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UKbride Member Request 31 Jan 2020

Has anyone had just a small wedding with only inviting...

Has anyone had just a small wedding with only inviting parents,grandparents,bridesmaids,best man and usher? We love the idea of having a small intimate wedding and more of a big get together in the evening with disco etc. But we dont want to upset our family and friends with doing this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Shelby Dodd
Shelby Dodd 2 Feb 2020

Hi! I am having a small wedding, only 15 people at the ceremony! Unfortunately there are a couple of upset family members but they also have to understand that it is your day and you can't please everyone, you'll only stress more if you try. Perhaps invite them to the evening part? After the meal so they can still be part of your special day without too many additional costs?

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Yep we did only 11 of us then party a day later

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Doing this in December. 3 sets of parents (due to divorce) my best Friend and partner, my HTB's best friend and partner and our son.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Were going away with our kids and my partner mum. It's a dream holiday then a party when we get back .

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We have done this. It's just going to be parents and siblings for the ceremony. I just let everyone know right from the off that it's what we want and everyone was good with that. It's your day not theirs

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We are doing 4pm ceremony with close family then disco and buffet for 85 for all to enjoy x do what you want it’s your wedding day x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I did this! I had a small wedding with minimal family and a lunch, then a couple of months later I have a big party and invited everyone.

I kept the first wedding quite quiet so not to offend those I hadn't invited and made a big deal of the second "wedding" we even had vows and had a ceremony, which my twin was able to do as it's not legal. so everyone felt like they had been apart of the day. It was lovely.

Plus 2 outfits! Xx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

My sister did this - still my most favourite wedding!
Initially was just going to be parents and siblings/partners and then a big evening reception. People did call on the back of receiving evening invites and asked about wedding plans. They were told they could attend the wedding but the meal between the ceremony and evening reception was at a local restaurant and they would be required to pay for themselves should they wish. I think she had 30ish there only a small room and it was maxed out. She was 7.5 months pregnant and just didn't want the big thing it was beautiful. I loved it xx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Thats our plans, immediate/close family and best man for the ceremony then an evening do for the rest of the family and friends x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

My uncle did this, he invited his parents one sibling(out of 6) and a couple of friends and they say they don't regret it and it was a lovely, stress free day! X

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

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UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We are doing this on 25.07.2020. There's 30 people that are going to be at our wedding including us and our children.
We have invited loads to the evening, but I wanted a small intimate wedding with just my closes friends and family there then a large party to celebrate 🎉

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Karl Nevett

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I'm only have 28 in day inc me and h2b and then 150 at night. If we upset anyone then we upset people we are doing what we want and what we csn afford we havent invite some aunties and uncles as hardly see them so why should we pay for an expensive meal for them xx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Hi!
We are only having 25 people at our ceremony and then a lunch afterwards. Followed by a big party that evening from 6pm onwards with a buffet for everyone to come 😊 our families understood when we explained what we were doing 😁

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I had a very small wedding.. only 10 people, we just didnt tell anybody and had a party 2 weeks later..

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

That’s our plan & literally leave it for that in the evening to. It’s your day. xx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Not having a lot of people only those close to us ☺️

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

Me and my husband married last year and including the 2 of us we had a total of 8 people at our wedding. It was just what we wanted, with a meal after.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

You’re always going to upset someone, please yourself!

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

I have me, other half our daughter, the parents and siblings and their families. Us 3 and 10 family. Xx

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

There were 11 people at our register office wedding and we just went for a meal afterwards. It was perfect. I have a huge family so would have cost a fortune to invite everyone. No one was upset/offended that they weren't invited, they were just happy for us.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

🙋🏻‍♀️ we did this. We got married on the Friday with family only then on the Saturday night we had a big night out with all our friends x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

We did this. We had a ceremony with our Adult kids, grandkids and my mum. Had a meal then a boat trip, Was 20 of us. Then after our honeymoon had a big party for everyone else. Was great.

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

its your day x

UKbride Member 3 Feb 2020

It's your day, I have done both and enjoyed the intimate wedding so much more .

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

I had only 6 people at our wedding, then 5 months later had a massive reception, it ruffled a few feathers but it's what we wanted, never gonna please everyone 🤷🏻‍♀️

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

Me!! I had 9 people and that included us! My mum, 3 step kids, 1 daughter, husband boss and his wife (she officiated the ceremony as she's a registrar). Best decision EVER!!! One day, we'll have a wedding party and we'll party like it's the year 2000 with everyone around. But our wedding day was fantastic! We got married outside on the bridge of waterfalls and it was raining, so our wedding papers got soked (as everyone else) and we had bubbly and cake 9n a tea hut

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

Ours was only 48, immediately family and close friends. No one really got offended and were happy to be involved in the evening do.

UKbride Member 4 Feb 2020

We are having a small intimate wedding in November just my parents, son his wife and 4 friends, we don't want a big fuss, just the ones that count, that's what counts to us.

UKbride Member 6 Feb 2020

Hello! You can celebrate with people you actually love and still have lots of fun!
From hand-painted portraits of your guests as place cards, personalized welcome notes, to epic gift bags filled with a curated selection of your most favorite locally made goods, it can be easier to bring your vision to life when it's on a smaller scale.😊

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