UKbride Member Request 1 Aug 2017

So I have a dilemma. I'm having small wedding next September and then a big...

So I have a dilemma. I'm having small wedding next September and then a big reception. I am meant to have 4 bridesmaids but one of them, my sister... Well it's all about her, if she doesn't like something or doesn't like someone going then there's a massive fall out. I'm paying for the dresses, Hair, make up and I just feel and this will sound bad but she's very ungrateful and I really don't want her now as a bridesmaid. I haven't asked, she's assumed and I just don't have the heart to tell her because I know fine well the uproar it's going to cause.. What do I Do? Dread it the whole time having her as bridesmaid or just tell her?

Jaki Green
Jaki Green 1 Aug 2017

I'd tell her!
It's your wedding, it has nothing to do with her what you're doing or who you're inviting.
Tell her she can choose all that when she gets married x

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 1 Aug 2017

I would tell her. She might become more reasonable if you are honest with her x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 1 Aug 2017

Hi try to talk to her tell her that you are doing things your way, if she refuses ti understand then tell her to come as a guest good luck :)

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 1 Aug 2017

I would tell her. She might not realise how she's actually coming across. x

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 3 Aug 2017

Just give her conditions she has to follow to be a bridesmaid

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Aug 2017

Sit her down. Tell.her its your wedding. You would like to.have her as a bridesmaid but you want the dresses you want.etched but would value her input in picking them.
As bridesmaid she needs to.feel.happy and comfortable in what she wears. I gave my sister tbe choice of colour and style for bridesmaid dresses for my wedding.
ALSO.its the trend now for bridesmaids to wear different styles in contrasting colours. So maybe thats the.way to go.
Its not worth falling out over.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Aug 2017

If you really feel like that. Maybe ask her to do a reading so she gets to be centre of attention for a few minutes and then you don't have to have her and bridesmaid but she still has a role


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