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UKbride Member Request 3 Jun 2017

Hi I hope all of the planning is going well for everyone. I'm looking for...

Hi I hope all of the planning is going well for everyone. I'm looking for some advice. My mum passed away a year and a half ago and it breaks my heart that she's not going to be there. Has anyone got any ideas of how to incorporate her memory/include her in the wedding day. Thank you for any ideas you can give.

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Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 3 Jun 2017

I am sorry for your loss. You could mark out a seat for her during the ceremony. Or could your something old be something of hers? X

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 3 Jun 2017

Hi why not have a framed photo of her :)

Fiona Burton
Fiona Burton 3 Jun 2017

They have bouquet charms that you can put small photos in and attach to your bouquet

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

Maybe a little photo of your mum on ur table framed with something like always with us xx

Lesley-Anne Blackaller
Lesley-Anne Blackaller 3 Jun 2017

My friend had a table with photos of her mum and ones of her and her mum had a few candles flowers and a little plaque with poem on. She also went to her mums grave in between ceremony and dinner/speeches had photos up there xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

Same here. My mum's favourite colour was blue so I had blue Bridesmaids and blue in my broach bouquet with a tiny photo of her incorporated in it. xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

My nan passed away a week before our wedding. On the gift table we had a photo of their wedding day and my husbands grandparents so it wasn't in your face. I wore her eternity ring so I felt her close to me and at the start of our service the vicar lit a candle and said a prayer for her and us. It definitely helped having her part of our day :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

We saved a chair for my mum, with a special rose for her. We also had a nice picture frame of the 3 of us with a very big candle that I lit first thing in the morning and let it burn all day long. It is tough. You'll get through it though xx

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 3 Jun 2017

I am wearing a locket with photo of my Nan. & think of having a nice photo frame with a verse in it... Something like, I know you would be here today if heaven wasnt so far away! Or In honour of those loved ones taken too soon, remembered fondly, treasured always. So glad your here to share our special day..

Tracey Fell
Tracey Fell 3 Jun 2017

There's some lovely decorative wooden blocks for sale on some of the Facebook wedding groups for remembering special people who can't be there or the charms that were mentioned above :) she'll be with you whatever you do :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I make cremation ashes jewellery it's very popular with brides to be and I myself will be wearing something special when my day comes too. If interested my website is lovingmemoriesjewellery.com

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I had a bouquet charm with a photo of my mum in my flowers and I also had a picture on my guest table and a personalised message from me in the candle x

Jennifer Leigh
Jennifer Leigh 3 Jun 2017

Im going to order this i think.
http://www.thelittlekeepsakecompany.com/product/engraved-just-words-heart-locket-bouquet-charm/

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

We are having a table of photos for our loved ones I. E my grandparents and his mum along with a plaque 'we know you would be here today of heaven wasn't so far away' with some fairy lights to light it up

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

We had an empty chair at the ceremony for my mum and I had these charms on my flowers

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Alaska-Lily Morrison
Alaska-Lily Morrison 3 Jun 2017

You can get little charms to go on your flowers which are nice, so you can walk down the aisle with her. Maybe lay a place for her at the table at your wedding breakfast with her photo and a candle? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I have some of my Mam's ashes in a locket I'm wearing. The inscription says Mum, I carry your heart, always in my heart xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

My mum passed away 15yrs ago so wasnt there for our wedding last July. My Fil also passed away a few yrs ago so we both had memory charms. I had mine on my bouquet and my husband had his on the inside of his jacket. We also had a candle at the ceremony and after we were married everyone went outside and our minister said a few words and we release balloons with 'Mother of the bride and father of the groom' on them. It was very emotional but we wanted to include them in our day. My dad also said a few words during his speech about my mum which was very emotional and my husband did also and we raised a few glasses to them both. I know my mum would have wanted me to have the best day and thats what we did. Hope you enjoy your day and your mum will be there watching down and smiling with pride. Good luck x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I'm getting a charm that's going to be tied to my bouquet. There's loads of pages on Facebook that do them but I'm using Charminglee charms

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

i had a photo of my mum on the table as we signed the register. and i had a necklace made by ashes to glass that i wore. she was as close to my heart all day. missed her loads but she was there, good luck or your wedding day and remember she will be looking down on you im sure. xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

Had this of my Dad in my bouquet It was just over 18months from me loosing Dad, he had a seat 'reserved' for him at the ceremony and I bought him a button hole x

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Kirsty Tickle
Kirsty Tickle 3 Jun 2017

Mine and my fiancès daughter died shortly after she was born so we are having an empty chair with her picture on it and the words " you may be in heaven but your still here with us today", Im having a butterfly in my bouqet and as we are having a non religious blessing we are having her put into it. Hope this helps

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I know someone that had a locket necklace around her flower bouquet with a pictures of a loved family member. Small but very sentimental x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

We had photos of my husband's brother on the cake table :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

My mum died 5 yes ago absolutely gutted she won't be at my wedding ,I bought this memory locket on eBay and got it incorporated into my bouquet

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

Both my parents have passed away and I'm getting married on their wedding anniversary. I'm going to have a large picture of them on their wedding day framed and put next to the cake. I'm having my dads identical twin give me away and it will be a very emotional day. x

Holly Marshall-Clarke
Holly Marshall-Clarke 3 Jun 2017

Check out Ashes into Glass x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I lost my dad in December and I'm heartbroken he won't be able to walk me down the aisle in October, I've just gotten this pendant, it holds some of my dads ashes and I now wear it everyday and I shall be wearing it on my wedding day also. My dad was also a massive music fan and we will be playing some of the songs I remember him playing out of his vinyl collection at our reception xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I've just ordered this. Going to have a small table with this on, a miniture boquet of forget-me-nots and a picture of our lost loved ones in frames!
This is ordered from Tappo's workshop. They are discontinued as of tomorrow but they have some lovely memorial stuff on their site! Good luck, and I hope you find what you're looking for

