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UKbride Member Request 8 Jul 2020

So my wedding was meant to be in April but has been postponed for the...

So my wedding was meant to be in April but has been postponed for the following April like many others. Now I've got longer to wait, I keep thinking about my wedding dress and whether it is the right one. I keep having doubts about it and find myself looking at other dresses. My dress is all paid for and is waiting at my mums but I cant help thinking it's not the right one anymore. Does anyone else feel this way? Has anyone ever had their dress and changed their mind about it?

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UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I am in the exact same position. My wedding is next May and I wonder if I should change mine 😔

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Yep and I bought a new one. No point dwelling and doubting. Its your one day. Splash out. Just try and sell the other x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Me too. Mine is next May. I havent seen my wedding dress since February and I'm having doubts aswell

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Yip I’m the exact same, my wedding was supposed to be April then I changed it to August n now it’s cancelled again and I’m now getting married in Cyprus next June, so still another year to go n I’m having doubts x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Yip, ive had 3 dresses so far n keep changing my mind

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I feel the same. My dress is at my motherinlaws. I was meant to get married in May now postponed to May 2021.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I bought my dress as soon as I got engaged which was 4 years ago now 🤦🏻‍♀️ was meant to be getting married this April but of course due to Covid it was postponed till next year. I still absolutely love it and can't wait to wear it. If you don't feel the same maybe it wasn't the right dress. A friend of mine got two wedding dresses as she was pushed into getting the first one and didn't really like it. Go with your gut. If you haven't tried it on in a while maybe just try it on again and see if you get that feeling x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Katherine Freeman At least it’s not just us!

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I changed my dress a month before as I knew in my heart it was 100% the one then I saw the other and I just knew

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I went and bought a new dress last weekend. So know exactly what you mean. Got my old dress out to put it for sale and knew instantly I'd make the right decision to change my dress. Try your original dress on, then go and look at others. If another gives you more feels then you know your original dress isnt the one. If the new dresses give you less feels then you know your original dress is the right one 🙂 x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Yes! I had this. It was also stored at my mums. I went ad tried it back on with shoes and accessories, realised I loved it still and it was the right one xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I brought my dress 2 years before i got married and kept having doubts like your self. I then went on to buy another dress and never looked back my wedding has also veen postponed until next year but i know 100% i definitely have the right dress this time.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

My H2B proposed May 2019 and I hoped to tie the knot by the end of 2019 however the universe had other plans for us... our finances took a hit and I had to come to terms with waiting until we're back on our feet. But in February a local bridal store was selling sample dresses at prices which couldn't be ignored. So I made an appointment with my minimal budget and found my fave dress ever! And a very close 2nd which was a third of the price of my fave one! Bought the cheaper one because I should! 2 weeks later I made a call to ask if I could exchange.... her words were.... I knew you'd be back! You just glowed in this dress!
Now just waiting to set a date while my grandma looks after my dress for me....
You know if it's the one!

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Laura Hutchinson this is so us! From the looks of it everyone else is the same! Good luck to you all on your big days!! Xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Try it on. You might fall in love again

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I feel like this! I got my dress in 2018 and was meant to get married in a few weeks but have postponed to next July. I've tried it on and it does look lovely but I noticed it scratchy under the arms because of the beading and don't want that to bother me all day. Not sure if I can be bothered having to sell the old one and then look for another! X

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I only had three months to prepare for my weddings and I still had the exact same thoughts 😂

A week before I was online hunting for different dresses. Didnt see anything I liked more... I wore the dress I origanally picked and loved it.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Yes! I feel exactly the same. Mines at my parents house so haven’t been able to access it when my biggest doubts have happened during lockdown. My weddings rearranged for next March so considering buying another if I can find 1 I like 🙈😂 x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I brought my wedding dress last July 2019 and was suppose to be getting married this July 2020..and now postponed until next April 2021 🙈I’m not sure either! Wish I didn’t rush into it! 🙈

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

My advice would be to try it on again, my wedding wasn’t postponed but I had these thoughts.

Once I put it on again, it reminded me why I fell in love with it xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I was meant to get married in April and we are now getting married in 4 weeks! I had a dress fitting this week (it was postponed as we went into lockdown) , and I was worried I wouldn't like my dress anymore, but once I had it back on again I know its still the one! Remember you loved it when you bought it for a reason. Why don't you go and try it on at your mums and see how you feel once it's back on you xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I'd say go and try some others on. This will either eliminate styles you think may be the one, and confirm your dress is right. Or it will make you realise there's something else out there for you. Chances are, it's all the uncertainty and upheaval you're feeling that's confusing you.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I felt the same, got married 2 years ago and a month before was really questioning if I'd picked the right one. My wedding picks look fab but I still feel I should of looked for a different dress. My advice... if your questioning your dress have a look around and try some on (as soon as lockdown allows) this will either make you feel like yes you made the right choice or perhaps another would do x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Me I’m totally with you on this one iv booked myself into a wedding shop in Milton Keynes in January to try others iv waited so long for this wedding I’m going all out bling at 58 rather than plain because of my age x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

