Wondering if you could put this out on the group please? My partner and I have been engaged nearly 3 years and today we booked our wedding 11th September 2021! Wondering if anyone has any tips for us? What do you wish you had/hadn't done whilst planning? Thank you! X
We got married at 4pm and didn't have a wedding breakfast as I didn't want all that fuss ..... What a shame,my biggest regret is not making a day of it and having that sit down meal x
Take out wedding insurance x
I downloaded the Bridebook app which has helped me with budgeting.
Enjoy the process, don't worry too much about pleasing everyone either x
Book ASAP. We were meant to get married 12th September this year and have just had to postpone to September next year because of covid-19 and the dates are filling up fast x
talk between yourselves a about what you want before telling other people - everyone will have there own input and you will never please everyone so make your own minds up first and be sure x
Don't scrimp on the photographer, I did a lot to keep costs down but I seriously regret not spending more to ensure I had the best photographer I could. We have nice photos but not necessarily what I wanted and there's very few photos of the reception and not one of us cutting the cake.
Dont get married to early in the day, take wedding insurance, while you may need to book dates in, dont start planning too early, enjoy it, dont don anythung that makes you too stressed. It's gone in the blink of an eye xxx
Videographer is a must even though it pushed us on our budget! It’s something I will always cherish.
The biggest thing I would say is over invite the evening guests!! About a third will turn up. It happened at mine and I have seen it at other weddings to! X
List every tiny little thing first before looking at costs etc and work out what are necessities
With all the planning you tend to forget the small things xxx
Make it personal to the two of you and dont worry about what other people think or say you have todo. Its your day enjoy it x
Congratulations! Make plans that you are both happy with. Don’t let other people dictate what you “should” do. Everyone will have an opinion, which is fine, but it’s your day, not theirs. Enjoy the planning, just don’t get railroaded into making decisions you’re not comfortable with. All the best to you both 😀 xx
Congratulations!! Some tips I got given or my own experience. Dont allow others to dictate what you should have, wear, eat etc, its YOURS DAY. Make the decisions together to suit you. Enjoy the planning as much as you can as it flies over. Take people dress shopping who's opinions you trust, take time once you've booked your venue to (once we're able) to go for a meal, stay the night, look at grounds for good photo opportunities. Negotiate and barter where you can. Once you've got your venue, it helped me with my colour scheme to think what colours would work etc (pinterest). I got a little wedding planning book which helped me with planning things, when things should be sent etc and set up a spreadsheet. Get insurance. Take some time out during the day to have a drink or time with your hubby and take it all in, it's TRUE but the day totally flies over. Happy planning 😁
Same day as my wedding x
Make your decisions together a couple! And be firm with other people who wanna change your mind xxx
Discuss what you want on the day have a look at rough prices and set a budget. Then view and book a venue as soon as you can.
We found a venue that did packages so food, DJ and other bits were included which takes some of the stress out of the day
Book things you like as soon as you find them! Don't do anything you don't want to! Enjoy!xx
Set a decent amount of your budget aside for a great wedding photographer. Our pictures are incredible and will always be treasured. It's so important to capture your day correctly.
I started planning mine just before Covid so we actually can’t take out wedding insurance..
Best thing I’ve done is create a spreadsheet with a breakdown of our expenditure and also our savings! I’d also recommend setting a rough budget or you’ll say yes to everything and realise it’s not feasible!
Shop around for quotes for everything. I’ve just ordered someone to print my save the date cards. Asked two different companies for the exact same thing and one came back 3 x the price of the other x
Some people may disappoint you, but it is you and your other halfs day. Plus think on after the wedding aswell, I forgot to think on what I was going to do with my dress, bouquet ect. And the tiny details don't matter, so don't fret on them too much, our wedding was very chilled back nothing overly grand about the décor ect and people love it. With limited funds the main things that were important was the venue and the entertainment (Scottish wedding so had a ceilidh which I would highly recommend!) Next thought was the photographer which we had one for the main part and then friends who likes photography did the rest
Get good wedding insurance 🤦
Make a spreadsheet! Makes it so easy to keep tracking iver your budget and what you have left to pay off x
If you set a budget don't beat yourself up if you go over it. Most people will go over their intended budget set.
It's never too early to start planning. Especially if you're DIYing most of it. If you see something that fits with your theme, buy it.
When dress shopping remember if you're buying from a bridal shop you need to allow a good 8 months at least for it to be ordered and alterations so don't leave it last minute and also don't bring loads of people when you start looking. Too many opinions and you'll feel very overwhelmed.
Never go cheap on a photographer! And if you can have a videographer.
We started shopping for things early (we'd given ourselves just over 2 years to prep) and the amount of people who said "oh it's a bit early" or "it's okay you have loads of time yet", was unreal. Don't let them put you off, we had everything sorted about 3 months before hand even with all the early shopping. It meant we were free to enjoy the build up and have a (relatively) stress free day.
Firstly get wedding insurance then buy yourself a wedding planner book on amazon or eBay, they are great and have different sections for different things each named for you to keep track of.
The one thing we both say is make sure you have snacks in your room at the end of the night! We barely ate our wedding breakfast (too excited) and were starving when we went to bed 😅
Set a budget and stick to it!! Do as much as you can together! x Good luck x
Don’t tell everyone what you are doing.there is always one that will pick your ideas to shreds. If your paying your choice.dont go over board on nick nacks on your table.less is more..and don’t forget to enjoy yourselves.xx
Do what you want to do not what other people want you to do. X
When you look at a dress remember to budget in for alterations and accessories ie shoes jewellery veil tiara that sort of thing xxx
Use the right wording for your photographs. We used funny photographs and meant candid. I also wish more photos had been taken of people while we got ready and of the reception room before it was used to see how our tables looked. We LOVED our photographer but kicked ourselves on our own mistakes.
My biggest bug is the last dance. We expected a couple dance and got one where we were surrounded by everyone in a circle and it so side blinded us we were to shocked to do anything. So main thing make sure your vendors know precisely what you want.
We wish we'd had it filmed x it goes sooo fast x
I regret not having someone video our ceremony. I got a fit of the giggles during and have a few photos, but nothing to see how bad i was lol xx
I planned a budget and worked backwards of everything deducting everything as I bought, even if it was a couple of quid so I knew exactly how much I'd spent even if it technically didn't come out the wedding fund. Husband left it late for his suits and didn't have as much to spend on them cos I'd ploughed through the budget x
Also ridiculous tip but if you wear a necklace, use eyelash glue to stick it to the back of your neck so the clasp doesn't move around and you can't see on pics x
DIY as much as you can - Invites, Save The Dates, Place Names/Table Plan, Guest Book, Favours, etc. It'll save you so much money 💖 also book things as far in advance as you can to give you plenty of time to pay them off. Our wedding is a couple of weeks after yours and we've had everything, from the venue and the photographer down to the violinist for the ceremony, booked for well over a year already. The venue was booked January 2019 x
Personally, do not have too many people, the wedding becomes an exhaustion rather than being your day. You need to have fun, it is your wedding and too many people makes you feel like you need to pay attention to all.
If you can afford one a videographer is amazing memory. Definitely a must.
I did online invites, all my own crafts, and the videographer was soooo much better then the photographer and I love photography, defiantly take your time and it will all come, my husband says I should of been a wedding planner😂