We set our fist date for our wedding, then we had to move it due to the gov moving the bank Holiday. Now we've had to move the second date to next year. I should be married by now. I'm just wondering if anyone else feels how I feel and can offer advice. I have been in tears because I'm not excited for my wedding day anymore. I think its because i feel like its going to be ripped away from me, is this my way of trying to avoid disappointment if it has to be moved yet again. I feel like it's trying to tell me its not meant to be. How are you feeling? What can you suggest
We should be getting married on Friday this week, feel so deflated at the moment. Moved to end of August but cant see it happening x
We are having a date night with practicing our first dance, disco lights. Nice food and have fun x Just remember, still got each other and when it does happen, u will remember how strong u both are to get there and finally say those words that will mean a whole lot more x
Hey please try not to worry. There's so much time between now and the new date for everything to get back to normal and for you to get all the excitement back. And you can get married without all of this stuff hanging over you, it's totally normal how youre feeling but your day will be amazing xxx
I was supposed to get married last Friday. We had steaks for dinner with some booze, danced to our first dance & popped Prosecco on zoom with some family. X
I feel the same hun we ment to be getting married in June 13th but due to this covid19 our venue closed and we was told we had to move our date till next yr as we getting married at venue am just feeling really low at moment as I should of picked my dress up yesterday and knowing our wedding day was only weeks away feel so disappointed ☹️
I’m supposed to be getting married in 86 days and I honestly can’t think about my wedding. I’m grateful that my friends and family are currently safe and well, and I want it to stay that way. But I just can’t think about it. It’s like I’ve put all thoughts about the wedding in a box and locked it away in the back of my mind. I’m not excited about it at all
We should’ve got married April 11th in Jamaica. I’d been planning my dream day for over 2 years and was absolutely devastated. We initially postponed to next year but have now cancelled completely, I can’t take the stress and the not knowing. I’m consoling myself by spending the money on other things and we will look at getting married in the future. Now is not the right time for someone with high anxiety to be planning anything. Good luck xx
That’s exactly me! Booked the 3rd of may they moved the bank holiday, booked the 8th of may coronavirus now booked 18th of September but don’t know if that’s a good idea? Any advice?
We are meant to be getting married on the 29th August but are trying to put a provisional date in just incase it doesn’t go ahead!! I feel so stressed about it all I’ve lost any excitement I had!! I know people are in the same boat my fiancée is so positive but some people aren’t and because more people are negative I’ve become negative. Too may opinions coming at me all day long x
I was supposed to be getting married 11th April, Easter weekend and had to change it to January next year, we spent loads of money on Easter props and was having the wedding all in pastel colours for a spring wedding, we are going to still be sticking with the Easter theme in January but I know how you feel, I feel exactly the same im not excited anymore for my wedding in January, just hope the excitement comes back.
I can't offer any words of wisdom I'm afraid but I can validate what your feeling. I feel it too. 15th May 2020 was meant to be our special day. I keep dreaming of it being ripped away and never getting that day or feeling special.
But it will come :)
Were writing a list of what we want to do on that day including playing some of the lawn games, writing and reading our vowels, dancing to our song and having nice dinner.
Try to celebrate it, when this is all over our family and friends will help us go big.... We will all need it... And it will be the most memorable day because of it in the end. Our special day, the day the world was OK again and we brought togetherness back.
I feel the exact same. Should've got married a few weeks ago and have moved until october, not I'm wondering if that will even go ahead. Scared to get excited x
I am in the same boat, our wedding had to be moved as the government changed the bank holiday and now Covid-19. We are hopeful it will go ahead at the end of September this year. I felt the same that it's become a chore and not a dream anymore until I saw some couples doing a "non-wedding" day. So tomorrow on our meant to be day, we are still going to celebrate by dressing up and video chat on Zoom with the family - a happy hour. Then a meal in the evening.
