UKbride Member Request 1 Jun 2017

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{"FB":true,"content":"#MEMBERREQUEST - Is there anyone not having a hen party? My son's (19 and 20) want us to have a hag do so we can all go out together, but my h2b and I don't drink and tbh I don't have many friends (the ones I do have H2b doesn't like)! I don't have any bridesmaids, only a flower girl, so am wondering if it's worth it.\nI'm considering just a meal out then my sons can drink if they want to, but I don't know.\nOpinions??"}

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

We had a hag/sten do with family. All of us went out for the day for a big picnic then later went onto an amazing dessert place and then home for drinks etc. They can work anyway that is best for you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

We're not. My MOH is organising a spa day kind of thing.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 1 Jun 2017

A meal out sounds lovely as does the idea of a spa day or picnic. Why not just make it a day for the 4 of you and do something different and special that you will all enjoy. x

Gemma Belisle
Gemma Belisle 1 Jun 2017

We havent had engagement party or having stag/hen do we are planning alittle family get together few mths before the wedding across at our local pub

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 1 Jun 2017

Do whatever you feel will make you happier. If you want to do something maybe not make it a night of drinking, there are so many other things you can do like afternoon tea, spa day/weekend, activity days etc if you decide to do a joint thing your H2B will have to put up with your friends after all the party is for you as well. On the other hand I think it is perfectly acceptable to not have a hen/hag party if you do not want one :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

I didnt have a hen party but hubby had a stag do. It was agreed when we got engaged we wouldnt have as we have 2 young kids. Lets say best man went against that and he had a stag do. I do feel like i now wish i had do something but cant change ot now x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

Hen/stag parties don't have to be about drinking. It's about celebrating you guys whatever way you and your friends see appropriate. I know a number of people who did joint parties for various reasons.

Kirstie Calvert
Kirstie Calvert 1 Jun 2017

Could all go out for a meal or something to celebrate the upcoming wedding? Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

I'm having a hen do with my mum, sister and niece (18) I'm not a big drink either, what about a spa day or a nice meal out xxx

Jayne Mallinson
Jayne Mallinson 1 Jun 2017

I am not having a hen party. My hubby to be is having two stag dos .. lol. xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

I think this is totally up to you. It's a special celebration, something nice to do with the people that matter to you. If that's your sons then why not do something fun/special with them and H2B as a family? You can still call it a hag without going wild.
If you REALLY wanted to, you could have a nice hen with your girlfriends, and a special family thing with the boys. It's YOUR wedding, do your thing!

Charlotte Wenn
Charlotte Wenn 1 Jun 2017

My h2b is not a drinker either so he is going to have a meal out then having an Xbox gaming session with his friends. It should be about what you both want to do. My sister has arranged my hen but I don't drink either and so she has chosen something different knowing I don't drink

Catriona White
Catriona White 1 Jun 2017

Stop. Ask yourself "what do I want to do?" And do that!

Kate Taylor
Kate Taylor 1 Jun 2017

Me and my fiancé don't want one we've said we will have a weekend away together before the wedding it's our money our day our stresses it's nice to just be together and sit back

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

Nope, i'm not bothering, got enough to organise!! Do whatever feels right for you x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

I didn't have a hen do. I was pregnant up until two months before the wedding anyways, plus I'm the same as you, don't have many friends, don't particularly drink, cringe at the thought of going down the town with an inflatable willy tucked under me arm and slogan t-shirts, it just isn't my thing. I didn't feel as if I missed out at all, do what make you happy

Siobhan Brasier
Siobhan Brasier 1 Jun 2017

My fiancée and I are having a joint hen (two females) and we are doing an activity and then a comedy club and a spa the next day! Do what you like with people you want there :) even if it's just a nice family day out! :) x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Jun 2017

Breakout Liverpool is so much fun and teams of a max of 5 people... something a bit different and to remember!! X

Amy B
Amy B 2 Jun 2017

I think that sounds like a great idea!I might suggest a hag/sten do to my other half as we both want to go to Amsterdam...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Jun 2017

We didn't bother with the traditional hen or stag do's either. I was 39 when I married and my husband 40, even though we had been together 17 years, it just wasn't that important to actually be married hence leaving it so long. We felt we just didn't want to do the hen & stag do thing, despite many requests, we just said no. In the end I went away for a shopping trip with my Mum as she wanted to do that anyway and we called it my hen night and we had a meal and a couple of bottles of wine between us and stayed over in a hotel. My husband resisted entirely and did nothing. Never regretted it. Its what you want that counts

Emma-kirk Russell
Emma-kirk Russell 4 Jun 2017

Have a nice meal with friends and family so at the same time yours boys can have a drink


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