what do i do my mother in law to be wants us to haave the colour she wants which is purple when all i want is rose gold but feel sorry as my poor other half is stuck in the middle of us and if i say out wrong she goes funny with me and wont answer my txts or message and im made out to be the bad one with the way she is i dont no what to do any suggestions
It's you and your partners wedding, you pick what you want not her 🤔
Your wedding don't have purple x
It's your wedding, have whatever you want x
It's your wedding so it's ultimately down to you and hubs.
If you want to make her feel like you've taken it in to consideration, use it as the colour for your hen party.
It's yours and and partners wedding!!!
It’s your wedding, not hers and your partner should grow a backbone and tell her that! after all he’s marrying you NOT her.
Its your wedding pick what you want xx
It’s your wedding. Do what you want because hopefully you won’t be doing it again. Very childish behaviour from the mother in law. X
Tell her she doesn't have to be involved in the day if she doesn't like what you have chosen. Seems like shes very interfering and rude. If she loves purple that much tell her to wear that colour on the day. You need to voice your opinions to your h2b as if she knows he wants to please her she will come between the marriage. Good luck and stick your ground 😊
Oh honey I feel for u but as a bride to be this is ur day and ur grooms day no one else’s it’s ur big day u decided on everything if she ignores u then let her if she wants purple I would tell her am not having purple at my wedding this is the colour theme and am sticking to it if it bothers u that much am willing for u mother in law to be can wear purple
Stick to ur ground hun it’s ur wedding not hers xx
It's your day and your colour scheme has nothing to do with anyone but you and your partner xxx
Its your day its your choice. X
Sod her it's your wedding not hers!
your wedding your decision. is she paying for it? if she isn't do what the hell you like!!
It’s your wedding!!
Put your foot down now or she Will make your life hell like my mil did she wouldn't come to our wedding , sadly she passed away 2months before the wedding . Your day have it your way tell her purple was in about 4 years ago😆
tell him to grow a pair and tell her no!! x
Find out the reason she wants purple, with their generation there is probably a sentimental reason behind it and then maybe you could incorporate purple somewhere for her eyes only. Something as small as a purple bow, or purple confetti, literally the smallest thing. But generally it is your wedding day and though colours don't matter when it comes to your Vows, your husband should not feel 'in the middle' he's marrying you, not her. And by marrying you he should certainly be showing his support towards you. Tell him to cut the apron strings
Tell her “whilst your input is appreciated, I only plan on getting married once so really want to make it as perfect as possible. This includes the colour scheme being how I envisioned”
Well it's not her wedding it's yours 🙈 if you dont want to upset her why dont you try and incorporate purple somewhere? Flowers, decor etc? X
Go with your choice
Your wedding, your colours. Maybe she could wear purple or give her a purple button hole or corsage?
Here’s the thing, if you cave and give your mother in law what she wants and don’t do what you want then you’ll regret it. It is your and your fiancés day, it should be what you guys want it to be so when you’re looking back on photos in years to come you’re not thinking “I wish we had done what we wanted and not tried to please everyone else” x
Its your wedding plain and simple, she had her wedding, its your turn now x
It's yours and your partners day. The desicions should be made by you. Yes vaule her opinion and consider some of her ideas they might be great but you have the final say as to what you want xxx
My MIL wanted certain things at my wedding she came with us to the reception venue (her and my FIL went halves on it) when they were asking me and my hubby certain things she kept saying oww I would have that and lucky for me my hubby said no I do t like that as well as me we compromised on a few things. Tell her she can have a purple MOTG outfit xx
Who’s getting married u or her! Just tell her u ain’t having purple n that’s that. She either likes it or lumps it ain’t it x
Everyone is saying the same, as hard as it is you have to tell her it's your day, it's a one off for you & hubby to be and at the minute with all the coronavirus stopping weddings surely she would be more understanding. I've had people screwing their faces at things, input their opinions but ive gone with what we wanted & to be honest if she or anyone else wants to control YOUR big day politely tell them to do one. Good luck xx
This day is yours and your partners. She’s had her wedding day. It’s hard when you want to please people especially the mother in law but you won’t please everyone. I can’t even understand why she thinks her place to add this input without being rude. There are things that are really helpful and she can be apart of but choosing the colour is crazy. Why not suggest she gets a nice purple outfit for herself for the day. Do what makes you happy you don’t want to look back on your photos and day and think I wish I went for rose gold. Xx
My mother in law ended up not coming to my wedding cos I wouldn't have the things she wanted!
