Help! We're very tight on numbers (bought a package for 70 guests) and a "plan B" guest has just returned her menu choices with two people's worth of food! I haven't invited her +1, I didn't know she had a +1!! It only said her name on the invite. What do I do?? I don't want to upset anyone!
I would tell her that sorry due to tight numbers you are only able to invite her and her plus one will not be able to make it this time. Its your day and people shouldnt presume that they get a plus one. I am sure she will be fine about it. x
I would say I'm sorry who is this other order for and then say we don't have the space free for a plus one that's why we didn't write you had one on invite
Hi tell her that there is no room for a plus one. How has she got a menu to return if you didn't invite her?
Tell her. How rude to assume.
Phone her and ask her if she's filled her card in correctly,because she only has to ick one of 2 options and she's filled in too many
Just explain as you hadn't included a plus one on her invite that they can not be added this late in the planning as your budget is very tight but they could invite them to the evening (if your package allows that) x
Explain that unfortunately while there isn't the room for her plus one at the reception they would be more than welcome to join you all in the evening
You'll just have to be honest! They'll understand.
Tell her she is more than welcome to pay for her 1 herself
If plus ones are invited in evenings just send a 'general message' saying sorry just needed to make it clear that invites are for you only, plus Ines will be invited to our evening so only due to tight budget x
Could it be that she hasn't looked at the choices properly and isn't assuming she can bring a plus one, but has made a silly and innocent mistake? It would be the kind of daft thing I'd do.
Tell them straight that you didn't know they had a partner and it's only people you know that are invited. I don't understand how people can ever assume someone else is invited when their name isn't on the invite!! Rude is an understatement!!
Ask the venue could you have one extra person to save offending anyone call the person first tho make sure they haven't made a mistake
Tell her! I don't understand why people think they can invite extra people. Good luck with the wedding xxx
Hmmm yeah you need to tel her ? Especially you don't know the plus one because it would be weird but also she may presume there's a plus one if she doesn't know anyone else at the do and did it to have company
I had a similar problem!! All I said was, I'll have to let u know about the plus 1, as I hadn't included them in my numbers. They were very understanding! Xx
i would just say i am sorry i didnt know you had a plus one but we on a tight budget and got limited space so we cant invite your plus one but if you like 2 come in the evening with your plus one yous both would be very welcome
Just be honest, ring say you've picked 2 options/which do you want and explain you aren't offering plus ones due to numbers x
Simple named persons only x
As the others have said just say you didn't realise she had a 1 and your on a tight budget maybe suggest her paying for the 1
Proper etiquette states that only people named on the invite are included. E.g. If I got an invite saying Mr & Mrs Smith then that would mean myself & hubby only whereas one addressed to Mr & Mrs Smith & family means the children are invited.
I had to do this twice because people assumed they could bring a plus one. Its very awkward for sure. I text them saying i was so sorry but was on such a tight budget i couldn't ask partners etc than i did not know. Good luck with it x
It is a difficult situation but it is quite rude of your guest to just start inviting every Tom, Dick and Harry! I wouldn't dream of doing that unless offered. You will just have to explain that unfortunately your budget does not stretch to a 1. It may be uncomfortable saying it, but it is not fair on you! Good luck :)
Could you maybe say her plus one can only go to the evening?