You will feel positive again, it will take a bit of time but at the moment focus on yourselves. Maybe have a spa at home evening too xx
I was due to get married September this year had to postpone due to virus can’t book yet for next year as the venue is temporarily closed so everything is hanging at the moment for us 🙁
You are not alone . We should be getting married 27th June and I’m dreading that day . My fiancé has been amazing and tried to get me to think of the positives . And at least we have each other. We’re lucky as we’ve manage to keep all our suppliers and are now getting married next June . We had our honeymoon booked to the Maldives and this has been cancelled too . It is meant to be just not this year . At least you know it’s not just you . We’ll all have our amazing day something to look forward to . All our family and friends around us X x
I fully empathise with you lovely. I feel much the same. Especially as this is my second marriage and my absolute happy ever after after an abusive 1st marriage. I finally found soul mate and feel like the world is conspiring against us being happy. Chin up. We will get our days. I promise xx
I feel the same ours was meant to be 6th June and have moved to August this year which all I can do is hope it will go ahead. I don't feel excited though think the same it's like protecting myself in case it doesn't happen. It's hard for all us and I just feel like I've had the rug pulled out from under me and don't know how I should feel anymore xx
Feel the same, 06/06/2020 is meant to be our wedding day but getting no where fast, at the moment we have no wedding day. I’m not even interested in getting married anymore. Considering cancelling the whole thing because I’m literally heart broken over the whole thing.
I understand exactly how you feel. I was supposed to get married Friday 27th March and we postponed to 23rd August this year, but have had to postpone again to next August. Im really sad, but you work so so hard for your wedding and we thought we would rather wait a little longer than not have the wedding we worked so hard for.
On our original wedding day we poured ourselves some prosecco, got all thr family on face timeand cheersed each other at 8pm(which would have been the time of our first dance). We also had everyone send us pics of them cheersing and we are going to make a big collage to honour our original date and will always celebrate what would have been on that day.
It is such a rubbish situation to be in, but do try to look at the positives. No one could have foreseen this, it is not a sign that it isnt meant to be. It is meant to be, but you just have to wait a little longer. Just think you are now a bride for that much longer :) have your time to get your head around it and soon it will get exciting again xx
My wedding was supposed to be in March, we got to 6 days before being told it was still on then it got cancelled. We had hell for two weeks leading up to that point and have since had hell after that. We’ve rearranged to next year but It’s not what either of us wanted it’s more like a burden than anything now
Mine was supise to be 14 june 20 . Postponed till september but its a waiting game all we can do is wAit and hope keep smiling x
I should have got married July last year but postponed to Sept this year due to my dad having cancer but then Thomas cook went bust so when we finally got our money back in January, we booked for 20th April 2020 and that’s now been postponed to April 2021. We’ve been together for 10 years so what’s one more if it keeps my friends and family safe x
Yeah am the same... our wedding date was 26th june 2020, then it was postponed until 10th October now its been put off until next year 😪 am absolutely gutted, I enjoyed arranging & planning our wedding until I had to do it again & again 😭 x
It’s absolutely ok to feel sad about having your day moved it’s heartbreaking. I very much felt the same but I’ve now chosen to think in another way, you are still together, you are safe and well, just because your day to sign a piece of paper has been moved does not devalue your relationship. Count your blessings as so many will be grieving the loss of their loved ones right now, having to move a (let’s face it a materialistic day) is nothing in the grand scheme of things, your love is all that matters. Your wedding day will come. I’ve been waiting 14 years to marry this man and it finally comes around and this happens (and it’s not the first thing to be thrown at us) this will just prove your strength as a couple. If you think this is a sign not to be together I’m afraid that means more about your feelings towards him than anything (I don’t believe the thousands if not millions of people who’s weddings have been postponed means they don’t belong together)
Look at this as more time to do more things for the wedding, to save more, to plan more things you can do, time goes so fast this will all be a terrible blur of a nightmare soon xx
Please remind yourself that with current situation.Things are totally out of your control ...
keep talking to venues & suppliers. Although it's a huge disappointment by waiting it should mean that everyone you love will be there to surround you with love, lots of things for lots of people are being put on hold weddings, lifetime holidays,not seeing newly born grandchildren,not be able to be there when loved one dies or attend the funeral BUT this will pass,we will do all these things again.
