hair and think that he's more important than me, what happened to equality in a relationship?!

    i would however be happy to see him, cos i always am and again, vice versa, we both work and make the same wage so he thinks the only way to provide for me is to make dinner every night, which im not complaining about :)
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    • Glitterfairy
      CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
      Got married 8 years ago
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    We done this in Gender Studies at college. Good housewife my bum! There is also extra bits to that, one being that you had to get up early before him so that you could be dressed and have you hair and any makeup done, also whilst doing bedroom activities you were meant to make noises just to please him whether you wanted to or not as it was his pleasure.

    I sometimes think that hubby thinks this is how it is still as I believe his mum was the same with his dad so that is what he is used to. Got a shock when he moved in with me lol!

    Things have changed so much within society, women still are not deemed equal, still getting paid less than male counterparts, and those that do work full time very often spend up to an extra 70 hours a week doing unpaid household duties. It sucks!

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    • ValentinaK
      CommentAuthorValentinaK
      Got married 6 years ago
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    Pah! I do that anyway...kind of! Where is the good househusband guide?!

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    • KayleyV
      CommentAuthorKayleyV
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    haha valentinaK i agree they need a husband 1 lol they should take our shoes off lol xx

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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
      Got married 7 years ago
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    What would a guide to the 2013 wife contain?

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
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    I think it's important to both be working now... It's great to be at home with the children but I'm thinking about my future as well as my children, if I didn't work I wouldn't get much of a pension pot when I retire either and wouldn't want to just live off h2b's ... Want to be comfortable in old age,not worrying.....

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    • MrsC
      CommentAuthorMrsC
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    I have nothing for when that time comes Kelbel, its a worry really. I've worked in between having my children but not a full time pension paying job.
    I guess that's a sacrifice I've made without realising.
    The cost of living have changed a lot. Back then credit cards were not used, you had what you could afford and that was that. Not extra pressure to pay other things off. Maybe that's why a wife could also stay at home.

    I wonder how many stay at home mum's/housewives feel valued and happy?

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    • AmyP59
      CommentAuthorAmyP59
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I agree with some of the points, like greeting him with a smile & don't start nagging as soon as he walks though the door, but surely that should apply to him aswell?

    As for the cooking/ cleaning of the house, we both work full time so we share the responsiblity, sometimes the house is a tad messy but oh well its just us too. But I will never remove his shoes! and the same for him, he knows I don't like my feet being touched!

    But for some people this life is ideal for them and thats how the want to be, and good for them its their choice as long as they don't expect other people to be the same then all is good surely.
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    • KayleyV
      CommentAuthorKayleyV
      Got married 3 years ago
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    i was a stay at home mum for past 3 years and wasnt happy. i mean i love my little boy to bits but need adult conversation sometimes and wen my h2b gets in he goes to bed to work that night and then stays in bed after night shift till afternoon. dont really get to see him as much as i would like. ive now got a job that i start on 11th feb and i actually cant wait to work then come home to my son and h2b, think it will make us stronger. Weve both decided when im working we both have a share in the household jobs such as cooking and cleaning and i think that should be how it always is :)..... xx

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    • OWB
      CommentAuthorOWB
      Got married 7 years ago
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    I would love to be a 1950's housewife. We are aiming that in the (hopefully not too distant) future I'll be able to work part time and fulfill some of the old fashioned housewife roll.

    At the moment, we're a fairly modern couple. We both work long hours, we share a car ride home and get our grumbles out of the way at this point so that we can leave them behind when we're home. Once home I cook and other half takes care of the washing. After dinner he washes up and I prepared the food for our pet rats (they eat better than we do). Tidying is done when we can be bothered, but we're both messy. However, if I was to be a stay at home wife then I would be expected to keep the house tidy and have meals prepared, which sounds like my h2b is a chauvinistic pig, he's not - but he's not going to work hard all day to pay the bills whilst I sit on my backside.

    Some of the list is clearly outdated - don't get mad if he stays out all night?!?! However, why not great your other half with a cup of tea and smile whilst asking about there day, as long as they'd do the same for you if they're home first!

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    • LexieG
      CommentAuthorLexieG
      Posted: Jan 31st 2013
     
    I have to say that some are really useful, such as be happy to see him. Every time I saw him come home, I would hug him with a big smile. But I don't agree much to some of them, as if the rules are trying establishing a certain distinct rules between couples. In my opinion, the relationship between couples should be relax rather than respect.
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    • Glitterfairy
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    • LegoWife
      CommentAuthorLegoWife
      Got married 7 years ago
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    Aw I think the 1950's house wife thing can still be applied today, just take out the insinuations that you're basically his slave and that he's more important than you and it still mostly works if you are a housewife/don't work/don't work nearly as much.

    H2B works and I don't so I like to try and make him as comfortable and stress free as I can when he gets home.

    In fact i'ma go through the list and try and modernise it in relation to my relationship:

    Have dinner ready- Usually do this, so it's ready or at least cooking by the time he gets home. We're both hungry by then anyway so it's nice to have it done or almost done so we can sit down and eat together right away

    I don't "freshen up" looks wise but I do try to be cheery and not 'work weary' cause it makes him cheerier too, which covers being more interesting than his boring work day too I suppose.

    Clear away the clutter, I don't dust tables or anything crazy like that but if I've made a mess I try to tidy it up before he gets home, though recently I've been too lazy cause there's wedding stuff EVERYWHERE.

    Erm, when it's cold I make sure the heating is on for when he gets home but that's when it gets cold anyway but that counts right? haha.

    Didn't think of minimising noise, sometimes have the washing machine on when he comes home, I'll ask if that bothers him lol. He probably doesn't even notice though.

    Always greet him when he gets home and am happy to see him

    Don't think his topics of conversation are more important than mine, but I always ask him how his day was first. I leave the complaints and problems for later.

    If he was late without telling me though there would be hell to pay lol

    Erm, sometimes if I remember I'll turn his computer on ready for him so he can use it right away and doesn't have to wait for it to load up but that's as far as making him comfortable goes!

    Wouldn't offer to take his shoes, that's a weird one, plus he's the sort who has to wear shoes all the time unless he's in bed or showering or something.

    Don't usually speak in a low soothing voice either it's usually squeaky baby talk haha

    I think that's reasonable!

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    • StephanieM71
      CommentAuthorStephanieM71
      Got married 5 years ago
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    I had a real panic a cpl of months ago that I wouldn't be a good enough wife. Just didnt think I could do what was expected ie the type of stuff up here. I was upset and asked OH why he wanted to marry me when house is always a mess, kids climbing the walls and dinner is rarely in time, i normally look a mess when he gets in and I'm a soap addict lol.
    He said that's exactly how he likes me and doesn't expect me to change in any way - if house is a mess he'll help clean and entertain kids (if possible lol) and if dinner isn't done he'll order take out
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    • MrsRusty2B
      CommentAuthorMrsRusty2B
      Got married 6 years ago
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    I wouldn't last 5 minutes as a 1950s housewife. The part about not complaining if he stays out all night or is late home would be a major problem for me - if I cook dinner for example, the very least he can do is turn up on time to eat it. If he's going to be late or out with friends, I'd prefer he let me know in advance or at least, drop me a text/give me a quick call to inform me.

    All these things make me think of the Stepford wives *shudders*
 
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