Her behaviour is manipulation plain and simple. You need to stand your ground, you don't have to be rude about it and if she reacts with not talking to you I suggest your other half pick up the communication with her.
Maybe stop consulting her and just do all your own planning. It's your wedding, if you don't feel you can compromise on certain things then try to keep the planning between you and your husband and anyone else who is supportive and co-operative.
Your wedding so it’s you and hubby chive she’s had her day
Let her get funny I bet she wouldn’t have wanted anyone telling her what to do x
Your wedding your decisions.
Count yourself lucky. My MIL hates me and turned up to our wedding in white lol. X
Its your wedding not hers, simple
No way! Tell her to renew her vows/get married and have purple! As for YOUR wedding the only person u should be agreeing the colour theme with is your H2B. Like planning a wedding isn't stressful enough xx
Tell her you're having rosegold and if she doesn't like that colour she doesn't have to come to the wedding 😂
Rose gold and lilac look really nice together or like someone else said why don’t you let her have a purple corsage xx
Tell her if she wants a purple themed wedding then she can get married and have purple at her wedding. Its your wedding not hers. Have the stuff you want. If she doesn't like it tough luck.
It's yours and your partners wedding, not hers. If you want rose gold, then have rose gold. If she doesn't like it and wants to fall out with you and ignore you because you don't do what she says then that's on her, it's her problem. Don't give into her and have your wedding her way because she throws a tantrum.
Have rose gold and tell her to back off
Er?!? It’s yours & partners decision not the mother in-laws.
You and your partner's day, not hers. Tell her politely that your colour is rose gold
She’s sounds like a right pain , all I can say if I’m assuming she’s had her day and she choose what she wanted, this is yours and your fiancé day it’s your choice it’s very self of her to act like that and no offence but my partner wouldn’t feel in the middle he would life at his mum tell her to sort herself out it’s our choice and plus I’m guessing your paying for it just your husband to be and you have got to be straight with her x
Sod her! It’s your wedding not hers! If my MIL tried to tell me what colours to have I’d be buying her the WORST peach dress I could find with the most frills and make her wear it just to be a git! #monsterinlaw
Compromise give her purple accessories ? If she dont like that put your foot down
It’s your day. She hasn’t got a say. You and your H2B need to agree together what you both want for your special day together
Don’t invite her to the wedding 🤷🏻♀️
🤣🤣 Whose wedding is it??
I love my MIL to be but like hell would I let her be like this about mine and my partners day. It is your day and tbh if she was funny with me like you say I would just ignore her and let her get on with it she would soon get over it. Please don’t let her change what you want to suit her you will regret it later down the line and your partner should ask his mum to but out of it tbh I know mine would. It’s a day as a bride we spend ages planning how we want it not for someone else to come in a try and dictate their choices and as a women she should really know better x
My colour wasn't up for discussion with anyone, I decided on red and told everyone that was my colour. I promise lots of people will want you to have all sorts at your wedding, and they probably won't remember a lot of the details on the day, but you will. It's a lot of money and too big a day, to let other people dictate how your day should look and feel. If you give in to the colour it won't stop there, other demands will follow. Your mother in law has had her day, this is yours. Lots of luck
It is your and your partners wedding not your mother in law’s. She is welcome to give advice but you are not obliged to take it. Ultimately decision is yours and your partner’s.
Go rose gold, its your wedding!
It's your wedding not your mother in laws have the colour you want. If you start appeasing people now you'll do it all the way through your wedding planning and you will end up not having the wedding you want. Its about you and your future husband no one else.
