Vickie Simpson
Vickie Simpson 22 Sep 2018

Looking for some help please as our top table is causing too much stress....

Looking for some help please as our top table is causing too much stress. Has anyone sat their parents together on the top table so my parents would be on my side and the other halves on his. The only way we can get certain people on it is on the proviso they don’t have to sit in the traditional order. Thanks

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Carol Boyle
Carol Boyle 22 Sep 2018

Yes mine are together. Want people to be comfortable. Do what’s right for you. There are no rules xx

Jody Pescud
Jody Pescud 22 Sep 2018

Iv stresses so much over top table I got step parents on both sides but we have settled for mother and step dad of the groom my partners side and my mum and step dad my side . Best man and bridesmaids are sitting with there families xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

It was a nightmare for me to do top table. Like you said you people to be with you but it’s also your day in the end.
We’ve got 20 on ours
H2b and me in the middle then my side is MOH, her partner and then my parents
His said his best man and his partner and then grooms parents on the end like mine.
Hope this helps and good luck xxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

I had both my parents on my side and hubby's parents were on his, we thought they would enjoy themselves better that way!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

My parents sat together, my husband's parents sat together. We figured everyone wants to be by their other halves

Louise Lydia
Louise Lydia 22 Sep 2018

My top table will be our wedding party. You don’t have to stick with traditions

Lucy Timms
Lucy Timms 22 Sep 2018

We did it not in traditional order x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

Because I have step parents in the mix we havnt put any parents on the top table just us the bridesmaids and best man that way no one gets upset about not being on there. Then only thing that’s caused any stress in my wedding is the bloody seating plan xx

Kayleigh Cunningham
Kayleigh Cunningham 22 Sep 2018

I'm having a sweet heart table (me and h2b) saves the stress

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

Your wedding, have who ever you want on your top table. Neither me or HTB fathers are around so we will have a few extra to bulk it out. As long as you at happy

Amy Richardson
Amy Richardson 22 Sep 2018

Ours is just us two 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

Ours is going to be just me OH and our daughter in her high chair and our son will be in a bouncer or his pram by the side of us x

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 22 Sep 2018

You have it the way you want. Don't need to follow traditions. We aren't even having our parents on the top table!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We had a sweetheart table and it worked really well. Just my husband and I and when people made speeches they just care and stood next to us It was lovely. We got to chat and catch up with each other... it’s such a busy day and it was lovely to actually talk to each other x x x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

Both of our parents are divorced but they get along so my mam and dad are sitting next to me on the top table and his next to him and step parents are sitting on a normal table with grandparents

Michelle Palmer
Michelle Palmer 22 Sep 2018

His Gran mum Dad him me my dad mum Gran

Then we have a 2nd top table for best men bridesmaid and close friends with partners sat with them 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

Yeah. Mine was best man, minister and my mum and stepdad, and on the other side was the inlaws and my dad and his missus. I did t want the step parents to be split from my parents. Seated in couples is the better option.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

I had my aunt & uncle on my side and his mom & partner on my husbands side. Do what feels right. Hope you have a wonderful day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We had from left to right... grooms dad, grooms mum, my mum, groom, me, my dad, step mum, best man

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We are having a sweetheart table, just us.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

Yeah I sat my parents on my side and my husband's were next to him. Do whatever you want and works for you and your family so your actual day isn't stressful x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

No parents at my top table. Do what YOU want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

It's your wedding, sit everyone where you want. I sat next to my mum because I wanted to and she was next to her partner

Abbey Lawson
Abbey Lawson 22 Sep 2018

We just had us two on the top table was nice to get chance to catch up with each other and things :)

Sammy Eldridge
Sammy Eldridge 22 Sep 2018

Sweetheart table for us with a mic set up next to it so people can come up to give speeches

Emily Catling
Emily Catling 22 Sep 2018

We’re having a circle table as a top table for this reason c

Enid Eggleton
Enid Eggleton 22 Sep 2018

We are only doing me and my other half groomsmen and bridesmaids no parents

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We had ours so we had best man, my parents, me, my husband, his parents and maid of honour. It worked well and felt more comfortable this way x

Zoe Lucock
Zoe Lucock 22 Sep 2018

We decided to not have a top table because no matter who we put on the top someone would have been offended (divorced mum with new family and step mum, dad no longer with us). We had a small table with just the bride and groom and we spent the whole night mingling around the other tables, never really sat at our table except to briefly eat

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 22 Sep 2018

What is the traditional order? I was planning on me and h2b in the center, then next to me my daughter, my dad and my MOH then on the other side Hubby, his mum and dad and the best man is that not the norm? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We have decided to not sit our parents on the top table so they can sit with other family. It’ll just be my H2B & me, Best man and his wife & my Maid of Honour with her partner. That means everyone sits with people they love 2 months tomorrow ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

I had my parents sit together at both my weddings. There are no set rules so you can sit folk wherever you want to.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We had a round table but my parents sat at my side hubbys next to him and my moh and best man between my mum and his dad

Alanna May
Alanna May 22 Sep 2018

Have a sweetheart table. Takes all this out of the equation and you two can have a short time to talk. Once the reception starts you probably wont have any time to talk to one another.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

We didn't have a top table either, most people like to see with family and friends. We had a small table just me and hubby and tables were situated in squares around the room in front of us. We had no place cards everyone sat where they wanted. No stress, no worries. It's you and h2b day enjoy it. Some people still like tradition but it causes so many issues for b2b and h2b. Have a lovely day

Gemma Bradshaw
Gemma Bradshaw 22 Sep 2018

On ours we had
Best men, mother of groom, father of groom, our son, groom, bride, our daughter, father of bride, step mum of bride, my mum, my step dad
And that worked out ok, you can have the top table how ever you want it what works for you

Kirst Wills
Kirst Wills 22 Sep 2018

We got married 2 weeks ago and just had a sweetheart table. It worked perfectly for us and our guests x

Kathy Deane
Kathy Deane 22 Sep 2018

We did. I had.. left to right.. MOH, my mum, my dad, me, hubby, his mum, his dad, BM x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

I had my parents my side and my hubbys parents on his side. Just thought it’s easier for people to sit next to people they know really well rather than next to someone they don’t know so well and feel awkward. They all get on fine it was just what I wanted to happen

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 22 Sep 2018

It's your wedding, you can sit people where ever you want to!

Beth Whitaker
Beth Whitaker 22 Sep 2018

If you wanted to make it look natural but avoid people sitting together, would putting boys on hubby side and girls on yours work? Or we are having boy, girl, boy, which naturally breaks up some tense relations without looking obvious x

Megan McAlindon
Megan McAlindon 22 Sep 2018

I had this layout as my mum has Alzheimer’s and didn’t want my FIL to feel awkward so I had my MOH my mum my dad then my husband sat next to him and myself MIL, FIL and best man hope this helps xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Sep 2018

We did exactly as you want to..traditional table plan would work for very few, enjoy your day xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Sep 2018

For mine we are going to have groom bride and our two kids everyone else is on normal tables and we are not doing a seating plan x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Sep 2018

Someone will always be offended so just do what you want, who cares about tradition it's your day :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 23 Sep 2018

I had my parents next to me and my husband's were next to him.
I really dont think people really know or expect top table 'tradition' anymore? Just do what is right for your situation & I'm sure none of your guests will even notice!

Jessica Fairhurst
Jessica Fairhurst 30 Sep 2018

Im sitting my parents together forget traditions do whatever you want!

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