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UKbride Member Request 30 May 2020

anyone getting annoyed when one bridesmaid wont wear what u like or just me...

anyone getting annoyed when one bridesmaid wont wear what u like or just me and feel like telling them to not be one

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UKbride Member 31 May 2020

My bridesmaid all. Have different styles. So 1 don't like 1 n others don't like 1. Nightmare. So I decided to be bridezilla on them lol. Xx

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

Nope, I'm only having one bridesmaid for that very reason & I let her choose the style she liked & suited her best!

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I let mine pick a style to suit body shape etc but they had to have cream x

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I just chose the dress and told them what they were wearing and cause they want me to have the best wedding, no ones complained

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

But my sister in law had pink and I wore what she picked, we had some input but at the end of the day she chose what she wanted x

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

Its your big day not theirs.. they should wear what u would like to make u happy your bridesmaids are to support and help make your day special and happy.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I must be lucky. I have 8 bridesmaids and everyone said we will wear whatever you want us to wear, we don’t mind. I chose 3 different styles, asked who liked which the best, turned out 2 styles were the fave so I bought those in 3 different colours and all happy. The only requirement from most was something flowing to go over the stomach, which was easy.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I took my bridesmaids to David's Bridal for dresses. I chose burgundy as the colour (as it's part of our scheme) and said I wanted all floor length then let them choose the specific style they wanted 🙂

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

My sister and my daughter couldn’t decide between them but end of the day it was my decision. And they are happy. It’s YOUR day and if they aren’t happy then ask someone else

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I worked with my bridesmaids to pick dresses they liked. I want my bridesmaids to feel happy and confortable on the day and if I'm forking out for nice dresses I want them to be worn more than once.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

It's your day , they should wear what they are told!! Simple if they were your friend they shouldnt complain anyway

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I can understand why you would get annoyed, but trust me it's not worth it. I lost my MOH over dresses, and no dress had even been picked at that stage. This is your day and ultimately it's what you want, but the way I approached it to my 2 remaining bridesmaids was by saying I would never in a million years make someone wear something that they hated and made them feel uncomfortable, but it's my wedding and myself and my fiancé have to like the dresses too, and even if we have to look at a thousand dresses there will be one out there that ticks the box for everyone. We all had an input and found one that everyone is happy with. Don't give up, you can still be flexible, but firm at the same time. Good luck xx

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

You have to think how you’d feel being told what to wear if you didn’t feel comfy or happy,I’d rather everyone was happy ,

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

It can be annoying for sure. However you will have the best day when all the girls feel there best to. Sometimes it's compromise or knowing their needs and picking something accordingly.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

My colour was black for the older bridesmaids and said they can wear their own black dress as I know they were different shapes and wanted them to feel comfortable as everyone has their own black dress. My younger two were in silver

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

i cut the middle man and told them to wear whatever so long as it was bridesmaidy and wasn't matching in colour. (i married a brazilian and their tradition is to have bridesmaids wear different colours.) no fuss, no arguments. :D

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

Precisely why I don't have bridesmaids

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I have 3 bridesmaids of all different body shapes, I’ve decided on a colour but happy for them to chose the design for them, I couldn’t enjoy the day if I knew the 3 people that are closest to me wouldn’t be comfortable in what they are wearing

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

This is why I chose infinity dresses. My three girls were different shapes and sizes so I gave them a dress that could be worn any way they liked at the top 🙂

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

What are you trying to get her to wear?

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I think a bit of give and take is needed on both sides. My 3 bridesmaids were different shapes and sizes. Tried lots of dresses but what fitted and suited one, didnt fit or suit the other! I eventually managed to get the same dress and the same colour, but in different styles.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

My daughter is the fussiest but also the most important. I couldn't walk down the aisle knowing she was self conscious so I let her pick her dress and and going to bling it up a bit. She has picked 3 for the teeny bridesmaids, I have my maid of honour in her 40s and soon to be step daughter who is 27. Not really appropriate for them all to wear the same dress.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I chose two dresses I liked and made them vote on which one they liked best. Winner was the dress they all have to wear no exceptions. I have my two sisters and h2b two sisters so could have got tense but I said I'm paying for the dresses so my final word goes, I chose styles they all agreed looked comfy before hand and left it at that. Hopefully the bridesmaid talks it over with you soon to get to the root of her issue (insecurity over appearance maybe?) and you get this sorted.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I spent ages looking but actually found a dress that suited all 3 bridesmaids and none of them hated it! I had it custom made to their measurements so it fit them perfectly and it was great.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I gave my maids a colour scheme and some suggestions. They have to be comfortable too! Another pro to only having a couple rather than a whole tribe of girls!

