What are your wedding pet peeves?
Hi mine are interference and people saying they are not attending because they feel the other parents are having more say, although they are not :)
Guests making the day about them. Parents taking all the control. Other people proposing to their significant other at someone's wedding (I just think it's rude and takes it away from the other couples special day)
Families arguing is the worst one
People giving me ultimatums about my guest list. Yes I've had the "I'm not coming if they do" comments.
People trying to dictate my choices and the dreaded rsvps that say they are attending and then not showing. Do they not know how much this is costing us!!!
People expecting you to put their wants over yours xx
People not rsvp'ing
Guests who put their pics on social media before the happy couple do. That really really annoys me. Especially when asked not to until a certain time. My friends got married last year & despite being told not to, one of the guests put pics up on FB within minutes of the ceremony ending. My friends were absolutely livid & asked those guests to leave their wedding.
I know I'll get stick for this but mine is when the bride demands that no one else can wear white or cream as it's rude and ignorant.... In my opinion this is something that's ridiculous because no one is going to outshine the bride on her wedding day. Everyone knows who the bride is, and I find it unfair that alot of brides think they can dictate to their guests on what colour clothes they wear. If someone turned up at my wedding wearing white or cream it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.... I'd just be happy they were there x
People telling me how to plan. I had a family member tell me ''I don't like roses''. Well,I do so tough. I had a friend who tried telling me which photographer to use (''Mine is half the price and just as good!" when really,you could tell the difference). General wedding snark - oh,that's tacky,that's overdone,I wouldn't have that at MY wedding. Good,don't have it at your wedding then but this is MY wedding so kindly piss off
Hearing things through other people, but they'll but say a thing to your face!
People pushing themselves for important roles, such as best man and then making demands. And then throwing their toys out of the pram when the bride tells them that the speech needs to be less than 10 mins.
Interfearing mother in laws thinking they know what's best says they don't want nothing to do with you or your children and then trys sneaking into the ceremony
Brides trying to 'one up' each other!! Your wedding is your thing....whether your budget is £200, £2000 or £20,000....it's personal to you and just because someone doesn't want what you want doesn't mean it's not right. I had people saying yeah I have seen that so much, or that's been overdone now or every wedding has had that song since it come out....it doesn't matter. What matters is you and your grooms opinions!!! It's YOUR wedding. Xx
Cake in the face... bride and groom... too cheesy!
People expecting to be invited, people who won't come to the evening do because they think 'they're not good enough for the whole day' weddings are bloody expensive! People who want you to arrange transport for them just weeks before the wedding after having already rsvp'd family rows getting in the way of it being a nice day, it's one day put your petty differences aside! Ultimately the day is about about 2 people who love each other making a lifetime commitment to each other forever not about who sits where or what food/flowers you have, I wish people would just be happy about that x
People that don't RSVP before the date given on invite and then you have to chase them and they make you feel like your making a big deal by asking for a decision like asap
We got married last year and we had quite a a lot of "pet peeves", most frustrating/ rude is people accepting their invite and then not coming! I even had one "friend" kick off and tell me to F off because I hadn't invited her 1 year old daughter to our evening so. Bearing in mind we stated in both day and evening invites it was family children only plus I gave her 6 months notice to arrange child care... but apparently I'm selfish and should go f**k myself because her 1 year old wasn't invited safe to say we're no longer friends! I wouldn't dare act like that!
Haven't had any yet apart from a bridesmaid who isn't really doing much or putting much input. Haven't heard anything about a hen do either so doesn't look like I'll be getting one. I'll just go out with my mum instead.
I got married last year and I really didn't care about what people wore. As long as they looked somewhat smart and was comfortable that's all that mattered to me. It's a long day for everyone and you will want your guests to be comfortable.
Laura Gaynor these things are what I'll be taking about after my wedding 😂😂😂
When children aren't invited I know kids are a handful but they should be included it's a memory
We had several people text us on the day saying they weren't coming. We ended up with a whole empty table in the end. The worst one was my husband's brother who decided he couldn't come, we had paid for a hotel room for him and everything.
Our wedding isn't until next year but I've already had people I don't even know tell me they are looking forward to been there. Or people who clearly think they are getting invited but only speak to me if I'm with my H2b.
People saying 'how much weight are you going to loose for the wedding?' Just don't do it, so rude! If I had my time again I would tell people what I thought of this question!
And cake in the face, I don't understand why you'd ruin your face of make up that you've probably paid for, it's not even romantic!
I know people invite families with children etc... but babies/toddlers crying/fussing during the ceremony gets right on my nerves!
Family members bringing the past into the equation. People need to remember who the day is about - and it's not about THEIR past transgressions
People who wear jeans to a wedding, absolutely hate it, anyone turns up to mine in jeans will be sent away!!x
relatives asking you to invite their friends to the day when youre already balls to walls with family guests.... were sacrificing some close friends cause weve got alot of lovely family and then youre asked to invite someone elses friends... like im s**ting money.