You will have amazing weddings
One thing I would say is DONT CANCEL things yourself , this affects your rights on refunds.
I was suppose to be married on the 16th April we postponed until Oct 30th but we are worried we are going to have to move again 😔 it is what it is and I know sooner or later I will marry my best friend have to keep going it will all be worth it in the end ❤️
I had the same issue. We had ours booked for the 04th May 2020, bank holiday was changed which I was guttered about, this meant we lost of 25% of our guests. Then this virus happened and the whole thing was cancelled. Now it’s postponed to next April. Iv cried a lot over the last few days, and found the only way to get through it is to have your own little celebration at home, get all dolled up, get a cake and some bubbly and have a little celebration. It’s so hard to feel excited again, but I’m sure when it comes around again you will feel excited. Don’t be too hard on yourself, we plan these things for so long and put so much effort it, it is heartbreaking, so be kind to yourself x
I was supposed to get married on Saturday (2nd) and obvs it was postponed. We had a ‘non wedding’ celebration and just made the best of it! I was dreading the day to be honest but I ‘mourned’ it in the run up! At the end of the day I think this will make our day even more special as everyone there knows how hard it was for us to have to postpone & so will celebrate even more! Give yourself time xx
Say your vows and exchange rings in your living room and call yourself married. That's what we have done, then as soon as we can, going to make it legal, then when it's all over do the whole ceremony like we had planned, as we have important guests coming from new Zealand. Also you get to say your vows 3 times that way! We call each other husband and wife
I’m due to get married 19th August. I never wanted to get married until I met my Jamie. Planning has been so easy. Got my dress of eBay and it fit perfectly for a fraction of what it should have been. Didn’t know what theme I wanted or colour but everything kept happening like it was meant to be. I felt so lucky that the planning hadn’t stressed me too much. We had to change our original date due to the hotel double booking but I thought that was the only bad thing to happen. I’m now expecting to postpone and as devastated as I am I don’t care anymore. I try not to think about it. I just hope I don’t loose anyone else. My grandad was a lively 92 year old and was supposed to be walking me down the aisle. He passed away in hospital from Covid-19 4 weeks ago. I had to watch the funeral on Facebook alone in my flat as my OH was in work in a shop. I haven’t been able to see my family and couldn’t console my dad as I watched him sat alone crying, socially distanced from his brothers in the church, his wife unable to attend due to numbers.
Please everybody just stay safe and hope that you will not be crossing any guests of your list due to this awful virus xxxx
Totally understand how you feel, we were ment to be getting married on the 23rd this month, obvs it's been postponed untill next year, it sucks but it's not like it's cancelled and next year will be an even bigger celebration!!
OK so I've just postponed my wedding til July next year it is the 4th date I've had first 2 had to cancel cos I got pregnant then booked for August this year and with corona thought it best to change it fingers crossed July 2021 is my actual wedding day!!
Theres are thousands and thousands of brides the world round feeling exactly the same, I read a fantastic wedding blog about how it is perfectly acceptable not only to feel sorry for yourself but to cry as much as you want too and yes there are others with problems and stresses but you shouldnt feel guilty about how you feel
I'm in the same boat! I had my wedding arranged for July 2019 due to work commitments we had to cancel. We rearranged for 8 May 20 in mexico our dream and that's been taken away! We have re-booked mexico for next year. But I feel the same I dont feel excited about my wedding now, told my family I dont even want a hen do anymore. I hope when the time is closer it will start to feel magical again!
I was supposed to be getting married on 17th may now moved to 15th November so hope all will be ok with this date I'm feeling sad and anxious about possibly moving it forward again it's understandable to feel this way as such a big event you're supposed to be looking forward to not worrying about cancellation xx
I'm feeling really heart broken, we were basically given next to no choice when "choosing" another date. Our venue said if we wanted a saturday its either February or the 20th March, we originally had the 13th June. At first it didnt bother me but now I'm seeing all the little things I wont have, warm weather, Daisys in the field green leaves on trees! And this is exactly how I pictured my wedding day :( now I can only imagine it being mild weather at best.
