Ok so I don't have my mum around any more and there's no one I can ask to cime dress shopping with me, but need a second opinion! I have seen one in monsoon, is it wrong for me to ask h2b to come with me? I'm kinda shy and the thought of a wedding dress shop puts me off.
Do you have a fave/close auntie or best friend you can ask x
Snap. I have no mum, no sisters, no cousins, no aunts, no brothers, just my Dad and a step mum that's not interested. So my fiancé is coming dress shopping with me and my MOH. I trust his opinion more than anyone else's. As someone who is plus size, he has a great way of making me focus on the things I'm happy with rather than the things I'm unhappy with. He's honest but kind. If your H2B can do that for you then you should absolutely take him along. Even if he sees the dress, it will be a long time before he sees it again, and you will have all your accessories, it will be altered to fit you exactly, your hair and make-up will be flawless and his emotions will be running high so he will still get the effect. Don't worry about superstition or tradition, do what makes you happy.
It's only tradition that says Grooms should not go dress shopping, so take him with you, if you will be happier to do this!
My mum lives in a different part of the country so I took mother in law to be and 2 of my friends xx
I went looking for dresses by myself originally due to my sil being ill and it worked for me as I could get an idea without comments from others, I would say go try some on by yourself and then get opinions at another appointment
If you pick an established shop, the staff should know what they are talking about! The woman in the shop I'm getting mine from was excellent, I had my heart set on a dress & she put it on me & pointed out where it didn't suit, then put on the one I'm having, which I'd turned my nose up at & it was perfect. I took my daughter & best friend, who both said they didn't see what she saw!! xx
I went with my oh. He is very creative and so decided to have some fun. I didnt pick any dresses. Got to the shop and he was given all the tags and they told him to pick five completely different styles. I had no idea what i was trying on. It was great fun some were awful (well on me) and then purely by chance i found the dress. His face was a picture and to be honest it was only the dress he hasnt aeen me with the hair done make uo veil tiara or whatever i decide to have. Its another memory for our day that we have. When i went to collect the dress and pay for it my moh saw me in it. It didnt matter what anyone else thought of the dress as he and i loved it so i have no doubt about my choice. Plus it was a discontinued dress so amazing bargain as i haggled some more. Take him with you if that is what you want to do. My bridesmaids dont all like each other so its been abit easier not to do that. He is also coming bridesmaid shopping. Its our day so apart from little surprises the other one doesnt know about we are doing it all together. This is just what works for us but there are no real hard and fast rules anymore only peoples opinions, yours and his are the most important ones for your day.....in my opinion 😂😂
I didn't take my H2b dress shopping because I bought my dress off Amazon. He did see it before and after it arrived. The amount of grief I have off people when they find out he's seen it is ridiculous. It's your wedding, please do it your way. Have a day that makes you both happy regardless of other people's opinions. Take your H2b with you if it's what you both want. xXx
My mum, family and best friends are not around, so I took my MIL and my MOH with me. It was a very good fun and they were very honest. Could you try that?
I also lost my mum before we got chance to go wedding dress shopping, and at first I went alone as couldn't face taking anyone else. I then also needed a 2nd opinion and took my daughter around the rest of the shops with me...she's only 13 but I knew would be honest lol!!!! It doesn't matter who you take, how old they are or whether they are your groom, best friend, relative or work colleague...as long as you feel comfortable with them and trust them to give you an honest answer that's all that matter. And if you do take your groom, you will look completely different when your hair and make up is done anyway so you will still blow his mind when you walk down the aisle...and let's face it, is he likely to remember what the dress looked like anyway lol as I know my other half wouldn't xx enjoy the moment whoever you take, and don't worry about any of it xxx
My husband picked and ordered my dress as I couldn't decide. The boy did good.
You go dress shopping with who ever you're most comfortable sharing the experience with. If that's your oh take him x
I also lost my mum a few years before I got engaged; I took my SIL2B and future MIL
Is you h2b mum still here ? I bet she would be made up to go with you x
My h2b saw all the dresses I liked. Then I narrowed it down to 2, which he saw but then I picked one without him being there. So although he knows the 2 styles he doesn't know which one I actually picked so still a surprise on the day x
Bring him along if you want him there, your choice! Old traditions aren't going to stop you having the best day! Feel confident and I hope you find the right dress😊
How about going you're self and keep it a surprise from everyone at the end of the day it's more about the bride anyway
Take whoever you will be happy and comfortable with x
Hi I don't think it's a problem as long as none of you are bothered about him seeing you in the dress before your big day. He might of forgotten anyway :)
You can ask h2b if you like. It's your wedding, your rules.
i took my MIL with me. i don't have a mum and she doesn't have daughters
what about if you have a sister a friend your future mother in law your granny good luck x
I ordered a dress but 3 months down the line, the designer went bankrupt so I had to choose another dress. I went on shopping for the new one on my own and my new dress is going to be better than the first!
Also, I would recommend not ruling out bridal stores. Go online and look at reviews of stores. I've heard some real horror stories about rude women in stores, but I tried 3 and they were all lovely :)
Take your h2b with you if you don't have a close female relative or friend x
I don't have a mother any more either. My h2b sister said she'd come with me and I can also ask my sister in law.