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UKbride Member Request 18 Jan 2021

Wedding gifts

Can it be perceived as rude to ask people to put money towards the honeymoon- directly to the travel agent?

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Sarah Partington
Sarah Partington 20 Jan 2021

My sister did this, I don’t think it’s rude, however due to the balance for holidays usually due months in advance, most tried contributing too late, a lot chose to give gifts of foreign currency at the wedding.

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

I think I'd find it a bit rude to ask them to pay travel agent directly, it'd be a lot easier for guests to give cash in a card, then you put all cash together and pay travel agent yourself 😊

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

I went to a wedding where they asked for gift vouchers from a travel agent no one seemed to mind

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

No of course not. As usually people give money as a wedding gift for a house or honeymoon. I would have done the same if we chose to have a honeymoon straight after but 2 years on, still havent had a honeymoon but have saved our money wedding gifts until we do 😁

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

There are loads of cute poems on pinterest for nice ways to say 'please give us money instead'.

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

We did this, people paid directly, and we were told who had contributed but not how much, we had an amazing 2 weeks in Cancun all inclusive and cost us nothing. 😀

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

We had this wording on our wedding website:

Your presence at our wedding is present enough and we would rather you spend your hard-earned pennies on enjoying our special day with us. However, if you do wish to bestow us with a gift, we would greatly appreciate a little something towards our honeymoon using the link below.

We have arranged a gift list at the following :

Trailfinders, with ID XXXXX. Please visit our page at Trailfinders for more information.

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

We have asked for a donation towards our honeymoon xx

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

We found a poem about the guests presence being our present but if they did want to get us a present, to contribute towards a honeymoon.

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

We did it, but we weren’t going on our full honeymoon for six months after the wedding due to where in the world we were travelling too

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

I know of many that have done this but cash to themself not direct to travel agents theres many poems online etc to word it politely x

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

We did it (although it was money in a card) and then didn’t get an official honeymoon because of covid 🤦‍♀️ I’m actually grateful it was money and nothing else otherwise I could have had a fight on my hands with the travel agent! Just worth thinking about , but no I don’t think it’s rude xx

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

My cousin has a little box to post the money donations in for her honeymoon.. 🙂 xx

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

My husband and I paid for our honeymoon before our wedding and then used the money gifts to pay it back. We went on our honeymoon a day after our wedding in august 2019 x

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

I think it's a brilliant idea 💡 😀

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

Yes

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

Making Memories, Not Just Travel do a honeymoon gift fund when guests can give money towards the honeymoon 😊

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

There’s a website where people can pay for meals and trips for your honeymoon, my friends did it for theirs and added the link into their invites!!!

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

Personally I wouldn’t give money as a gift, but I don’t think it’s rude to ask either!

UKbride Member 22 Feb 2021

Direct to the Travel Agent l would say is a yes. IMO. Especially with everything that is going on with travel. Maybe instead ask for money towards the honey moon or Honeymoon extras eg travel money or towards a nice evening

UKbride Member 23 Feb 2021

We did it via virgin as a gift list. We wrote a little poem on a card asking for contributions. Most providers will allow the “gift list” to remain open until after the wedding and refund the balance to you

UKbride Member 24 Feb 2021

I think in this day ‘n age most people already live together and have everything they need and guests prefer to give money instead of duplicated gifts which probably won’t get used.
We have given our guests the choice of cash or direct payment to Virgin, as they have set up a gift account for us and they convert any extra donations into currency for us to spend. We put a little poem in with the invitation and our guests are fine with it.

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