Claire Kennedy
Claire Kennedy 30 Jul 2018

Is it wrong to get a different engagement ring after your h2b picking one...

Is it wrong to get a different engagement ring after your h2b picking one for you? Been engaged over a year and when we got engaged money was tight. I love the ring he picked but would of liked something different

39 Comments
Saskia Gerasch
Saskia Gerasch 31 Jul 2018

It's the thought that counts I couldn't have cared less what the ring looked like as it's the thought and love he put in to choose it. The ring itself is beautiful even if it wasn't to my taste I wouldn't change it, but I'm very lucky. It shouldn't matter how much he spent on the ring either x

Donna Barber
Donna Barber 31 Jul 2018

Not at all, I have a new engagement ring to go with my wedding ring for when we get married x

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 31 Jul 2018

As long as your h/w2b doesn’t mind, you could maybe wear the cheaper one at work? That way still wearing it x

Beth Mitchell
Beth Mitchell 31 Jul 2018

My first engagement ring had to be replaced as it was poor workmanship and the diamonds fell out. I've now got a different ring.

Kaiya Smith
Kaiya Smith 31 Jul 2018

I wouldnt get a new one, my H2B put a lot of effort into picking. It looses its meaning if you get a new one. The only reasons I would get a new one is because it didn't fit anymore or to go as a set as there are some beautiful wedding sets out there. But i would still have the old one like on a chain or something

Amanda Mapplebeck
Amanda Mapplebeck 31 Jul 2018

I had to get mine exchanged as I had a lot of weight loss, the jewellers had made such a bad job of resizing the ring they exchanged it but could get the same one 😢 so had to get one similar. I miss my original ring. I love this one too but it’s never the same

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

Nope, I got a new wedding ring a few years after we got married for the same reason. £10 amazon ring has been retired and I got Lydia Niziblian - Jewellery to make me a lovely silver band which is just for me and more special.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

H2b proposed with a £25 ring from Argos. He intended it to be temporary until I could chose one I liked. But I don't want it replaced. I think if you do get a replacement it would be nice if it matches your wedding ring.

Michelle Goldsworthy
Michelle Goldsworthy 31 Jul 2018

As long as you are both ok with it I don’t see the problem, you can always keep the original

Anne-Marie Johnstone
Anne-Marie Johnstone 31 Jul 2018

I would b gutted if anything happened to my engagement ring and it had to b replaced. H2B picked the perfect ring. He’s now got a headache as he’s to get a wedding band made to match it ❤️😊

Enid Eggleton
Enid Eggleton 31 Jul 2018

I’m getting a new one to go with my wedding ring. Partly because my current one is really big and I’m finding it hard to use it at work. I will still wear it for special occasions etc.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I don’t think it’s wrong, when choosing wedding rings we spotted a bridal set which includes an engagement ring and a wedding band to match. They also sold the wedding band individually which cost only £50 less that buying the set. My fiancé proposed with a beautiful ring but the set went beautifully together so he bought me the set. The initial engagement ring holds a lot of sentiment to me and I intend to pass onto my daughter when she is older as with my wedding dress and other things. She can either use them, get them altered to her taste or save them. I wouldn’t have asked him for another engagement ring as there was nothing wrong with the one I had, but we both loved the set and that’s how it went for us. If you both agree then get a replacement there’s no right or wrong. However if you just dislike the ring and want another one then I wouldn’t change it as it will hurt his feelings.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I’m getting a bridal set so will have a new one. I’m keeping the original one as well. Just on my other hand xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

When my fiancé proposed I didn’t like the ring. At all. I still said yes and put it on but I couldn’t hide it from him. A few days later I told him how I felt and he didn’t mind at all. He found a replacement (which he showed me before buying) and I loved it. In my mind, this ring I’ll wear for the rest of my life. It should be something that I love not a goof by my then boyfriend lol

Mark Humphreys
Mark Humphreys 31 Jul 2018

Me and h2b discussed this but I couldn't do it, I love my ring x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

My h2b told me that when money isn't so tight he's buy me a more expensive ring but I don't want to him, to me this is the ring he originally chose and the one he proposed with and I love it I don't care how much it cost. That being said I understand sometimes you might not have an option other than to change it x

Julia Sweetman
Julia Sweetman 31 Jul 2018

Get an eternity ring instead x

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 31 Jul 2018

Nice. "Love you darling, but you didn't spend enough on me to prove your worth as my life partner."