Tell her she can feel free to wear purple 🤷🏼♀️😂, it is your day, no one had a say other then me, I think my cake maker had more input then everyone else combined 😂😂😂 x
Your not marrying his mother your marrying your partner. It's your wedding your day have it how you want. I'm sure she will be there regardless xx
Its your wedding
It's your day! Xx
YOUR wedding YOUR choice x
Your day your colour my mother-in-law didn’t like my black brides maid dresses tough titties looked amazing with my red wedding dress for valentines wedding xx
The two colours go beautifully together, perhaps you can include some purple for her, or get her to wear purple? Ultimately it's your day and she needs to respect that xx
Honestly it’s your wedding forget what anyone else wants it’s what YOU want it’s YOUR day ! Xx
I had the same with my sister in law. She made things so difficult for us about when to have the wedding etc and that it was inconvenient for her etc so we made the decision to not invite her! You just have to do what you both want. And don’t think about anyone else. Let yourself be selfish xx
Tell her it’s your wedding and you want rose gold! But she can feel free to wear purple if she wants! 🤣 xx
Not a chance would I let anyone choose the wedding colour, not even the groom!! 😂 Tell her she can wear purple if she likes but it's your wedding. She needs to grow up. Going with her wishes would be something you would always regret I promise you xx
Dont give in to her demands or where will it end in all aspects of your future.
It's your wedding day not hers. Do what you want. x
It's your wedding... have what you want x
I tell her it was my wedding and to have her own of she wants it her way x
It's your wedding, tell her to f**k off!
I wish my MIL would be even the slightest bit interested,not asked a single thing or even how we are feeling due to postponing twice.
Only thing she has said is she might wear a ball gown type dress,she was politely told no xx
Wow it's your and your ohs day. (I'm presuming) she has already had her own special day so she should butt out and be thankful if you want to show and get her involved x
Why is this even a question?? And why is your partner stuck in the middle?? He should be telling his mother to grow up and butt out as it’s none of her business, it’s your wedding not hers, even if she’s putting money towards it that still doesn’t give her any say. Do what you want and I’m sorry but let her be a child, if she ignores you so what, just don’t message her. She’s the one in the wrong.
It's your wedding. Not hers. You have what you want. Don't be guilt tripped into having something you don't want. X
I told many family members to crank their neck in. MY wedding. I am paying for it. You want purple as your coulour, you have purple. Your day.
Oh hell no I wouldn't be standing for that! I would have nipped that in the bud straight away!!
Its your wedding day the only people involved in discussion of colours you and your h2b!! X
Why dont u have rose gold and let her outfit be purple there is a compromise
This shouldn't even be a question yes she is the mother in law but that doesn't give her a right to choose what you have on Your day as it's yours and your partner and she should be happy to be apart of your wonderful day. Don't let anyone bully you into to choosing the wedding they want. This is your day to have it the way yous want it a day you will remember for the rest of your life and it has to be right.
Haha, your wedding your decision!! It’s not up to her and your other half needs to support you! Xx
It's your wedding do what you want
Tell her to have purple at her wedding 🤷🏻♀️
It’s not her wedding day it’s yours! Have what you want not what she wants 🤦🏻♀️ perhaps incorporate it into something else, like purple flowers?
Wear rose gold, let her wear purple!
I'm sorry, and I know this isn't helpful in the slightest but it's the only response I have...
P.S. Good luck telling her to jog on! Xx
Its your wedding not hers
Omg! What a self centered witch. Do not back down. This is YOUR wedding NOT hers. You pick the colour you want and do not let anyone try and dictate your wedding. Stand your ground. I had a similar situation but it was to do with bridesmaids. I have an aunt who from the moment I got engaged and announced who my bridesmaids were... went apeshit. She had this entitled ridiculous opinion thinking her daughter should be on the wedding. I can recall 3 occasions where she has lashed out and the last straw was at a family member's bday party... she was a snake, in for the kill... hugged me making everyone around us think we were having a 'loving' moment when really she was breathing in my ear calling me a bitch and how ive broken her heart etc. I was gobsmacked. Things are settled now... still her daughter isnt on the wedding because it's my wedding and I make the decisions. Ill never forget nor forgive my aunt for what she done, nor will I ever be the same with her. Frankly... i couldnt care less. But never let anyone try and make you feel small- they are owed nothing. It's your day, your choice. Put her in her place.