I sympathise. Mine was meant to be 22nd may and we don't even know when we can rebook to as the venue is closed. I felt the same way as you did, that its just not meant to be or I don't deserve to get married. I started to think we just wont get married. The absolute best I can hope for is cold grey January. Great. My dress hasn't even been fitted yet. So I don't feel like its happening any time soon.
I was supposed to have got married 4th April this year, and it got postponed to 17th October. We’ve now moved it back o 24th April next year, as heard so much about weddings going ahead in the autumn but social distancing still going on. We didn’t want the uncertainty of potentially 80% of our guests not coming, so changed it. It has knocked the shine off though, added to we have had to pay the registrars again and will most likely need new bridesmaid dresses(4 in total) , as they had already been altered , and girls are between 12-14years old so still growing. Nightmare really.
Dont worry... we all feel the same! I keep thinking how if things were normal i'd be buzzing because I would have been getting married in only two months, 18th July! I have a diary with all my appointments, dates to get things organised, what I should be doing in the weeks leading up to the wedding etc noted down and the depressing disappointed feeling I get when I flick through it is awful... knowing that none of these exciting appointments are going to happen in the next coming weeks. Ive stopped planning, my dress should arrive in the shop any day now and I'm not excited. Im just done with this year... so fed up of 2020. We do have a backup date for 31st Oct but with social distancing I doubt thatll happen. We also have a date secured for next year... 6th March. I cant be excited for either because I'm in limbo... havent a clue when we are actually getting married. One minute I'm fine, the next I'm really angry... hens/stag, wedding, honeymoon all ruined. You are not alone in these feelings ❤
Ours should have been in 10 days...moved to October now so fingers crossed it will happen then.
My date was supposed to be August 8th this year but me and my partner both made the decision to move it over to next year regardless of whether it may of still gone ahead or not, I’m not sad about it in the slightest as I know I will still marry my one true love be it this year, next year the year after x
I feel the same our wedding was suppose to be on the 9th of April, obviously it was cancelled and we have postponed to November. Our honeymoon to the Dubai and Maldives has also been cancelled. Although everything can be arranged I am no longer excited for our special day and feel like all the money we have spent will now not be worth it. I know I need to get out of this mind frame as I’ll never enjoy the actual day but I am struggling to be positive. I am just glad all my family and friends are currently healthy and I know that is the most important thing. My plan is to put the wedding a side for a few months and I’m hoping if we can go ahead in November I will start getting excited again closer to the time. So glad to know I’m not the only one but sad there’s so many of us going through this awkward time
I was meant to get married last Saturday but have moved the date to November. I’m finding it hard to feel in any way excited because I’m just not sure our new date will go ahead. Saturday was difficult but we made it special xx
I feel so sad for you guys. Please rennet this situation is totally out of your control. It doesn’t mean it’s not meant to be just an awful situation that the world need to get through. Focus on what is in your control a call with your bridesmaids or connecting with friend
I felt the same at first when our wedding date was moved but then I realised our wedding is the day we promise to spend the rest of our lives together, this means we have the rest of our lives to get married, it doesn't stop us being together or the amount of time we have together and I wont let it put all of our other life plans on hold it just delays the day i can stand in front of everyone and declare to the world how much he means to me....hope this thought helps ❤ and on a positive you can put it back to the date you originally wanted now ❤
I was due to get married 06.06.2020 in florida. We have chosen to cancel the whole thing and make a new plan in 6 months or elope so we just get married and dont need to worry about anything else.
