Having a issues with miL Me and my h2b has decided we only having our children as flower girl and Paige boy. But my mil keeps pushing for all the neices and nephews and we don’t want it. But she keeps saying she will dress the girls anyway in white (LIKE Flowers dress). I personally think she shouldn’t be doing this. They are technically not in the bridal party they should wear different . Am I in the wrong or she is ? I feel I’m being a bitch telling someone don’t dress like this but I feel miL doing out of spite . She offer to buy the dresses but it’s goes against what me and my h2b wants. It’s no the point of who buys it’s not about money. I wish she can respect what we want.
Hi you are right she should respect your wishes tell her if she wants to pay for dresses then buy a different colour :)
You need to tell her how you feel it's you and yours H2Bs day
I dunno why no one puts heir foot down anymore. Its your wedding, tell her NO!
Just say no. It's your wedding. If she doesn't listen, then don't let her come :)
If she reallly isn't listening to what you and h2b want, then you may need to be a bit crafty....tell her the attire for your flower girl/ page boy is completely different to what you are really doing. That way they wont clash and look part of the bridal party. It sounds awful having to blatantly lie, but some people are so blinkered to what the bride and groom want on their day!!
Tell her straight and the parents of the children. Your not being rude its your wedding.
I would let her do her thing and buy your daughter a different colour dress
I'd be putting my foot down and telling her she's uninvited if she's doesn't stop! If you don't start now then you are in for a miserable marriage
Tell her the dress is completely different from the one you've actually got and then there's no risk of clashing
Tell her and the parents of the children. I highly doubt every single one of them will be keen on doing this if its against your wishes.
Regarding the suggestions of lying about the dresses you're having- just remember this could really upset the children on the day if they think they are in the bridal party x
I don’t understand why everyone’s family pokes into wedding plans! Maybe I’m just really lucky in that everyone is supporting us and helping however we want but are going along with what we want! I think you need to sit down with her and your husband to be and just explain how you wants your wedding to be, it’s your choice, stand up for yourself. Good luck! Xx
I would bypass grandma and chat to the parents of the children. Just a simple we are only having our children in the party.
Tell her straight !
Put your foot down, it’s not up to her!
It's your day and she should respect that x
Why don’t you just tell her that’s fine because you’re dressing the flower girls in blush pink or something believable 😉 find a nice one you like, she will buy them for the others and yours will be in the original colour xx
I’ve been to a wedding where we were told not to wear certain colours, as to not clash with the bridesmaids so I can understand why you wouldn’t want the other kids in white. I would stand your ground, let her away with one thing and she’ll take over xx
You & h2b need to sit with her & stress this isn't happening, Not her wedding so not her decision..Total lack of respect & probably an insight into the future so you need to over rule her now,, politely of course. Good luck..
Me personally wouldnt put kids in white at all!! Everyone is different so thays down to you, but i agree with everyone else who has commented xxx
Just let the kids wear whatever - they won't be coming down the aisle with you, and it'll stop you having to waste energy on someone who sounds like she's going to be a challenge for the rest of your marriage x
I'd be telling the miL she not coming..... end of!
Your h2b needs to man up and stand up to his mother....or you do it for him..she needs to back off and understand its your wedding x
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