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UKbride Member Request 4 Jun 2020

We were due to get married in April which obviously had to be postponed. We...

We were due to get married in April which obviously had to be postponed. We have rescheduled for March 2021 but just found out I am a few weeks pregnant with our 3rd child - due February 2021. My initial reaction is that I want to try and postpone again - we’ve waited a long time to get married and I want to be able to have a big party and fully enjoy our day and not have to worry about still recovering from the birth/breastfeeding/trying to fit into my dress/organising a wedding with a newborn and 2 other children under 5! My partner thinks I’m crazy but will go along with whatever makes me happy, am I being completely selfish/hormonal/unreasonable?!

21 Comments
UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

You’ve waited this long what’s a few more if , it’s not going to be the wedding you want x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

I wouldn’t get married so soon after having a baby. Postpone again and wait till youngest is slightly older so u can enjoy the actual day x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Congratulations! I agree, postpone a little more. It already sounds like you want to do that so you’ll be worrying all the way up to it. X

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

I hurried mine and had a small ceremony literally 3 weeks before I gave birth - I wish I would have reschedule for a year after birth! Do what feels right for you, it’s a big day which requires a lot of prep, and you should be enjoy everything fully 💗

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

We postponed when I realised i was pregnant, so glad we did, I could enjoy the day so much more and it was lovely having the kiddies there too. They like seeing themselves in the photos now x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Wait a little longer then a lovey yummy mummy on her wedding day xxx

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

It's entirely up to you, we postponed as my son would have been a our 4/5 months, but now he will be almost 2 before we get married. I wanted to be able to enjoy my day, for him to be able to run around with the other little ones and not have to worry about breastfeeding and rushing to lose weight. Do what feels right for you xx

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Def postpone it if you feel that way already x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

If it was me, I would 100% postpone the wedding. I wouldn’t want the added stress of worrying about fitting in the dress, being uncomfortable due to breast feeding. I would rather wait till my baby was a little bit bigger and not breast feeding before I got married as I would want to enjoy my day for what it is 🙂 but that’s just my personal opinion x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

It happened to me and my boy would have only been a month old so I postponed. Best decision ever! Waiting till he was 9months

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Absolutely consider postponing, just maybe when you’re further along. I really don’t want to come across as negative but having recently been in a similar position I took the steps to postpone and make other arrangements. Sadly my little one now won’t be making an appearance and it’s an additional stress now managing dates/ arrangements etc. I truly hope everything is perfect for you xx

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

I definitely would. Congratulations x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

I would consider postponing so that you can enjoy both occassions. Congratulations

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Postpone. I would. Have a day you can really enjoy and look farward too. And have the time to settle into having a new baby for that purpose too. Keep them both separate so you can enjoy them both fully. Congratulations 🎊

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

My baby will be 2 weeks old tomorrow and I can’t imagine having to sort a wedding right now! Having a shower is enough of a challenge 🤣 I would postpone but try and get as much organised whilst pregnant so you can fully enjoy baby when they arrive x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Postpone it for a year on

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Have you thought about just changing it a little bit. Get married when you were going to with just close family then have you reception a few months later when you can wear your wedding dress and be more relaxed. My friend did this and we had an absolute blast x

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

Give yourself time to get to your first scan before making decisions about weddings, pregnancy is tiring and you don’t want to rush into postponing and cancelling again xx

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

You are absolutely not being selfish at all!! You want to feel your absolute best on your day and not have to worry about feeding a newborn and dealing with everything else that comes with recovery. I would postpone by a few months xx

UKbride Member 4 Jun 2020

We were due to get married on 31st July and have had to postpone. I have just had a baby this week; that would have given me 9 weeks to recover and get sorted. I was happy to do that, but now it's actually here I'm so glad we have had to postpone. I had to have an emergency section which means longer recovery time too. Going through a similar situation now I'd definitely postpone! Xx

UKbride Member 5 Jun 2020

We got married when our second was 10 days old. Had a strapless dress which made breastfeeding easier, and we have a 3 year old aswell, i wouldn't change it for the world, our photographer was amazing and it looks a little like we had a mum and baby photoshoot. It is completely up to you and your family, hope everything works out well for you all ❤

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