Have th colour you want and suggest she wears a purple dress x
Your wedding, your rules! 🙂 Have the colour scheme you want x
If she's paying I'd give her a bit of a say but if she's not then you need to tell your partner that's she's upsetting you and it's your (both of you) day not hers
Its YOUR wedding NOT hers. Just don't tell her anything and get on and order the stuff in the colour you want. She really has no say at all x
Nothing to do with your mother in law! Stand up for yourself else it will always be this way 👍🙂
It's your day not hers. My mil told me my colours didn't go so told her she wasn't wearing either of them so doesn't matter
Have the colour you want!
Nod and smile then have what you want as it’s not her wedding nowt she can do on the day if she doesn’t know anything !
She's not your mum, she's his. Tell him to grow a backbone and take part in the conversation. He needs to deal with her, not cower and leave it to you to negotiate.
Tag her in this post let her see the comments it's your day your choices put a bit of purple in the flowers to keep her face straight trust me start as you mean to go on if she ignores you turn the other cheek don't give her your energy she will realise you are not a pushover oh and enjoy your special day mine is November 2021 xxx
She has to have what u tell her if u want rose gold she has to wear it its one day
It’s your wedding! Do what makes you happy. It’s not a day for pleasing other people! Ignoring your texts is just childish
Seriously? It’s your wedding so your colour, she can’t have control over your wedding 🤦♀️
It's your wedding! Tell her to wear a purple dress!
It is easier said than done to tell a mother in law no! I’ve been there and I thought I could just say no but found it difficult especially because you don’t want any bad feelings. What about incorporating a little bit of purple into your rose gold theme......
Is she paying for anything for the wedding? If she is I’d maybe introduce little bits of purple throughout such as in your flowers. If she isn’t paying, do what you want!
It's YOUR wedding not hers so you have YOUR colour x
Just decide on what you want without discussing it, once it’s locked in/ordered or payed for, share the happy news! Any mention of purple just side step it with a confident polite reaction....maybe say ‘yeah I liked the purple but decided to go with rose gold I love it’ then go off on a tangent all excited about how it will look and what you’ve brought! If anyone wants to put a downer on that they’re only going to make themselves look bad! You could even mention if she does again about purple ...that you could help her organise an anniversary or bday party for her!! In purple! 🤣
Easy, have your colour for everything else and let her wear purple x
Pull out the bride card
Nop it's your day you do it how you want to do. Tell if she wants purple she can wear purple.
It's your wedding, no ifs buts or and. YOUR WEDDING
Your wedding hun go with what you want. Dont ever let anyone tell you how to do your day. My hubby did help pick colours x
No way it’s your wedding not hers! She needs to back the hell off! Tell your partner he shouldn’t feel stuck in the middle as it’s your day not hers. She isn’t going to be the bride or the groom so she doesn’t get a say at all. She’s a guest at the end of the day end of
Your wedding your choice. If it causes problems just don't tell her what you're booking or what you've planned. Tell her if she likes purple so much she can wear a purple outfit.
Seriously? I’m sorry to sound harsh but it seems it’s needed...do the brides and grooms on here actually have a tongue in their heads not to mention a mind of their own?? I’d be saying the same thing if this was about something important like arguing over who to invite but I can’t actually believe you and your fiancé are allowing your MIL to dictate the colour scheme of all things! Deal with it like an adult and stand up for yourselves
Tell her to wear purple 😁
... it's your wedding.
Let her have a say now and she will be doing it for the rest of your marriage. Tell your other half to put his big boy pants on and tell his mother to butt out. It’s your day.
It's your day! Ignore her. X
Why are u even asking it ur wedding it nothing to do with her sorry but iid be putting her stright xx
It’s not her wedding. Sack her right off.
Is she paying for your entire wedding? If not, tell her to shove the purple or remarry herself and keep it... Its your day, so go with what you want... And tell your hubby to be to grow some nuts with his mother...
