When I sent out invites we invited one of my relatives to the evening do rather than the whole day, but now we've done the table plan there's space and budget left for them to come to the whole day and i would really like them there. How do I upgrade them without them feeling like an afterthought?
Say it was an error and you’re terribly sorry that they were put on the wrong list etc. Or tell the truth if you think they wouldn’t be offended 🤷🏻♀️
Hi, (insert name) I haven't received your RSVP for the daytime yet, will you be able to make it as I'm finalising the table plan......................you didnt receive a day invite?? Oh my gosh I'm so sorry it must have got lost in the post/printers error. I'll make another one up so you've got all information! 😁
I'd go with Nicola Holt idea that's what I'm going to do xx
Be honest and explain it as it is, no one was an afterthought just you now have the room and they were at the top of your list for a day guest. The people who care about you the most will understand and they are the people who deserve to be there during the day. Hope you have an amazing wedding x
We had to do this a few times due to day N/As and nobody seemed offended or mentioned themselves as an after thought. Most realise it’s impossible to accommodate everyone you love in the day on a budget - just be clear that you weren’t able before but that you’re able to now. If they get offended then they’re not worth having in the day anyway 😂 but anyone who actually loves and values you will understand and likely be chuffed to be there. 😊
Explain that you felt the day wasn't complete without them, So you moved things around and made a space and really hope they are free x
Not going to lie. I wouldn’t give two hoots the reason if I was asked if I wanted to upgrade, I’d be like hell yeah I’ll grab my facinator 🤣🤣
Phone them and be honest. Everyone has a budget and everyone has a limit on numbers. I did this with my cousin and a friend who both ended up coming to the whole day, they were thrilled to be ‘upgraded’ and I was thrilled they came.
I’d be honest and say you had a hard decision to make as you were on a limited restriction for the day but on a closer inspection as your doing the top table you’ve realised you do indeed have extra space and would love to have them there
Nailed it ! 🌷
I'd be blunt & say I'm so thrilled I can upgrade you to a wedding guest ... due to venue constraints I had to have a upgrade list of those people I love to have with me for the day if at all possible ... you were the first person , please say you can join us
I would originally go with Nicola but with other family members going probably just tell the truth, I am sure they would understand xx
I had to do this. And I was honest and said due to some people not being able to make the day then I was able to upgrade them to a day guest. And the four people I did it too were more than happy to be upgraded.
I’ve also been upgraded before. And it was a honour and I bought a new hat for the occasion!! Good luck. Xx
I invited a couple the week before as 2 people dropped out. I just said that there was room now and we would like them to come to the whole thing. I think most people would be happy to come. If they are planning to coming to the evening they will make an effort for the whole day!
I’d say due to a reshuffle we’re now able to invite you to the day
We upgraded a lot of people owing to drop outs, I was honest and said why. Everyone of them was only too happy to come all day instead.
Just tell them exactly that, they will appreciate your honesty and if you tell them that they are the first people you thought of when you had the space and budget to bump someone from the evening they will feel honoured not like an afterthought!
Say u realised u made an error in the invite they got. Wedding chaos...
I would just tell them, you’re now able to invite them all day. People will understand.
The morning of our wedding we had 3 people pull out. My bridesmaid went into labour, meaning another 4 people and one child couldn’t make it.
So my husband phoned people who were coming just to see us come into the church and offered them all day, filling 3 spaces. And my friend pulled in a plus one. Taking another space 😂!!
Id say 'are you free to come all day, ive realised I really want you to be there'
We had someone drop out so we said to our friend that we only invited to the evening ‘hey, we got a bunch of RSVP’s back and some people can’t make it. If you’re free, do you fancy coming all day?’ She was so excited. Honesty is the best policy.
We were honest as well like said above. We explained the circumstances and the guests were more than happy to join us
I would just ring them and tell them that you feel like an idiot but that you've just realised that you sent them an evening invite instead of a day one. And ask them to let you know if they can make the day x
I was just honest and said I was gutted I hadn't been able to invite them to the day to begin with but now I was able to.
Just say you haven't had all the RSVP back and did they get their invite, apologise and blame an error in the mail or something
Just tell them they got the wrong invite!
Dont lie just tell then the truth, that you thought you didnt have enough space but you do have a couple of seats spare and they were first on your list of reserves
Let on you made a mistake and meant to invite them to the whole day lol