Sarah Reeves
Sarah Reeves 9 Jul 2018

I have two wonderful bridesmaids one my best friend and one my sister both...

I have two wonderful bridesmaids one my best friend and one my sister both are very supportive and want to help a lot .my question is has anyone had to deal with a bridesmaid who does nothing but say I "i don't like that " or "at my wedding I would have it this way " or the ever increasing " I can do that better " comment .my sister is driving me nuts she lives quite far away and is still trying to take over I think she may feel threatened considering the other bridesmaid lives about 15 minutes away from me I think she may feel jealous. Do you guys think I should say something to her or just ride it out

Michelle Sprules
Michelle Sprules 9 Jul 2018

I would tell her how you are feeling, after all it's your day and you do it how you want. Congrats x

Katie Hewitt
Katie Hewitt 9 Jul 2018

Just tell her that she can have it how she likes when *she* gets married and leave it at that

Katie Baker
Katie Baker 9 Jul 2018

I would tell her. Everyone has different opinions and tastes and that’s great but this is your wedding. A work colleague has just got married and i am next year and our weddings are the complete opposite and it’s been so nice to compare notes! My future bil got married few weeks ago too and there was quite a few things I would do differently etc but it was a wonderful day and what they wanted. I would tell her thank you for your opinion but this is what I want and what I will have xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Jul 2018

I have 5 and 4 just aren’t bothered about anything, showing little interest, haven’t even planned a hen after deciding months ago the only weekend possible is last weekend in July. One hasn’t even made an attempt to try her dress on and still don’t know if she is actually going to be bridesmaid now as her oh is making a fuss over her coming

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Jul 2018

Get her told. This is your day not hers x

Michelle Rew
Michelle Rew 9 Jul 2018

Personally I'd ride it out. Every comment just agree it sounds nice or you're sure she could do it better etc. Be the bigger person, she's probably a little jealous and a little put out, who needs a big conversation and upset over something that really doesn't matter that much, it's just her insecurities is all. Unless you're used to being blunt and you both get over things quickly then by all means have your say. If it's going to cause unnecessary upset and tension then maybe just let it go over your head. I'm sure you've bigger things to worry about right now? Totally get the opinion of tell her how you're feeling but seriously only if you're really bothered, and are you? You mentioned should you rise above it so I'm assuming you're a level headed lady who doesn't let the odd comment affect your happiness? Either way your wedding will be as you want it just because it IS your day, i dont think you need to point out the obvious, it just comes across as smug and diva-like imo. Best of luck with your big day whatever you decide x

Becky Healy
Becky Healy 9 Jul 2018

I'd tell her straight. It's your special day. Either she stops moaning or she won't be a bridesmaid.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 Jul 2018

I’d demote her ! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 10 Jul 2018

I wouldn't ride it out as this will only make you more stressed out. Just tell her that it's your wedding and whilst you value her opinions (she may say something that you think is a good idea) you will have the final decision and your decision is final. End of.....

Sarah Reeves
Sarah Reeves 10 Jul 2018

Thank you every one for your lovely input and I will take it all on bored ,good luck for the future and congratulations to you all x

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 10 Jul 2018

I would mention it to her causally first just so she’s aware and then if that he’s no impact I’d have a sit down and just lay out exactly how her actions are making you feel and see if there’s a reason behind it. But make it clear it needs to stop, and make it clear that if it doesn’t she will be less involved which isn’t what you want x

Emma-mathew Hopkins
Emma-mathew Hopkins 13 Jul 2018

Say something now do leave it because close u get u to the wedding u will snap x

Becky Mitchinson
Becky Mitchinson 16 Jul 2018

Say something before it leads to a big falling out when you can't take any more x

Sarah Reeves
Sarah Reeves 19 Jul 2018

Thank you all so much for your kind words and ideas ,congratulations to each and every one or you xx


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