UKbride Member Request 29 Apr 2019

Advice on invitations

We have sent out the invites to our wedding and have received everybody’s rsvp back. We have deceived to have just close friends and family and their partners if they are either married, have children or are in long term relationships to the whole day. Around 2 weeks ago one of the best men has got into a relationship and has asked if she can come to the wedding. Myself and my H2B agreed she could come to the evening however because we haven’t met her and don’t know her she will not be receiving an invite to the day. Plus we feel it’s something we want to share with our families! The best man has started this big argument/rant saying how the other two best men are having plus 1s (they are both married!) and how it isn’t fair! My partner feels stuck in the middle because he agrees with me but is getting it in the ear from his best man who’s supposed to be his best friend! Are we being unreasonable for not inviting her to the day and only to the evening? Thank you in advance!

Sophie Nosworthy
Sophie Nosworthy 30 Apr 2019

If he's only been with her 2 weeks, I can completely understand you not wanting her in the day.
Weve decided only have to long term partners of our friends and family at our wedding, as we don't want to look back at the pictures and see people we don't know or just the latest fling of some of our friends.
Maybe your h2b needs to be blunt, and say that you're restricted on numbers and the other 2 best men's partners are included as you know them and planned for them to be included from the initial planning stages and budget.

Kimberley Joyce
Kimberley Joyce 20 May 2019

Totally agree with Sophie!

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 29 May 2019

I agree with you its not unreasonable to invite to the evening only you will just have to explain this to the best man its your day he needs to understand that xx


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