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I’ve got two bridesmaids. Before we went into the bridal shops I said to them to tell me what they like and didn’t like. I was prepared to come out with two different dresses in the same colour if needs be. My maid of honour was the most important and had to feel comfortable and I was very lucky that my other bridesmaid was very open to what she had picked and said. It’s not worth losing your bridal party over however try to be as flexible as possible 🙂

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I had seven bridesmaids and I went to Wed2Be for the dresses as they had four different styles to choose from (they now have five). All dresses were the same colour, material and length but each bridesmaid chose the style they liked best. It meant they all got a dress that suited them and I got compliments on the dresses on the day.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

My bridesmaid have paid for there own dresses, therefore they could pick watever they were comfortable in. I wanted them too feel comfortable and happy with wat they were wearing as much as i was with mine xx

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

If your bridesmaids are also you best friends, you should want them to be comfortable and happy in the outfit they will be wearing for the full day. If my bridesmaids ever said they didn't like a dress or didn't feel comfortable or attractive in it, I wouldn't make then wear it as their life long friendship is worth alot more than making sure dresses match.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I would be annoyed . If she’s being difficult and just disagreeing because she wants too then tell her she can suck it up or not be in the wedding party or talk to her and find out why she doesn’t like the dress and maybe work with her to find a happy medium

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I am very lucky I have 8 bridesmaid aged 18 to 3 and 7 are wearing the same dress only my flower girl is wearing different

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

No, I personally will be asking my bridesmaids what they feel comfortable wearing. There will be a colour scheme of course but the style and shade will be down to them and what suits them individually as we are all different. X

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I think that your bridesmaids should wear what you ask to a point as it is your day. If it is just they think they look better in something else then I would politely remind them it’s you day and you understand if it doesn’t work for them and they’d kike to stand down. That said however if you have a bridesmaid who is a larger lady (as I do) then I think it’s really important that the dress choice is something they are comfortable in. I got my dresses from Wed2Be as they have lots of styles but can have them all the same colour. 3 of my bridesmaids looked great in one style as they are larger, my tall and slim bridesmaid liked another style but went with the same as the others as it’s what I wanted.

Good luck not an easy situation

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I told my bridesmaids to buy their own dresses as I wanted them to be comfortable and wear them again. I have 4 and they are all different shapes and sizes so no 1 dress was going to suit all of them. The only stipulation I made was long and purple and they were fine with that. They then sent me pics of them in the dresses they had each chosen and I loved them!

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I just tried to pick a dress I knew theu could wear again 😁 it happened to be short as all of my brisdesmaids have gorgeous figures, if it were me I would have preferred a long dress, and if anyone asked for this or arms covered, not tight on stomach, I would have said yes of course. Nobody wants their best friends to feel uncomfortable all day!

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I'm having my bridesmaids to wear the same colour dress but different type as one type wouldn't fit all. At the end of the day, they are my closest friends and I want them comfortable at my wedding.

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

Michelle Charlton ha ha ha sound familiar!!!!!! Ha ha ha

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

My opinion is not traditional at all on this. I had a really big issue of basically turning my friends into my lil minions, they get a say in what they wear, they get a say in hair and make up, no maid of honour as I wont rank them and they dont have to do anything they dont want to. I think it's important to respect your friends for who they are rather than worry about your day looking perfect. But I'm also aware this is not a traditional opinion, not trying to shame anyone it's just how I see it

UKbride Member 31 May 2020

I sent them a couple choices I liked and asked their opinions, they liked both but chose the one I liked best anyway and it was easy. I chose their hair, they like it. I chose their make up, they like it. The goal is to make your friends look and feel beautiful and choose things that compliment their looks and colouring. The only thing I needed from them is to wear the colour I’ve chosen for our theme which happens to look gorgeous on blondes anyway so it was the least stressful bit of all the planning. They are going to look lovely 🙂

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Have I got this all wrong? We were going to get married this year but it’s now postponed until next year - the most important thing is everyone is happy and healthy surely? While I want our wedding to be perfect, I would never want anyone else not to feel comfortable

UKbride Member 1 Jun 2020

Good luck to all the future husbands that are saying the bridesmaids should wear what they’re told 🤞

UKbride Member 16 Jun 2020

I’ve asked my ladies to basically stay within my colour scheme (sage, blush and grey) but they can have whatever style of dress/jumpsuit/play suit they want providing it ain’t showing bum foof or loads of boob xxx

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