My wedding was supposed to be 28th march though we had to postpone also... we set new date to August so we are just waiting to see what happens by then if we have to postpone again then we will .. i was gutted especially on the day i was to get married i cryed all day... you will have your special day and it will be well worth the wait ❤❤ xc
Stay positive and your day will come! We have been engaged nearly 3 years. We had to change venues twice due to them being sold to other company after we had booked with them and could no longer honour our wedding date. Then venue number 3 looking good due to get married 4th jul and now having to postpone to July next year due to covid. Not the best luck but we know we will get there! Just think of it more time to plan be excited and enjoy being engaged xx
I nearly had to cancel my day last year due to illness in some ways I wish I had so I could have enjoyed the run up to the wedding more than feeling in pain. It was a strange day and honeymoon as I was awaiting an operation straight after. Which I was weirdly counting down to more than the wedding. Try to put it to the back of your mind for now you will feel disappointed but it’s better to have something to look forward to in the future. Give yourself something to do to keep occupied during these strange timed.
I've postponed mine from August to next Easter but I feel by then I will just be feeling like I'm going through the motions and I still feel my marriage will begin in August x
I know how u feel I was due to get married on May 30th now postponed until april
I understand I feel the exact same three years planning ur perfect day to get it taken away and am at the stage I just want to get married we were suppose to be getting married on the 20/6/20 but will have to change date but can’t till the venue gets back to us as no one is their with the lockdown , the way am trying to look positive on it is that it will
Make it an even more perfect and better day. Am hoping that I can get a date for the end of year when they get back to me
Have a little fake wedding day, just the two of you, exchange some vows and dance together at home to "your song" have a nice bottle of wine and enjoy each other. It's about the 2 of you, and at least you still have each other, my special day was meant to be 06/06/2020 and is now going to be 08/05/2021. I'm just happy that my relatives are currently well and we still have each other and the dog. Cant wait to make a fantastic day of memories on the 8th, and cant believe I have to wait another year to show everyone my dress, but unfortunately life is sometimes a cruel mistress. Just enjoy the moment and the memories already made - there's still many more to come x
I think it’s a normal reaction to be honest. I was meant to get married on 25th April and I was devastated when we had to cancel. I had no interest in the new date and also considered cancelling the whole thing.
I’m not sure if your day has passed but if not maybe you could still do something nice to mark it? we made a nice cake and had some champagne and said some vows at the time we were meant to get married. Then we had a lovely picnic in the garden. I thought it would be awful but we actually had a wonderful day and once the day had passed I felt a lot better about the new date and am now getting excited again. It means two wedding build ups and maybe you could add some stuff you couldn’t budget for on your new date.
I am obviously still slightly worried next year will go wrong somehow but I think that’s a natural reaction to this situation. I hope you get some excitement back soon xx
My wedding was meant to be this Saturday. I was so angry and upset for weeks after it was cancelled, but we rebooked it for September only for it to be cancelled again because of a venue error! I cried and cried and cried. This is meant to be my wedding week and I'm working (key worker) and I'm working the day I was meant to be saying my vows. I think it's okay for us to be so upset, it is our monumental day that has been messed with again and again. Just try to stay positive for the future date, its all we can do xx
I understand how you feel, but look at it this way: Thousands of people are dying and you're still fit and healthy and with the man that you will spend the rest of your life with. When you eventually get married, it'll be the best day of your life! Chin up, love. 💖
Yep. Due to get married in lake Garda on 24.07.2020 and now having to pick a date from whats left for next year and it’s really put me off. 😥
God has given you second chance 😅
Bless it is soul destroying. Our wedding was supposed to have been 25th April. We have re-booked for late August but it's awful and then you get people making you feel bad because its "just a wedding" and "there is worse stuff happening" which of course, you know there is. Of course, losing people to this horrible disease is absolutely awful and a hell of a lot worse but you are still allowed to feel sad about your wedding being cancelled. I kinda feel the same now. I'm just not excited about it anymore. Just wanna get married and be done with it so nothing can take it away again. Chin up xxx
I shud of been married 4th April but got changed to 11th July looks like it's changing again so depressed xxx
My wedding was supposed to be finishing up as we speak, now it's going to be next as can't do it any sooner due to him being away for work for a while. Impossible to plan just now as we don't when exactly he'll be back. Thankfully our venue and suppliers have been great and we can postpone with everyone no bother. Just gutted as I'm supposed to be married now and yet can't really do any planning to have another date to look forward to.
we where getting married in August . Its been postponed to 2022 when we get married now x