We are planning for may 2019... meeting with father of church tomorrow and hoping to book venue on friday.... have had comments of its a bit early and its almost 2 years away why rush.... well love, if i wait until next year someone else may of booked for the weekend we want and steal the venue from under our noses.... do they not realise how quick these things get booked up?
People who moan and bitch about not being invited when they haven't even spoken to you for months! If There's a limit on people you can invite, you invite the people closest first!
Interference and demands of others and then trying to make your wedding all about them and when they get told no to there demands they have a paddy and threaten to not come. I've had that already and i still got another 3 weeks to go until our big day
People asking if they can wear their wedding dress to your wedding.... NO!!!
People sticking their noses in and wanting an opinion when it's none of their business 🤛
A person assuming they were invited to the whole day and then telling me they didn't want to be on a table near the door.. plus they were also telling me who they should be sat with
In laws demanding the wedding should consist of mainly their friends and family and saying that the bride has too many relatives invited. I was told to cut some aunts and uncles of mine as some of MIL's siblings declined to attend. I was to "even up the numbers". I was also told not to seat my step parents with parents as they would outnumber the parents in law. I gave Parents in law the option of divorcing and finding new partners before the wedding or respecting that I love my step parents too. They declined the option to divorce each other to even it up.
People thinking they have a right to dictate what they think u should be doing and who u should be inviting and not listening to bride and groom!!
At the end of the day ladies these r ur decisions an no1 elses
Sodd wat ppl think invite who want have YOUR weddin ur way!♡
People presuming that they're goin 2 b invited cos I work wiv em. I always say that wiv the exception of work parties, if I don't socialise wiv them outside of work then they ain't coming
Pet peeve was when a "friend" wanted my then 2 yr old to be a bridesmaid yet told me and my partner nothing about the wedding, where reception was or anything then demanded I was in one evening at daughter's bedtime for daughter to try on dress I asked her to come at a more reasonable time the following day, then that on top of us being ignored when asking anything re the wedding etc sounded to me as though she wanted my daughter there but not us, safe to say my child didn't go even after my "friend" bought the dress and we haven't being friends since.
My future mil wants us to invite her father in law's sisters who live in Australia. My h2b has never even met them and the budget isn't huge! Don't see the point inviting them as will probably never see them again and both at least 60 !
Guests wearing white dresses!
People who think their opinions are as important as mine and my partners.
Guests dropping out a few days before or on the day of the wedding after table plans, name places and everything has been made around each individual guest. We had 6 guests drop out because they wanted to watch a boxing match (and lied to us and said it was family reasons) we luckily managed to fill the spaces but I had to make the table plan etc again. Then approx 20 evening guests that were catered for didn't turn up because they 'forgot' alot of food went to waste.
I have a few pet peeves!! Number one: there is always someone in the family who thinks the day revolves around them and them alone!
N2: people who ask to be informed of who all is going.., don't think so sunshine, it isn't your day!!
3: invited guests not replying by rsvp date, and eventually receiving it saying they are coming!!!
4: the people who have been invited that don't bother showing up!! That is pure and utter ignorance!!!
5: the guest who wants the photographer to be snapping them at every chance!!
6: the idiot minister who thinks it's acceptable to Tell A Family Member that their child is going to ruin a wedding and to remove that child immediately!!! Yep a minister
Joanne Wilde read some of these 😂😂
I'd love for kids to come, but at £75 per head for a course meal is daft to pay for. So we've had to say no little-ns. Yes children are family. Check the reasons why first. Then offer to pay for your children's meal (that they won't eat) if cash is the answer.
That I get married in just over a week and h2bs sister tells him what my dress looks like
When people say 'oh you HAVE to invite so and so. And if you invite them you have to invite....' I'll invite who I want.
Mobile phones. Wouldn't like the professional photographs coming back of all the guests taking photos on their phones. Enjoy the day and take it all in and put your phones away!! No social media updates until after evening reception when everyone has arrived.
I could go on.....but I won't 🙈.
mobile phones being used during ceremony!
Not sending the RSVP back and then when you get in contact to ask if they are coming they say yes of course like I was meant to know that.
Also evening guest telling you yes and then don't show up do they not know how much it costs you kind of can't wait for them to get married to realise how annoying it is when people say yes then don't show knowing how much you've paid for them.
Guests not responding to invites and everyone has an opinion on everything
Distant family members telling me what they ARE gonna do on MY day
Putting no black or white on your invites and your mum showing you a green and black dress . Mm no mum that has black on it
Bridezillas who want to dictate what everyone can and can't wear and do nothing but moan instead of realising how lucky they are