Hi I am not really sure how to word this I am inviting my a aunts and uncles...

Just ask people to RSVP by a certain date and put if no RSVP it will be taken as you aren't coming we did that and we never had an issue good luck xx

No rsvp no seat no food no drink no cake that's what's on mine x

I would just chase up the rsvp afterwards, i have family all over the world so rsvps may very well get lost in the post lol so I plan on double checking with them personally if I haven't received them by the date stated on the invite

I'd say exactly that. I don't think that's rude at all

The ones you are suspecting may not reply, could you put a rsvp and self addressed envelope with the invite. That way all the hard work is done for them

I sent a message out to everyone a week before the RSVPS were due back & said...
"Hi everyone.. bride to be here. As you all know all rsvps need to be back by the 1st June. So far we only have 25 rsvps. Please do not just assume i know you are attending. I will not be catering for those who do not reply. So if you would like to be fed watered and have a comfy chair, you have 1 week to reply either by rsvp or to this message"..

I was brutal but honest. People need to know where they stand and cant just assume you will add them in x

Chase up the ones that don't rsvp

We invited over 200 people (don't ask....) and our deadline for RSVP was July 3rd which was clearly stated on our invitations). On July 3rd only 60 had responded. We were supposed to let the caterer know our final numbers on July 14th. 🤷‍️

You should just send this - I think the message gets out across clearly then haha 😂

Hi. We just chased the ones who didnt reply to get a final answer.

I put an earlier date than I wanted the rsvp by and then started chasing everyone up just before to say I hadn't had anything back. Some still took a while to reply and 2 months after the rsvp date I was still chasing people. The stragglers I just told I had to know by a certain date cause that was when I gave my final numbers and I couldn't change it after that x

Give a date that's before your need to know by date - if they haven't replied just ask them lol

Hi ask them to RSVP at least 2 weeks before you have to give final numbers to your caterer if no reply don't order them a meal :)

Surely people will know they need to rsvp? Put an early date to give plenty time then chase up with 1 of the messages above, simple & straight to the point

Unfortunately we did everything to make it easy. Invites contained an RSVP they only had to fill name out, envelope with our address on it the only thing we didn't do was provide a stamp...... we still had some not rsvp - luckily it's our evening guests who aren't having a meal so we've paid for enough food for our evening buffet and if we're missing some people it won't matter so much

I would jusy cater for them any way as maybe they want to surprise you

We had an rsvp by date and then sent a humerus text to Non replies saying they were on the rsvp naughty list. Respond or go hungry

Date the rsvp and then call or message them if you've not received it a few days after the deadline xx

We cheated as people had to pick their meal options. However, I still had a few to chase, my auntie and my uncle (separate couples). So I just called to arrange. Don't ask for RSVP too long after invites as people forget and make sure the deadline is a few weeks before you need final numbers and then call the missing ones. Xx

There's a few weeks before my deadline for rsvp is due but I'm still waiting for family to send them back so I'm sending a message a week before dead like to say if ur coming then please rsvp don't just assume I no ur Comin ... Drives me nuts really as I provided everything apart from stamp so no excuse lol.. If people just turn up on the day iv told my h2b they will get bread and water and think them self's lucky hahah xxxx

We gave the RSVP date before we actually needed them to give us time to chase people up.

We also used a free wedding planning website for most of our planning (guest list, working out seating plan etc) including creating own own wedding website (password protected), where people could RSVP online! Most of our guests used this to RSVP rather than the postcards we'd put in the day invites. We still had to chase a few people up though!

Could you just give them a call to double check as well as making it clear on the invites that you require the rsvp xx

We put a menu option in each invite and told them they had to rsvp and include menu choice as we needed numbers for caterer but we still had a few turn up just as well I over booked food

I think if you want them to be there and don't get the rsvp back, just send them a follow up message or phone call asking for it. Rsvp's can make a nice keepsake so it's always good to return them and it shows respect acknowledging the invite even if you can't attend. That should be understood :)

I was particularly peeved to not receive only one rsvp... just one? I hear you ask... well considering the rsvp card was within invite with a stamped addressed envelope I consider it just plain rude. I then asked the person if they had indeed received invite to he told, " aye (Scottish) don't know our plans yet!" Still had no reply so given our wedding is 2 weeks away I'm guessing they ain't coming.
I would however love for them to turn up and be directed to the bar following the ceremony whilst we all have dinner... there you go, grab some crisps 🤣

I put on our invitations rsvp by......due to spaces if we do not receive a response by this date your space will be given away and unfortunately there will not be room for you attend.