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UKbride Member Request 23 Nov 2019

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m a maid of honour! Help!

Help! I got engaged just over a year ago and I have been underway planning my wedding and I get married summer 2021. Now I’m worried about my own wedding because my future sister in law is now engaged and I’m her maid of honour. I can’t help but feel I won’t have time for my own wedding. She’s getting married earlier than me(around the time I was planning my own hen do, so that will have to change) I just feel like I’ll be a rubbish maid of honour or I’ll have a rubbish wedding in comparison as she’s get a lot more money than I do... I know it’s not all about money, I’ve cut of things from my dream wedding cause I couldn’t afford them.. now she’s having the stuff I can’t have that I had planned. It’s just awkward and I feel awful!:( I’m probably just writing this to get it off my chest and have a bit of a vent. I’m happy for them and I’m not.. I just feel so weird like there’s too many emotions!

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UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Does she know she’s planning things that you originally had? If she does then it is heartless that she’s using what you still wanted but couldn’t have, if she doesn’t know then think of it as a commonality you both share.
However talk to her that’s your best option x

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

/just do your bit for her, then just concentrate on your wedding I'm sure that you other half and family will support you.x Best if luck.x Chin up.x

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Maybe, if you feel stressed about the 2 weddings and the 2 hen do (cause you'll have hers to plan) just talk to her. If she chose you to be her moh then you guys are close. Go out for drinks and talk to her... it's hard and stressful but that's life itself... so... stop getting in your head and just let it out to her, it'll be more beneficial...

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Me and my bestie are getting married next. Me in May her in September and we are each other’s maid of honour and we have worked it out between both or schedule. We talk to each before anything gets booked. So I would to talk to her and tell her what you are doing when and work out when you can help with hers. It is very difficult especially is one of you have more money but remember it’s about you and your partner, don’t worry about the little thing. Good luck x

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Me and my sister got married 12 weeks apart, we were both each others maid of honour and we both had completely different weddings. But we both had things the other one didn't and it definitely made it more unique to ourselves. All of our guests loved both our days and we had the best day ever. It was nice having someone who understands exactly how you're feeling about things. A wedding is what you make it, as long as you get married and have people who love you there. Nothing else matters at all ♥️ good luck xx

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Stop comparing your weddings for a start! As much as it sucks that she has more to spend than you it won't change the fact that you will still have an amazing day and marry the love of your life. Me and one of my best friends are marrying 6 months apart and love talking weddings, both of our weddings will be different as we have different budgets and tastes. We love the fact that we are going through it all together ♥️

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Have a think about more creative things you could have and dont tell her till yours. E.g. photo opportunities... look up some beautiful creative pics you and your hubby can have on the day. Also. Use hers as a "Guinea Pig" wedding. Things may go wrong on her day, that you can make sure wont go wrong on yours😜😜Win win😁😁

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

I’ve been to weddings where people spend a bomb and they are shite 😂

It’s about you guys and nobody else matters. As for being moh if she took you on knowing you had so much to do yourself I would say she’s expecting you to be a little busy!!

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Aww it’s so sad you think like this 😔 x I had three months to organise my wedding I ditched a whole lot of stuff... did I miss it? Absolutely not x do I think about it now? Absolutely not. Your day will be perfect with or without the extras x as for not having the time why don’t you do it together? Dress shopping and bits will be fine to combine together x this could be an amazing experience or you can be honest with you’re friend and say you’re not happy x

UKbride Member 25 Nov 2019

Honesty is the best policy hun, if you don't think you can do it then let her know. Xx

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