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I missed my dad on my wedding day. I had photo shoe charms so he could walk with me and dance with me xx

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

My dad passed away 18 months ago and he won't be there to walk me down the isle so I'll be having a framed picture of him xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

So sorry for your loss- I had the same worry as yourself so I got a memory locket and placed a picture of my Mum on her wedding day inside it, I used her favourites flowers in my bouquet and I wore my mums pearl earrings as my something old (my aunt and my sister also wore them on their wedding days) x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

My mum had her mum and dad with her on her main table in photo form

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

If she was cremated you can use some of her ashes to make beautiful jewlery. If you could choose a colour she could be your something blue?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

My oh grandma passed away a few years ago and they were really close and so when I do eventually get married I will be having her favourite flower incorporated to any flowers I have as a tribute to her (my oh sister is a florist so it won't cost too much) that is the best way I have found xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I'm sorry for your loss. I've lost both my parents and I've got a beautiful charm/locket that has a pic of them both which my florist is going to attach to my bouquet. We're also having a remembrance table at the reception; again with a photo, and candle

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I had my mum's wedding flowers as a centre piece on our top table. I also had a tiny charm on my bouquet with her photo, and her earrings were a part of my bouquet (I had a brooch bouquet) and I had a sixpence of hers in my shoe :) she passed 2 years before my wedding xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I lost my Grandad 4 years ago and he was like a dad to me, always imagined him walking me down the aisle I am having a Framed photo of him looking dapper on our top table and also a small heart shaped photo frame to hang off my arm so he'll be walking with me by my side xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

I'm having an empty seat at the front of the ceremony for my mother in law and my grandmother with some photos to remember them by

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

Both my parents passed away and as an older bride my daughters got me a locket which had a photo of my mam n dad in, I put the locket in my flowers so they were both with me, I also had my mams brouch pinned to my flowers. I know in my heart they were there with me on my special day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

We lost my husbands dad a week before our wedding suddenly to cancer. I had his photo put on a pin and attached it to a hair clip and wore it along with my grandpa's RAF pin x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

We are lighting a candle for my day who we lost 3 weeks ago

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Jun 2017

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

my mum passed away 3 months b4 my wedding i had a lovely broach with her picture in it on my bouquet i also had her corsage i had ordered her months b4 with a lovely candle burning away next to me on the top table where she would of been sitting was so lovely it didnt upset me when i looked at it, i new she was there on my special day i didnt want any thing with a sign or on the chair like alot of people do as that would of upset me to much so the little touches i did was perfect Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

I get married next week and buried my father last week. The most horrendous time of my life, I can't put into words.
My mum will give me away whilst carrying a picture of my dad in his wedding suit he was going to give me away in. I will also have a locket on my bouquet and shoes with a picture of my dad. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

We are naming tables at our wedding breakfast after loved ones that have passed away.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

we had photos of those that sadly had passed with a sign saying we know you would be here today if heaven wasnt so far away. The vicar also added in a little speech about those who weren'tp there and let us light a candle x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

So sorry for your loss xx I have a bridal memory charm to attach to my bouquet of my dad, I'm also carrying his favourite flowers in my bouquet our celebrant is also going to say something about my dad , hope this helps hun xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

I too have lost my mum and my nan and other family members that I wish could be here to celebrate our wedding. We have got a sign remembering those who can't be with us today. Our photographer is going to incorporate in special moments like next to the cake when we cut it. Hope you find the idea right for you and enjoy your day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

My fiances cousin did this for her wedding its so beautiful x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

Maybe have something personal. Instead of searching for necklaces to go with your dress, why not get a personalised necklace with her face on it and maybe a few words on the back of it? It's very popular atm. Argos can make them for you x

Claire Standen
Claire Standen 4 Jun 2017

Mine passed away 11 years ago so could not be with me, I had a framed photo of her with me, plus on my bouquet I have a photo charm and her wedding ring xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

We wrote words to each other from our little one who didnt make it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

I'm looking to have a bracelet engraved with her writing, my florist also suggested little picture incorporated in my bouquet xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

We left the front row empty in the church on one side and put a sign saying about leaving empty for all the loved ones who couldn't be with us. Had a candle burning at the reception aswell with a memory plaque. The vicar briefly mentioned them as well especially about my mum.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2017

I'm sorry for your loss. My friend had 2 lockets with pictures of her parents who are both deceased on her bouquet and they also had cupcakes with their initials on them with the wedding cake. They also had framed photos of both sets of parents on their wedding days next to the cake. I've also seen candles at other weddings with poems in memory of loved ones no longer here.

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 4 Jun 2017

What about having her engagement/wedding ring incorporated into your wedding ring?

Debra Allen
Debra Allen 4 Jun 2017

I made a memory table at my brothers wedding with flowers a framed picture of our sister and a lit candle xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jun 2017

Hi we lost 2 daughter's and nan so are putting pictures in a frame and using there favourite flowers and colours to incorporate our Angels to our wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Jun 2017

We are having pictures of my partners parents and my sister on the front table during the ceremony and then on the top table at the reception.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Jun 2017

https://www.notonthehighstreet.com/thewoodentoygallery/product/in-loving-memory-personalised-tealight-candle-holder

Donna Chiles
Donna Chiles 10 Jun 2017

I'm In the same position. I'm having a memorial table for my mom and I'm having a pic of her where she should be sitting In the church . X just remember yr mom will always be with you x

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