My wedding was meant to be 7th May, we have now decided to go the the registry office in October.
After all the stress of cancelling the day I could no longer look at my dress anymore. I've now decided to seel it and bought a new one from Needle & Thread and its absolutely stunning. I didn't want to be unhappy on the day, so I did what was best for me x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I got married 3 years ago and I still question if I chose the right dress 😂 it was completely different to what I originally wanted so I think that could be why but everyone says my dress was perfect and when I occasionally go and have a look at it I remember why I loved it so much. If you're quite an indecisive person like me, it'll probably stay at the back of your mind but honestly when I think back on my wedding, I don't care about any of the stuff that I worried about/stressed over in the run up, I remember marrying the best guy I've ever known, dancing with my friends until the venue closed and almost destroying my cake because I didn't know there was cardboard inserts under each tier 😂
Maybe try your dress on with a full face of makeup so you can get a proper feel for how you'll look on the day.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I bought a dress a month after I got engaged.....I loved it but then as time went on I was having a lot of doubts, so I went back to the shop and cos my new dress was more expensive than the one I bought, luckily no alterations had been done I put the money I had already paid over to my new dress!!
I glad I went back cos I wouldn’t of been happy at all if I had kept the 1st dress!! Listen to your gut x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

You should try it on again and see how you feel xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I’m exactly the same! Should be getting married next month but postponed to August 2021. I still love my dress overall but I keep thinking about making changes to it. It doesn’t help I got talked into buying a size up from the sample I tried on even though it was only slightly tight. Not only did I pay extra for a bigger size I’ve now got to pay to get it taken in as the size up is way too big!! I have pictures of me in the bigger dress & of course it’s looks awful... watching countess episodes of “Say yes to the dress” isn’t helping either 🤣

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I felt like that and I went back to put it on again and I loved it. I stopped looking at other dresses all together as well. If you can, go back and try it on again.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I'm thinking mine isn't the one either x

Mandy Ralph
Mandy Ralph 9 Jul 2020

I was due to go for a last fitting just before lockdown. I've just had a call to arrange to do this but the more I think about the dress, (and the lockdown weight gain) I just don't like it anymore. We're now supposed to be getting married in October and I'm not sure I can be bothered the excitement has just gone. I'm sure it'll pick up again as we get nearer but I'm panicking about the dress and what to do if I really do hate it as much as I think I do.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I'm feeling the same, keep thinking my partner won't like it and that i should have gone for a different style all together. But i opened the box last week and had another peek and loved it all over again. I just forgot how i felt in it and I'm sure once i have my fitting i will feel exactly how i felt the first time.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Yes! I’m the same was due to get married mid April but rescheduled to early March. I’m nervous that my current dress is too summery and that I’m going to freeze to death. Thinking of going to wed2b and getting a 2nd

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I didn’t buy a dress until wedding was booked I had 11 months to organise a wedding didn’t get it till couple months after found the perfect one and couldn’t wait to wear it if your not sure then maybe it’s not the one try it on again you might fall inlove with it might be because of being postponed xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Nope. Still love mine, it's in my mum's. It was picked last year and I still get emotional looking at it. But I did shop about a bit and I had an idea of what I wanted and the place I went I told them what I was thinking and she brought out a few dresses that didn't completely work. Told her what I liked/didn't like and the 3 dress is the one.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I was the same I went though 3 before I found the right one. And I still love my dress today and weve been married coming up 3 years.

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

I had a huge white dress for my last wedding and worried like mad as it was really expensive, I thought I’d made a mistake until I put it on, it was absolutely perfect 👌🏻

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Just go and try it on again.. you will know x

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Try it on and see how you feel, You might realise that you’re still in love with it once you have it on! Nothing worse than overthinking things, especially at the moment with the added stress of having to rearrange your wedding, I’m sure you’ll look amazing! 😊

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Try it on again, remind yourself why you chose it in the first place xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

Do yourself up, put on the veil (if you're wearing one) do your hair and make up, the whole shebang with your dress on xx

UKbride Member 9 Jul 2020

It’s your very big day, and you have to do what’s right for you, remember you are going to be in the spotlight, and have lots of photos and video, so you need to feel comfortable

UKbride Member 12 Jul 2020

I agree; do your hair and make-up (doesn’t need to be lots or perfect) put the dress on, and then see how you feel.
I was a bit ambivalent when I saw my dress, but once I’d put it on I realised it was perfect.
You need that feeling again and looking for another dress will prevent you feeling it in your current dress 👰🏻
Good luck

UKbride Member 21 Jul 2020

My suggestion? Keep looking and trying on other dresses. But try your own dress on as frequently as possible. If you don't find one you like better or that looks better on you, you've got the right one. If you find one that's more flattering and can afford it, buy the new one. You can sell the first one. You may not be able to get full price for the first one, but anything you get could offset the cost of the new one.
Or, you can donate it....

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