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UKbride Member Request 5 Jun 2017

Hi everyone..I had a wedding planner who was suppose to sort all the...

Hi everyone..I had a wedding planner who was suppose to sort all the important bits for me,but she has scammed us (and a few other people)now I have a yr to get everything sorted..any suggestions where to start?my head is all over the place..also any tips to save money as we lost all the money we paid her..have dj venue and wedding breakfast sorted as that was separate x

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Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 5 Jun 2017

Oh no that's awful! I would get your dress next as they can take a while to arrive. You could try looking at ex sample dresses as they are cheeper. Then maybe a photographer, suites and bridesmaid dresses. I would look on the high street or online for the clothes as this should save some cash vs bespoke. Good luck x

Claire Scholes
Claire Scholes 6 Jun 2017

Join this group and report it on this page. Great advice to help with scams and possibly get ur money back etc. Give it a go!!! Xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

There are some very good apps and websites out there which can help you think of the things you need and when you should be looking to do them. I've created a spreadsheet with the cost and the rough times so that I (hopefully) dont forget things. Post above is a good shout and Also think about invites, legal bits to get a marriage licence and rings. Good luck x

Gabrielle Baker
Gabrielle Baker 6 Jun 2017

The most important thing to book is the marriage itself. Make sure you are registered for your notices in your local registrar office or bans if you are marrying at a church. Book your registrar if you are marring at a hotel or other location.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

OK try to be calm and things will come together. First is your dress get some appointments booked and take an honest friend along for support try a shop like WED2BE as you take the dress you try on so no ordering issues .Bridesmaids next but get yours first. I am a retired wedding dress consultant so please feel free to ask anything at all xx jan

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Rachel Potts you organised a beautiful wedding in less than a year. Do you have any tips for this couple? xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Did you have insurance? If so, you may be able to claim, however that is dependant on the policy you have.

Firstly, book your notice of marriage as these can be booked up months in advance and make sure you book your registrar too.

Gabrielle Baker
Gabrielle Baker 6 Jun 2017

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

I would say the dress next as it can take a while to make if not buying off the rack. A photographer also as they book up quickly. In terms of money I'm not sure about how you would get it back but maybe shop around online to get a good idea on prices and put together a budget spreadsheet based on what you have seen to work out how much to save. M&S do cheaper wedding cakes which are lovely and you can buy additional blocks of cake if the cake itself won't feed all your guests. Home Bargains do nice decorations. I'm making my favours out of ice cream tubs I bought from there and filling them with popcorn. Also, my friend didn't really have flowers and saved a lot that way. She had a paper flower bouquet that she bought online and decorated the room with paper lanterns, branches and candles. It looked lovely. Hope you manage to get everything sorted.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

That's not great. I don't know if they also planned your honeymoon, but if so I could help. I'm an independent travel specialist, working with one of the countries largest travel groups, so we're fully ATOL and ABTA protected. You can contact me via my Facebook page, Steve Friend - Brilliant Travel , or email me directly [email protected] travel.co.uk

Gabrielle Baker
Gabrielle Baker 6 Jun 2017

1. Marriage itself (notices/bans registrar)
2. Venues (church, hotel. Evening reception)
3. Brides and grooms outfits
4. Invitations
5. Bridesmaids and groomsmen outfits
6. Photographer
7. Cake
8. Flowers
9. Favors / entertainment
10. Transport

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

Oh no I am So Sorry !!!!!
Big hug (((( ❤️ )))
Will come back on here to help you with useful links to get everything cheap to replace .....
Loads of love Sarah xxxx

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

Here comes a link to get your dress cheaply ...
Hannah Elizabeth bridal at Botley , Southampton is having a Sale ....where dresses are going at £150 ....

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Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

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Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

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Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

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Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

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Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

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Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

Some of the sample sale dresses at Hannah Elizabeth bridal boutique ...

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Don't worry and don't panic! I'm organising mine in 7 months and it's definitely doable. As the girls have said go for dress next...most important thing is venue, your dress, entertainment. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

There is a wedding planner school which hires its students out for free and I think you only pay the school a 100 just to cover something or other.

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

For bridesmaids dresses to discover cheaply on websites that are NOT from China ( always avoid China !! ) are
# Lindy Bop - vintage
# Elsie's Attic - vintage
# Chi Chi clothing

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

For flowers order from website : -
triangle .co .uk
As Way Cheaper
& get students from a floristry school to create your bouquet ....

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

Please let me know what else is outstanding for your wedding needs & I will delve into my useful pack of info ....

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

For Decorating Cheaply have a Look at
The Range items as Beautiful & cheap ,
Also Primark have brought out bits for wedding decorating with ...
Ask friends with roses in their gardens to collect petals for drying for confetti ....
( Actually you have reminded me I need to do this myself to save money !! )

Rachel Harrison
Rachel Harrison 6 Jun 2017

Firstly, download Pinterest. Get separate files for each area you need to sort, find the ideas you like and work on one at a time.
You'll be fine. The important thing is you and your man say I do.
Good luck x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Oh no! So sorry to hear that but don't panic, a year is still plenty of time and you can still make it amazing (my best friend is currently planning hers in less than 6 months)

Not sure where you're based but my wedding planner is in Norfolk is very good and offers partial planning for around £15 hour if you just wanted a few calls / emails to get everything together might be helpful.

