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UKbride Member Request 1 Jun 2020

am i really turning into bridezillar right now as told my bridesmaid if the...

am i really turning into bridezillar right now as told my bridesmaid if the don't like the colour scheme I went for to just don't bother being part of the day baring in mind I did chose a multiway dress so they can wear it how they like

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UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I don’t think you are as that’s the point of a colour scheme,not so everyone can wear whatever colour they want x

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Have they said anything about the colour scheme? Or are you jumping the gun and assuming they wont like it? What is the colour scheme? Personally I think brides in particular get so hung up on minor details and forget that bridesmaids also want to look good and FEEL good for the entire day. I could never imagine forcing a friend to wear something they felt unhappy in just for my own satisfaction but thats just me 🤷‍♀️ consider if a colour scheme something you want to fall out or lose friends over

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I think if your bridesmaids were saying something constructive about your colour scheme because you'd asked (i.e I wouldn't have put my bridesmaids in yellow because they are all fair skinned) then I would take it on board, however if its just a brattish bridesmaid throwing a tantrum because they wouldn't choose that colour then no, its not unreasonable at all. 😊

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I personally to make sure there were no arguments and everyone was happy with what they were wearing gave my bridesmaids colour swatches that I had used in the decorations and £50 towards whatever dress they chose. All my bridesmaids were extremely different and wouldn’t look right in the same dress. I understand that’s why you’ve gone for the multi wear dress but from experience a particular version I had to wear was complicated and unflattering. I felt uncomfortable all day and had lots of near mishaps with side boob poking out of the dress as it didn’t have the proper support a large breasted lady needs.

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Maybe if the shade won't suit them you could look at a compromise, same colour but different shade. My girls were going to be in navy or silver (colour theme of navy, ivory and silver winter as dec 29th). They tried a style on in buttercup yellow, suited them both and they loved it, so I went with it. All I wanted was them to feel happy, comfortable and confident as it shows on the photos if not. Bonus was no guest wore the same colour of them 😀

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Well if it's a multiway dress,surely they could find accessories to darken or lighten it to match their skin tone? I don't think you're being a bridezilla, maybe the wording was harsh but at the end of the day it's your day.

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I like your style! You can be bridezilla it's fine. She has to deal with it!

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I chose a gold mustard colour multiway dress for my bridesmaids as its part of the colour of my wedding invites, bought them a bangle each and hair accessories to match the dress, they were happy with my choice of colour, and I'm lucky to have such an understanding friends /bridesmaids. Hope you get to sort out your minor worries as it is very stressful planning a wedding. Happy planning. 😊

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Also my bridesmaids were told they were wearing ivory... they did get to pick a style though as I had two at a size 8 and very tall, 1 size 16, big busted and 5ft tall and a young girl... the dresses didn't suit all body types, so they picked their own style x

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

My Bridesmaids are the ones wearing their dress all day so I wanted to make sure they felt comfortable in the outfit I chose, some people just don't suit certain colours and the girls I care most about being unhappy would ruin my day more than the colour of a dress would, but it depends where your priorities lie

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

They don’t get a say in the colour, but they can speak up if the fit is uncomfortable. You’ve chosen multiway dresses so comfort shouldn’t be an issue. Without knowing who said what it’s hard to know if you were being a bridezilla or not, this could have been something you’ve had to go over time and time again or they were being rude and you’d finally snapped and that’s understandable, but if you said that at the first grumble you may have been a bridezilla. It’s impossible for people on the outside to know.

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Its right that you pick the colour! It's your wedding, your theme and your day!

Surely if they want to be part of the day they would wear whatever, especially its its a multi dress!!

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I don't think you're being a bridezilla. It's your wedding, not theirs. If they can't be happy for you and help you then maybe they shouldn't be there

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Don’t have bridesmaids.... the end, I’m not . 🤟🤣

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Good. It’s your day your choices. Take it or leave it!

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

I was going to go with coral dresses but one bridesmaid turned around and said I won't be seen dead in the colour... So changed the dresses to mint green instead. As both colours is what me and my partner chose.

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Iv sacked all my bridesmaids..😂😂

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Its just for a day and it's your day, so I agree if they don't like it they can do one. I wonder how they would feel if the shoe where on the other foot and it was their wedding 🤷‍♀️

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

If you're paying for their dresses it's your say ideally in agreement. If they are paying towards it you need to agree a colour/ style you both like. You cant expect them to pay for something theyd never wear again

UKbride Member 2 Jun 2020

Your day your choice .I wouldn’t let mine pick the colour I have been having the same argument with my MIL I want Yellow which all but 1 girl is happy with she wants Purple. But it’s my wedding even my H2B said if she doesn’t want to wear Yellow then she’s not a braidsmaid and it’s his sister.

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