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I'm exactly the same wedding brain constantly and weight loss I know it will be fine but just want it paid as fast as possible!! I feel your pain lol

I'm exactly the same!!! I'm on a 4 month countdown now and panic so much about it. It's a mural to worry.
Try not to worry too much though cos you'll make yourself ill and that's not good. Just have an updated spreadsheet tracking everything and try and pay as much off as early as possible so it's not such a worry!

Iv been saving and putting deposit down then saving up the money to pay putting the money for each item in an envelope( flowers for example) then putting the envelope in a lockage cash box, that what I know I have the money to pass over as the wedding gets closer, this helps with things that don't need paying until the day before etc xx

I'm exactly like that at the moment I get married in April, I just write a list of what needs to be paid important ones first then tick off when paid.

I am exactly the same with 23 days to go. Don't worry too much as you don't want to make yourself ill. I kept track of payments by having a diary and setting reminders on my phone.

The best advice is simply don't buy anything you can't afford. You don't want to start married life with money worries x

Yeah same here, you're not alone! It's daunting, I try not to think about it, payments don't need to be made usually until a month or so before the wedding, if you stick to your saving plans and know you'll have enough then it'll all be fine, just try not to let it stress you too much. I know that's hard but worrying never got anyone anywhere. I'm keeping track of what we owe and when it needs to be paid by with a spreadsheet , that's helped :)

I was exactly the same. I just planned everything out and made sure I had all the dates when payments were due. Things changed during the time so I just readjusted my plans.i prioritised everything so I knew when what and where! It will all work. X

Write everything down so you don't lose track. I had a spreadsheet with what we had already paid and what we still owed, plus I updated what we had saved every month or so. But don't stress yourself out, if you know your budget and what is left to sort then it will all work out good luck and have a perfect wedding day! X

Im glad im not the only one! Xx

Yep same here Iv lost sleep over it almost wished hadn't started but it will work out and be a perfect day as long as I marry my man x

I'm exactly the same. Even though all the money has been saved and all the "balance due" dates have been written on the calendar - it's seriously stressing me out. There's so many different people that need to be paid on different dates that I worry something is going to be overlooked! Good luck xx

I'm exactly the same, my biggest concern is my dress. I'm really regretting going for a strapless dress :( because I'm a bigger girl I'm finding it impossible to find a strapless bra where the wire doesn't dig in to the top of my stomach:( im freaking out about everything:( payments, whether people are gonna be happy, having my friend help me go to the toilet in my dress is giving me nightmares every night :( you're completely not alone in the panicking thing. But I'm just trying to think that as long as we end up married then it's all gonna be ok :)

Same here. Except mine isn't going to work out. I'm gonna walk down the aisle with slug brows and roots because I can't afford to have my hair done. And I'm going to have no underwear the men are going to be naked and we're sleeping on a beach on our honeymoon because we have no hotel. If we can even go on honeymoon because my partner doesn't have a passport. My bridesmaids have no presents neither do my parents and no one will look after my step kids so they're going to be in the bridal suite with us. Is it too late to elope?

You should be enjoying the planning process as your day will go so quickly! Preparing and planning is all part of it! Make the most of it! If you have set an affordable budget and allowed yourselves enough time to pay for things then it's fine x

i'm the same i have 6 months to pay over 6000 pounds worth of bookings! really getting stressed

I'm getting married in November and I'm already getting the panic! I've made a list of the paydays left until then and written something to pay off that month to spread it out. January- flowers, February- musicians etc. That might help x

I am exactly the same. In fact I am having to put some things on credit card as we have had car problems and now mine has broke down. Very very stressed at the moment :(

You've just described me! at least twice a week I'm writing it all out over and over to make sure we can afford it despite the fact I know we can afford it. Have a relaxing bath with candles, bubbles and your favourite music in the evening when you feel stressed. It chill me right out! Xx

Try pay one thing off at a time.. I'm paying all the big things off then leaving little things till last.. Maybe have money tins for each thing..I'm getting married in 5 weeks tomorrow and it's been a struggle but on the last leg now and trying not to worry..it's amazing how things will work out..have a lovely wedding and try not stress xx

Us too xx

We only had 6 months from us setting a date until the actual wedding. Everything was planned and paid on time and it all went perfect. :) don't upset yourself!

No your not the only one andthis status gave me a sense of relief ...6 more paydays till our wedding day and nearly 3 grand to go .. Im fretting feel stressed and down as Ive no spare money to dmeven have a life with ...if I knew it was this bad Id have done it a bit more low key x

Hubby and I were really worried about this too when we got married but honestly you'll be fine, just keep adding little bits to it and you'll slowly but surely chip away at it so when it comes to finalise the payments, it won't be so much. Just take some time to relax in a nice bubble bath or curl up on the sofa with your fiance watch a movie or read a book before you go to bed each night. Take some time to de-stress so you can sleep. It'll all be ok.

Sending you a Big Hug (((( ️ ))))
.....have a look at your list & if you think you have overspent somewhere go & cut somewhere else ..... Remember the day is just about you & your other half marrying ...not all the other extra frills to decorate & impress others .....
Worthwhile not starting married life in debt ....
Love Sarah xx

I haven't even began to stress about paying. I am still stressing about holding our wedding 7000 miles away in a country that can be volatile with the added bonus of the army and warring parents. I feel sick just thinking about it!

You are not alone xx

Same here. I've written everything down, who I need to pay and when and put reminders in my phone. Desperately hoping for a big win on a scratchcard to help pay for everything lol x

Oh your not the only one! I'm stressing with 6 months to go! I need everything organised and making sure we pay enough each month. Its stressing me to the point where i get a little teary sometimes but it will all end up ok cx

Yep.... just under 6 months to go and got to start paying things! We have somehow paid quite a bit already without saving.. as in buying stuff towards wedding instead of saving and paying later... it is daunting but somehow it will have to work out in the end! Just put deposit down for honeymoon.... how we will pay that is another question eek..

I'm the same but I'm getting more chilled as I get closer unusually! Less than 4 months to go

Yep! I get married back end of next year and already worrying! When we booked the wedding we were in a total different position financially. We have now had to take on responsibility of a house and mil to be through no fault of our own. No matter what we have on the day though we will have each other!!

Derek see.........hence why im wanting it done as early as possible!

im the same and my weddings still about 18mth asway my daught had loads dance comps what we have 2 travel 4 pluse a big family 2 but for birthday and christmas i no it will be payed but i still stress xx

I'm the same! I think every bride is as it's such a big amount of payout! But I have a very very comprehensive budget sheet and I keep track of our monthly savings and every few months I look at what we have saved and calculate our predicted savings and make sure it still matches the figure on the screen. This keeps us on track :) you'll be fine and everything will sort itself out. And by the wedding day all the stress will be worth it!!