If not the posts above are really handy and if you Google wedding timeline it'll give you a rough idea of priorities.
Good luck x

Tracey Whitehouse
Tracey Whitehouse 6 Jun 2017

Oh no how awful for you. I would make sure your wedding is booked and fees paid then get as much help from family and friends as you can. My father in law is doing our pics and we are using friends cars. I got my dress and bridesmaids dresses from eBay, make sure you read feedback before buying, and am doing my own flowers. You'll be ok, just take each thing one at a time. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

If you need any help I've really enjoyed wedding planning and am happy to ping you over a list of everything if it'd help! Just PM me xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Sorry to hear that you've been scammed. If you still need to sort out the invites or any other stationery I make handmade wedding stationery and I'd be grateful happy to provide you with some samples or quotes and will do a discount for you to help out. Email me at [email protected] if you're interested xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Firstly ... see a solicitor ( you can get a free 30mins ) then go to small claims court and issue proceedings against her

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

I've planned my wedding in 4 months. .it can be done..in 7 weeks I've gotten my dress bridesmaids dresses .registrar .reception, catering .music. invites and I'm on to decorations now with help from my family get your bridesmaids and family and friends to help you'll soon have it done. Good luck

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UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

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Lisa Brooks
Lisa Brooks 6 Jun 2017

I am so sorry to hear that you have been scammed.

The first thing i would suggest is that you get in touch with the registrar as a priority as they can book up fast. Mine was already booked for the time i wanted but we were able to get in touch with the venue and arrange a time suitable for all and we did this feb just gone which was a year in advance. if the registrar are already booked its not the end of the world you could see if you can get a registrar from another area to do or if this does not line up you could always have the legal part of the wedding at the registrar's a few days before or after the wedding and get a family friend, family member or anyone else you would like to do the reading at the wedding using any vows you want.

Next I would be looking for a dress. I would highly recommend the lady I bought my dress of. she has a small shop in west yorkshire but also has a website: https://www.eves-wedding-shop.co.uk/ All her dresses are gorgeous and cost under £299. also there is free postage on her dresses. She is a lovely woman who is really helpful.
I really hope you manage to get everything sorted. :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Make list of things that you need to do.

My best tip is less is more and will look more classy and elegant. You don't need to go over the top with table decorations. If you are having favours gorgeous your guest have them put on the table.

Best piece of advice my mum gave me was it was about me and my husband. When get your dress get one that you feel comfortable in. Regarding flowers get what you want and cut back your bridesmaids.... People won't remember what they were carrying.
Get a photographer booked very soon and get the best you can afford because these are memories of your special day. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. As a wedding coordinator it is so upsetting to hear someone doing this. Unfortunately it seems to be more and more common.

My first thought would be to arrange your dress as they can take a while to get. You can make this cheaper by shopping around. Some shops will sell you the sample at a discounted rate.

Photographers can be quite expensive so shop around, have an idea of what you want photo wise. Don't just go with the cheapest, have a look at their work.

If you're into crafts you can create a 'fake' cake out of polystyrene, cover it in icing or wallpaper to make it look how you want then just buy cheap cakes from the supermarket.

YouTube and Pinterest can be very helpful for these ideas.
You don't have to have flowers as centrepieces. Tea lights are lovely and if you have a few scattered around can give a lovely glow to your day.

Tescos do a lovely range of flowers. My mum bought a load the day before her wedding and created a few little hand bouquets at a fraction of the cost of a florist.

Don't stress too much, at the end of the day it is about you and your fiancé celebrating your love. You don't need the most lavish decorations etc to do that.

Good luck xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

If you need help feel free to inbox me am a wedding planner based in hull check my page out that may help you jens wedding planning service i have a lot on there that may help

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

As a wedding planner myself this really upsets me to hear you've been scammed. I never take funds from clients, they always pay the suppliers directly. If you just want some advice and located in Sussex, Hampshire or London please feel free to drop me a line. I'll be able to find some trusted suppliers for you. My email is [email protected] xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

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UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

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Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 6 Jun 2017

I'm so sorry to hear that! How awful! Make sure you get your ceremony booked with the registrars/church and start looking for a photographer as these are the people who may get booked up well in advance. In regards to saving money, try and keep flower costs down by choosing flowers that are in season with the day of your wedding, and maybe look at making your own invitations and favours. To keep costs down I am going to also make my own wedding cake, but you could ask a keen baker within your friends/family that might like to take on the challenge :) I am also going to a boutique for my dress that only seems sample sale dresses to keep that cost down but there are also some lovely wedding & bridemaids dresses available on the high street. Just remember to keep calm and a year is plenty of time to sort everything out and I am sure you will have a wonderful day! Good luck :)

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 6 Jun 2017

Look at a catering college & use students as the cake may work out a lot cheaper ...just ask for 2nd year students with more experience not 1st year ....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

Make a list of everything you still need , eBay is fab for lots of stuff & check or advertise on selling pages on fb for photographer etc xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jun 2017

How terrible. However we have planned our wedding in a year.
If u have close family that want to buy u a gift ask them to help with wedding things. My sister has bought my cake and my other bro and sister have paid for my invites.
Check our groupon for deals on photographers.
And if ur doing favours make ur own. U can buy loads of things cheap on eBay and Amazon. This is also where I bought my bridesmaid dresses and quiz of sparkly shoes.
Good luck!!!! X

Amanda Cosgrove
Amanda Cosgrove 7 Jun 2017

Hi contact your venue and talk to them as they help also write a list of what you have to do x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Jun 2017

I'm a wedding videography and because if your situation would be happy to give you 40% off my sivrr gold or Platinum package. Get in touch and we can chat. I hope it all.comes together.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Jun 2017

Hi Sorry to hear about this. theres some awful people in the world!
If you want someone to talk things through with, help think through budget and help with research send me a message! I loved planning my wedding... would love to be a planner in future actually... did a lot of diy and love to be crafty.
I'd be happy to help and give you a hand, no-one needs this kind of stress around they're wedding.
Good luck!

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