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I loved my engagement ring too but I wanted something that would last and could be passed down to my daughters. So for the wedding we got a bridal set.
I gave my original engagement ring to my oldest daughter who is now engaged herself so she passed it to my 2nd daughter. I didn't intend for that ring to be passed down but it somehow has

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I got a new one when we booked the wedding. Not because of price or I didn’t like it or anything. My mum gave me my grandmas wedding ring that was gold but my engagement ring was silver.
We pawned to first one for for booze money on our honeymoon #NoRegrets

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I love my engagement ring my hubby got however my mum passed away before we were married and i was given her wedding ring and engagement ring from my dad i still wear the one my hubby got on the other hand and he was more than happy for me to wear my mums instead

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

It wouldn't be the same if I got myself another! Dispite the price he paid he would of chosen it for a reason!! I didnt even look at my ring for ages after I got engaged. I was just so happy

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I have a new engagement ring. I chipped to stone on my previous on a shelf. I was stuck for ideas for my Christmas and when I suggested it he was only to happy to buy new one. I did feel bad but my hubby said he didn't want me wearing something I wasn't happy with. So long as he doesn't mind there is no reason why you can't get a new one.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

My hubby rush bought my engagement ring due to me being pregnant ( money was tight as saving for a house and he wanted to show me he was committed) it was an ok ring. but 3 months before our wedding we went shopping and he surprised me with saying he was buying me a ring I deserved. It wasn’t expensive, but it’s very me and I love looking at it still. Still have my original to keep as a memory

Stephanie Sutton
Stephanie Sutton 31 Jul 2018

I love my engagement ring, it’s perfect
My H2B chose it and surprised me with it at sunset on a beach In Cape Verde
I wouldn’t dream of changing it as he put his heart and soul into choosing the perfect ring
Even ‘if’ it wasn’t what I wanted I still wouldn’t exchange it as it’s come from his heart
I think it would hurt him if I told him I didn’t like it
It’s perfect and I’m just so happy to be asked to become his wife

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I loved my original engagement ring it was perfect except for the fact it had a design flaw and the diamonds kept falling out after 3 replacements I finally had enough and brought a different ring which is gorgeous and I love also it broke my heart to send back my original ring the one hed asked me to marry him with but if it doesn't work for you or your lifestyle change it you have to wear it for the rest of your life it should be something your happy with

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I wouldn't have picked my ring for myself, however I absolutely love it. I always thought I knew what I wanted but it's like my dress, it just suits me and not what I thought I wanted he said he wanted to get one he'd like to see on me and it's pretty & dainty like me (so he said lol) it was a few sizes too big but we got it resized for free where he bought it. But I told him the wrong size so now it's a size too big whoops. I still wear it a lot, but I'm careful at work just incase.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I wouldn't change mine for the world. We picked it together when money was tight, but even though we could afford a better one now it wouldn't mean the same x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

My original got damaged when I returned it for sizing just before our wedding. I ‘upgraded’ . It’s exactly the same setting but bigger, I upgraded the diamonds and the platinum band is thicker. I don’t see an issue with it as long as your husband isn’t offended.

Catriona White
Catriona White 31 Jul 2018

While I wouldn’t say it’s intrinsically wrong to change it I would say it’s something to bring up with your H2B. But not like “I want to change my ring” so much as “now that we can afford it, do you think we should change the ring?” Another option (a friends mom did this ) would be at some point in the future to get your ring melted down and remade with extra diamonds thicker band etc. None of us know your fiancé so none of us can say but I don’t think there are many guys out there who just buy any old ring and I think if he has tried his best with what he had then just getting another one so soon might look like telling him it’s not good enough.

Abbey Lawson
Abbey Lawson 31 Jul 2018

I cannot understand why anyone would want to upgrade or buy something different.. He bought it you it shouldn't matter what he spent or if it's not what you would have chosen. He chose it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

As u have no idea what was going through his mind when he picked it then I say wear what u want its your finger. Would he wear something he doesn't like just to please you? (probably would coz he lives u )

Rachel Higgins
Rachel Higgins 31 Jul 2018

Money was tight for us 7years ago just got married and he bought the one he originally wanted to get me was a band set. Was a nice surprise but wearing the one he first got me as a necklace loved it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

I have a similar dilemma with mine so just sitting here waiting for tips how to approach my oh without offending. I hate mine I don't wear it I can't even bear to look at it and I don't know how he hadn't noticed. It was his mum's which I'm honoured he loves me that much to give it to me but it sits on my hand like a weight on my shoulders. You can't help how you feel even if it seems ungrateful

Belinda Ann Welbourne
Belinda Anne Bingley 31 Jul 2018

I'd never replace it , surely it's not the value of the ring it's the sentiment it means, it was given in love and to feel it's not good enough would surely upset him x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Jul 2018

How about finding a jewellery maker who would take out the stone, melt down the gold and make you a new one? Maybe you and your fiance could design it together?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Aug 2018

I have recently got a new engagement ring. My original one was given to me (5 years ago) by my partners nan and is gorgeous. But as she had worn it for so many years the band has really thinned. It was dipped before being given to me so it silver but yellow gold underneath so will be difficult to build it back up. I also really want to pass it down to my daughter as it has great sentimental value to it and she loves it.
When we were shopping for wedding bands we saw a set that was on offer, in fact cheaper than buying just a wedding band and really beautiful so we brought it together. I still wear my old engagement ring on my other hand. I spoke to my partners nan about it and she loves the idea, and my new ring so we all feel happy.

Claire Kennedy
Claire Kennedy 2 Aug 2018

Thank you, I couldn't find a band to go with my original and we got a great deal on a bridal set. I do love my original ring and will continue to wear it everyday.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 2 Aug 2018

I think there's more important things to spend money on first before getting a new ring if you already like the one you have...

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