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UKbride Member Request 5 Mar 2020

Seating plan

So I'm trying to write up the seating plan, each table holds 6-8 people. That means having to split up families. Should this be a big deal or would you do your best to sit people where they fill the tables and know at least 1 person on the table? I don't want people to be unsocial because they won't talk to who's on the table.

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UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We sat families together and made tables of 10, I've been to a wedding and been split from my family and it wasnt fun. Better to sit people together so they enjoy your day.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We are mixing people up on our seating but making sure they know at least 1 or 2 people.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We decided to just have uneven seating so some tables have the full 10 some have 6

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We are putting families together. Although I'm also struggling with the seating plan!
Our tables only hold 6 so it's been a pain as some family's have 10 people 🤷‍♀️🤦🤣, good luck. Hope u sort xx

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We mixed our tables so half the table was made up of my side of the family and the other half was from my husband's side, everyone was still sat with someone they knew but they also got to meet the other side of the family, it went down really well

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I didnt bother with a seating plan, people sat where they wanted to x

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We did separate some people but tried to make sure they knew a couple of people on the table. Depending on how the tables are set out, you can have people back to back at another table, so they're easy to talk to.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

It's a social gathering and everyone there for same reason, kids stay with parents but mix everyone up, I'm sure they will all find something to talk about

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We did a seating plan that mixed our families together but on the day my brother in law, partner and daughter decided to move themselves around

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We've just managed to do ours, it's a bloody nightmare, my family are easy and all get along, whereas my OH don't get on, the majority of his friends don't get on with each other, so we've split them all up, they all know at least 2 other people on the table, whether it be family or the fact they'll have been on the stag/hen dos so will know people from them. And to break the ice for people who don't know each other, all our tables are Disney themed so we've put little Disney trivia questions on the back of each name card so they can ask each other.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We done half my side half husbands side so our guest knew some people at the table but also mixed both sides up and this seemed to work well.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I kept families and friends together. I felt forcing people to mix wasn’t as important as everyone having a good time

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We’re not bothering wi a seating plan it’s too much stress lol

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We only had 20 guests at our wedding, including bridesmaids and best man, so we had top table as us and our parents, and then two big tables - one with my family and the bridesmaids on and one with his family and the best man

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We have mixed tables from both families. That way people get to know new people and future events will be easier. After all two families are coming together.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I'd try not to overthink it doll. It's an hour and a half, 2 hours maybe. They can always join up with the people they know after. Just sit them where you think is best!

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

My mate did it by couples. At hers I was with my other half and my family plus 3 people I didn't know

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We sat half and half made sure they at least knew someone but also spoke to others x

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I've done 2 top tables for immediate family then I'm leaving everyone else sit where they choose it's much less if a headache and they will only move about in the evening anyway x

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

Let them sit where they want job done simples

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

My seating plan stressed me out to the point o as enough n just did wot I thought was best. My tables r 8-10 but iv put actual families together n then anyone in couples or singles with ppl they kno or on a table next to other family. Let's face it they will mingle neway so it's only fir a few hrs to eat n speeches n if they rnt rude theyl spj n get to kno the ppl they sit with unless they want to sit awkward. Itl all b fine

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I’ve put couples and friend groups together and then tried to fill in the gap with couples or single people that know someone else on the same table x

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

I have completely mixed everyone up with the point of we are now one big family so get to know each other XD they are all sat next to at least 1 person they know but it really is a huge mix of people.

UKbride Member 5 Mar 2020

We mixed our tables so that both sides of the family could meet and mix. It worked well for us. X

Lizzie Earle
Lizzie Earle 5 Mar 2020

We won't have a seating plan as ours is a micro wedding, but yes make sure people know each other on the table.

UKbride Member 6 Mar 2020

We colour coded people into groups and thought of the tables like cogs - so people sitting on one table would be back to back and “interlock” with people from the same category on one or maybe two tables.

UKbride Member 6 Mar 2020

Really hard isn't it x we are sticking to family tables

UKbride Member 8 Mar 2020

Our seating plan mixed families, but everyone knew at least one or most of the time more than one of the people on the table with them :) eg. I had an aunt and uncle and my five cousins as one family, but I put a few of the cousin's with other extended family they knew so that the tables could be mixed :)

Kimberley Joyce
Kimberley Joyce 8 Mar 2020

I think you should have a few people on each table to know each other for definite otherwise they'll probably feel a bit awkward sitting with people they don't know lol xx

UKbride Member 8 Mar 2020

Table plan working now.... stressful x

UKbride Member 9 Mar 2020

Because not as many people turned up to our wedding as initially invited we had three tables.
One was one family, the second was a near enough all family and the third consisted of my brother, my step daughter and two close friends, thankfully they all kind of knew each other but I couldn’t help but feel bad the whole way through the meal because it didn’t really pan out the way I wanted it to.
In hindsight what I should have done which is what I was planning originally was to have had the guests tables as rectangle tables instead of round and had them in a ‘u shape’ to the top table. Hey ho.... it worked out fine tho, and it was probably just my little ODC and worrying brain that thought it wasn’t okay

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