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UKbride Member Request 24 Jan 2019

Childcare for own child night of the wedding

What did people do who have their own children? i.e the night of the wedding. I wanted to ask my parents as my partners dad gets very drunk and antisocial and unfortunately I feel I cannot trust them with our baby. My little boy will probably be 3 when we get married. How do I not offend them by asking my parents but I also don't want my parent to feel like they cant have a drink because they will be looking after DS. I just want to avoid conflict (which I know will happen) and have him in with us but my partner is not as keen as it is our wedding night after all.

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

I've seen someone suggest on here hiring a baby sitter which I'm really tempted to look into!

Hannah Berry
Hannah Berry 24 Jan 2019

In gloucester there is a company call elf service (I think). A nanny service for the entire event (for all kids depending on age) and you can even get baby sitters in for the evening. Don’t know if there is anything like that where you are?

Janis Birkin
Janis Birkin 24 Jan 2019

Our 4 kids will be coming home with us...admitted oldest 15 youngest 9...
We will have our alone time wen/If we get chance lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

Our parents and in laws had our kids in the same hotel as our wedding reception and the oldest 2 9 and 6 didn’t leave the party until 1am they had the best night and danced all night and our little girl was 8month at the time left around 10.30 was late but its only 1 night and we didn’t want my mam to have to leave too early we had an amazing time xxxxx

Abigail Hankins
Abigail Hankins 24 Jan 2019

We've got 3 children 8,8,6 my mum had 2 in her hotel room and my Nan had one. Unfortunately there was no children allowed to sleep at our venue, so I made sure they were all safely shipped off in the minibus 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

During the day we didn’t find the kids an issue (age 2 and 12 at the time)
The kids sat on the table with my siblings during the meal and in the evening, I hired one of my friend children (age 16) to literally follow my little one around. She then sat and watched a film with her (our venue came with rooms) and then sat with her until my mother in law took over when she went to bed xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

My mom had my 3 in with her in my wedding night. To be fair wouldn’t have mattered if they were in with us, hubby had had a fair few to drink so as soon as he lay on the bed he was asleep, I hadn’t even finished taking my dress off

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

Do you have any older children 16ish that won't drink that can be trusted? My mum had ours but they were older but I would happily have asked my niece x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

We are all staying at the venue (10 rooms for family and bridal party) our little girl will be almost 2 when we marry and will either be in with my mum or us more than likely

Louise Newson
Louise Newson 24 Jan 2019

We have 3 under 5, gonna ask h2b parents if they can look after them probably as they don't really drink and will probably leave early anyway. If your h2b parents like a drink anyway I doubt they will be offended to get let off babysitting duties, so don't worry about it!xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

When my mum remarried, we shared a room with my grandma the night of the wedding. We were 14 and 11 respectively but my mum always says that it was one less thing for her to worry about x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

We all stayed in the hotel. The morning of the wedding my eldest son and my step daughter got ready with me and my 18 month old was looked after mainly by my Dad. My Mum dotted back and forth between me and my Dad and my brother and sister in law helped with childcare too. The night of the wedding both boys shared a room with my parents. My 11 year old stayed up for the duration but my 18 month old was taken away after the meal and played with the babysitter and she settled him for bed and stayed until my parents went to bed. She was one of his nursery teachers so he was very familiar and happy with her and she knew his routine so that gave me peace of mind.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

Could you establish a bedtime for the child and ask your parents not to drink until after they have gone to bed?

beverley summerhill
beverley summerhill 24 Jan 2019

I have 4 children I've hired a childminder and paid for her room with my children in over night

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 24 Jan 2019

Our little boy was 9 months when we got married and my parents had him over night. They still had a drink and enjoyed themselves and just went to bed a bit earlier xxx

Leanne State
Leanne State 24 Jan 2019

My parents are having my son overnight and my sister is having my daughter

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

You can hire a wedding nanny for your kids. My best friend (who gets married next week) has hired one. It's an extra expense but she is arriving to help get the kids ready, entertain them throughout the day, take them home at a decent time and put them to bed. Her kids a 1 and 3. She says its given her peace of mind and she won't worry now and her parents can enjoy the wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2019

If your children at nursery ask one if the nursery teachers to look after them pay her her daily rate and a meal etc

Jenna Hexley
Jenna Hexley 25 Jan 2019

What about a close friend instead? That way you're not asking either set of parents, and you can just say you wanted to give them chance to be fully present for the celebrations?

sieanne pilling
sieanne pilling 25 Jan 2019

Exactly the same as you would any day, only leave your child with people you trust no doubt about it anyone's feeling get hurt tuff, I need to know my child is safe and looked after, I have many family both mine and partners I love, but would never leave my child with them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Jan 2019

Leave your child with someone you trust-your parents. Dont worry about offending anyone, he's your child and you decide who to leave him with. When my child was your boys age I used to worry so much about offending people with who I left him with but not any more. My mum took my boy home with her at night when we got married. Have a lovely day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Jan 2019

My maid of honour had my little girl for the night for us she was amazing xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Jan 2019

My friend hired a babysitter who came to the wedding but looked after their daughter

Rachael Watkinson
Rachael Watkinson 25 Jan 2019

I'd ask a close friend or another relative who also has young children so its not an inconvenience. That way your not offending either parents and they can enjoy the party and you can enjoy your wedding night.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jan 2019

My little one(6 months at the time) spent the day and the night with my in-laws that's who he was happy with and they were happy to have him

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jan 2019

My mum had my 2 boys . Very very grateful thank u so much mum . Lovely mum thank u for everything. Xxx very lucky . Still missed them as first time away for the night from them . Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 26 Jan 2019

We are all staying at our venue but my daughter (5 years old) is going to stay with my mum and dad, my mum offered so that was an easy decision for me x

Nina Theophanous
Nina Theophanous 26 Jan 2019

My 3 year old didn’t even want to be with us! She was too “busy” socialising with cousins, aunties, uncles, nanny and grandad! Even getting her for pictures was a drag 🤣 my mum took her home once the evening had ended xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jan 2019

My in-laws has my little girl in their room (she was 14mo) my FIL doesn’t drink so was easy. My friend took her home in the evening, as she had a 3yo. Bathed them and got her settled and FIL picked her up and bought her back to the hotel.

I didn’t drink at my wedding so would have had her in the room, just needed someone to put her to bed xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jan 2019

My in-laws has my little girl in their room (she was 14mo) my FIL doesn’t drink so was easy. My friend took her home in the evening, as she had a 3yo. Bathed them and got her settled and FIL picked her up and bought her back to the hotel.

I didn’t drink at my wedding so would have had her in the room, just needed someone to put her to bed xx

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