You definitely need to have a discussion with her and your future husband. It is your day and, even if she is contributing, the final decisions should still lie with the two of you and nobody else. Ask her to respect your wishes - your partner should definitely be backing you up on this. Hope you get sorted, it’s an added stress nobody needs when planning a wedding! x
YOUR WEDDING HUN 💕
It's no her wedding you chose what you want xxx
Honestly, i have so many regrets about my wedding and trying to please every1. I got married 4 yrs ago and it does upset me still. I know i cant change the past but i can make the future better, so if and when i renew my vows. It will be my way or no way. So much fall out happens over weddings. Do what makes you and your partner happy. But your partner needs to tell mother to back off, not her wedding so she has no control. If she dont like it then dont come. My inlaws never came to my wedding. Ive met my FIL twice in 8yrs i been with my husband. In 8yrs ive met my MIL 4 times.
As someone who lives wishing id done the things that made me happy, dont let others control you.
You only ever plan to get married once so you should be happy
Use purple for hen night .or try work a way with both colours there is many arears in wedding . The entrance
She can have that at her vow renewal. It's your wedding, do whatever you want.
my son gets married in December and I wouldn't dream of telling my dil to be what colours to have,its their day not mine,how childish of the mil
Umm who is the one getting married you or her. It is your wedding day not hers and your other half should grow a pair and tell her that.
Maybe meet with her face to face and explain that this is your day and you have dreamed about this day for a long time and you want it to be about what you want. I know that she’s not a child but maybe explaining it like she is would tread more carefully instead of building it up and lashing out and being upset for years to come. If she still persists just smile and say that’s how it is! 😊
IRS your big day hun not hers have the colour you want. Your husband to be should agree with you have a lovely wedding xx
The choice is yours and your husband to be should be supportive of you. If you don’t want to cause a fight then you should explain that you appreciate her input but you want Rose Gold and if she wants purple she can wear that in her outfit
Emma do what you want but tell her she can wear purple it is your wedding I a so sorry why do people do that, you don't want any hard feelings xoxo
Put your foot down! Bugger upsetting the other half it's nothing to do with in laws, have what you both want!
Its ur wedding day....NOT HERS.....end of. X
Its ur day!! NOT hers!!
Tell her straight, its your wedding, if she's going to go off like a child then let her don't go running after her
It's yours and your fiance's wedding not your soon to be mother inlaws , she shouldn't get a say on what colours you have or whatever, yh ok she can give you ideas but it's yours and your fiance's choice at end of the day 🙂
Omg why is she even getting involved! It's yours and your fiancé's big day! Tell her thanks for the advice but you will be having what you want! When I got married the ex mother in law basically told me what to do & got the flower girl dresses without my say so! She got way to involved mainly because she was paying for the wedding! 😠I stupidly allowed it! But now me and my fiancé will be having a wedding and it will be me and him arranging and choosing everything together..we both made mistakes in the past with ex families arranging stuff but never again..it should be the bride and grooms say so.
Why don’t you let her wear purple .. then she has her purple. It’s your and your h2b’s day .. not hers. If she wants a purple wedding then tell her to make that her colour for he’s (even if she’s not getting married or is already)
Is there some small way you can add purple to your wedding while keeping the main colour rose gold? You could add accents or light touches of purple in your ceremony flowers for instance, so it’s there but not the dominant colour
Tell her to butt out,if she doesn,t like it then tell her to stay away,your having what you want,your big day
have what you want just say its our wedding & its the colour we want however i can use your advice on then ask her something u dont mind her deciding over that way no arguments x
Cant she just wear a purple dress if she likes it so much? Definitely dont do it if it's not what you want!!
It's your wedding not hers
Tell her if she wants purple to get married 😘😘😘
It's ur day not hers u have wot u want if she doesn't like the outcome she doesnt have to b there simple
Actually, dont marry this guy.
Trust me, he is always gonna make his mother happy and you will be second fiddle....
He is manipulated by mummy and needs to toe the line.....
Your life will be constant hell and when kids come along !!!!! Dont even go there !!!
Whose wedding is this? You're the bride have what you want.