Elouise Hinton
Elouise Hinton 1 Aug 2017

My boyfriend of 8 years proposed last week. I have no idea where to start...

My boyfriend of 8 years proposed last week. I have no idea where to start with planning. Help! ????

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 1 Aug 2017

Hi Pick your date go to see venues, then see registrar to see if they are available, have a choice of 2-3 dates because the registrar gets booked quickly :)

Amy B
Amy B 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations! Start venue hunting and set a date then see about booking the registrar x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

id start by writing a list of the kind of wedding you want,what food etc then start looking at venues and dates and work from there x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

If you want the get married in a church go and see your local vicar they are usually pretty flexible. Decide on type of wedding we had a tipi wedding in a field as we had a lot of children coming with having 4 ourselves we wanted it to be about them too, if your not having children this will mean you can have more sophisticated venues. Boho chic was our theme and we had 125 in day and 200 plus at night. So look at numbers, budget, style of wedding and go from there. So much fun planning a wedding enjoy every second xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Set a budget first and work out when you can afford what you want. Then as the others decide what kind of day you want then go venue hunting

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

How wonderful congratulations. First I would think about what type of wedding you would like. Church registrar or at a venue. Choose a date then do some research and things will start to come together. There are lots of sites to help xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Firstly decide on a realostoc budget and how long it will take to get the money saved (its worth creating a guest list so you know roighly where you stand) . Then you can google place that will fit into said budget. Dont go looking at venues that are too expensive as you might fall in love.

Rhiannon Robson
Rhiannon Robson 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations!
I would suggest first sitting down with your partner and discussing a budget and rough ideas for dates. Then start researching venues. We did find it hard to set a budget without knowing what things cost but we just went with an amount we could afford and were comfortable spending.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

How about you both think about what you'd love to have on that day. Also book some tickets for the national wedding show and use it for inspiration (don't book yet, just get the inspiration).

Jaki Green
Jaki Green 1 Aug 2017

Firstly congratulations!
We started by picking a few dates, looking at a few venues and visiting those venues.
Once we found the "one" we went from there x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Do nothing - enjoy your engagement fir a while, think it over together and take it slow! It's such a lovely time of excitement, enjoy that first before the planning starts! Congratulations!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations!!! Ok, first off, relax. Take the time to enjoy being engaged. Nowhere does it say you have to start planning straightaway - it's a marathon, not a sprint. Enjoy your new relationship status with your family and fiancé - get used to that first and don't let anyone bully you into making decisions until you are ready.

When you are ready, discuss with your fiancé about budget and talk to each other about everything. Make sure you are both involved in the process. Everyone always says it's the brides day, but there are two people getting married that day and it's important that your groom feels appreciated too. I guess what I'm trying to say is breathe, relax, enjoy it and take your time before jumping into it head on.

Good luck!!!!x.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Best advice I got was to prioritise booking things that can only be in 1 place at 1 time - e.g. venue, photographer, car, so I knew once they were booked I had main things sorted x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congrats.. same for us. Eight years.
We started by writing a guest list which helped narrow down venues. We luckily stumbeld on our venue and booked at asap.
Once we had that done everything else has fallen into place.
And make a realistic budget. And if things come in cheaper than planned have a 2nd list off stuff you would like extra or splash out on xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations, first think about rough numbers and budget as this will help choosing a venue, also if your getting married in a church book that first there's no point getting a reception venue and then the church is booked on that day, a venue wedding coordinator told me that and have fun x

Angie Norris
Angie Norris 1 Aug 2017

take it all in for a while & enjoy before the organising starts.xx

Laura Hallas
Laura Hallas 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations!! I can't recommend the Bridebook app enough - you need to decide your budget and a rough timescale. I went to the national wedding show to see everything too to decide on colours and themes

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Yayyyy congratulations!!! 🥂
It's up to you on how to start, some people are saying do nothing for a while, maybe that'll work for you? We were both so excited that we started looking for venues straight away! We chose to start with venue first as that's pretty important! And then work things out from there. We had a date in mind hat we wanted but we're happy to be flexible with it if the venue we fell in love with wasn't available. Start with a simple google search of nearby venues and see what style you like and go from there!! Enjoy the planning process it's so much fun ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

I picked a date and then focussed on sorting out anything that depends on someone else, so church, venue, photographer, transport, hair and make up etc. I worked down a list until the only jobs left were the ones we were doing ourselves. Good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations!!

It's totally up to you! Firstly I'd work out your budget and how long you think it's going to take to save up, then from there work out a date and start looking at venues xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations! Yeah most people are sensibly saying think about when and where then move onto the other stuff. For ideas, Pinterest! Problem is now there's so many exciting ideas and options it's hard to stay focussed on one thing! Just try and make it about you two and what means a lot to you both :) it's so much fun! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations!! 🥂
First you need to pick a date or at least a rough date then pick some venues to go view! Once you've chosen your desired venue you just go from there, we only visited one venue and fell in love instantly, we just knew it was the right one for us. X

Siobhan Ireland
Siobhan Ireland 1 Aug 2017

Congrats ☺️ first thing I get your venue then it all falls into place ☺️ xx

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations! First look at your budget and then what sort of wedding do you want. Then you can look at venues and dates (depending on how long it will take you to save). Good luck and enjoy x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Congratulations, first of all take your time. There is no rush. Just start googling venues and have a rough idea when you'd like to get married. Then just start booking venues to look at. You'll start to get a feel of what you would like and how much you can afford. Weekdays are much cheaper than Saturday's as is autumn and winter weddings. So you could have your dream venue for sometimes half price! Just enjoy this early stage. Start looking for wedding fayres lots of venues hold them. Gives you lots of ideas and contact numbers for everything you could possibly want for your wedding. Most of all just enjoy. Take your time. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

I know it sounds mad, but don't worry about your budged for now. First draw a guest list and see what type of venue you want and see if there is a date you are partial on, if you know you got a tight budged try to avoid the main season between May and October and of course December, everything cheaper outside of those days. How can you set a budget without knowing what you want to do? Also go to a wedding fair if you can. You get lots of inspiration and a good idea of what things cost. Amazingly nobody there gives you a hard sale so you won't be pressured to make any decisions. And there is always free cake to taste

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

You can find some great planning checklists to start with on google or pintrest. Just start breaking things down :) I felt totally the same, but there are some good resources online.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2017

Think about budget, time of year and where you might want to get married. Focus on places you can afford and when you want to get married - once the venue is sorted other things tend to slip into place nicely. There are a few calendars I've spotted on venue sites that give a sort of timeline of when to do things - have a looky for one of those.

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 2 Aug 2017

Congratulations! Start with the venue and church/ registrar and set a budget too, good luck x

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