Hi guys! I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I'm asking my closest friends next week to become my bridesmaids. I have purchased little cards for them all, and I have written them. However I'm feeling a bit of regret for not planning on asking one of my best friends to be my maid of honour (decided originally not to have any cause our wedding is gonna be informal, and very untraditional), as I am going to be one of hers when she gets married in two years' time. I feel like I should somehow repay the favour, as we are pretty much like family, but I also just don't feel the need to have one, as all of my bridesmaids will pretty much be doing all the same duties anyway? Is there anything wrong with this? TIA x
Not at all, explain it to her and I'm sure she will understand x
Hi If you don't want a maid of honour then don't :)
Could she be one of your witnesses as well as a bridesmaid? I'm having 3 bridesmaids but one of them, my sister, will be one of witnesses along with the best man.
Just explain to her your reasoning. My best friend got married last yr and and didn't have any bridesmaid or MOHs. That doesn't mean she won't be part of my wedding party x
I had so many close girlfriends that my other half cut me down from 12 bridesmaids to 5 .... So one close girlfriend I have asked to be my witness as I just couldn't cut her out .... Xx
We are also having a very informal wedding but we have decided to still have some aspects quite traditional but with our own twist on it. So I'm having both a maid of honour and a matron of honour. There's no reason why you can't have a maid of honour and it be more of a title than a role. That way your friend feels appreciated and you don't spend ages second guessing your decision. It's your wedding, it's OK to throw the rule book away and do things your way. xXx
You could have her as a Chief Bridesmaid?? (I didn't realise that was a thing) xx
Give her an extra role like being your witness or doing a reading. I wanted my brother in law to be part of my wedding as he wasn't a groom's men so he was my witness and my cousin did a reading xxx
If I could change one thing about my wedding I would have had 2 of my close friends as bridesmaids too I decided not to because I did not want a massive entourage (I had 3 with my 2 sisters and best friend). But they are not in photos as much as I would have liked and that makes me sad x
You don't have to have a maid of honour. I am not having one as I couldn't pick and they will all be doing the same anyway. Xx
I think you should have one even if they arnt doing anything different my sister all she's doing different is that morning of the wedding she's getting her hair and make up done first and running around making sure everything is perfect and they way I want it
The only difference between my maid of honour and bridesmaids was she was she was a witness. :)
Maybe give her the duty of organising ur hen do? X
I think you should have on MOH/chief purely so they reign bridesmaids in if they have to, they can be your witness....my chief was amazing in the lead up and on the day!! Xx
Only one of them can sign the marriage licence, assuming your h2b wants his own witness. So one is automatically more important as the wedding can't happen without them
im getting cards with little gifts for my bridesmaids I'm not having a maid of honour my weddings not formal itself so I would say ur choice to make and if they don't like it then do what u think is best
Nope if you think that you will regret not asking her then ask her, but don't do it if you just feel like you should x
If you do t want a maid of honour then don't have just because you are being one for someone. All weddings are different x
just explain to her, im sure she will be fine, i asked my bestfriend to be my bridesmaid but havent spoken to her since she moved away she hasnt spoken to me either, and she doesnt know plans are now moving forward with a date and venue, shes to busy with her life as am i, doesnt mean we arent still friends though and i know she will understnad when we do talk as we are only having a small wedding now, and a celebratory party when we return home, just talk to your friend im sure she will be fine x
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