Hannah Littlewood
Hannah Littlewood 4 Jul 2018

Hi guys! I have picked a really elegant but simple dress for my wedding...

Hi guys! I have picked a really elegant but simple dress for my wedding but now I'm struggling with my adult bridesmaids dresses. I want them to look pretty and feel good but I also don't want them too fancy so they outshine my dress. They keep choosing beautiful dresses but they're really intricate and neither seem keen on the plainer ones I keep putting out there. Am I being petty and should I just let them choose what they want? Thanks xx

31 Comments
Charlie Burke
Charlie Burke 5 Jul 2018

I'd go with simple slim ones but with maybe a colour more a pale colour obviously x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I’d let them choose something they love! I wouldn’t worry about being out shine on your wedding day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I think as long as their comfortable it shouldn’t matter. I have given mine an idea of the colour and shown them different designs so even if they all different it won’t matter long as they feel good. The bride can’t be out shone on her wedding so I wouldn’t worry xxxx

Roxie Houghton
Roxie Houghton 5 Jul 2018

Having the contrast between you being very simple and them being more detailed could look amazing! Either way they don't outshine you, you're the bride! In the nicest way possible, but no one cares about them 😂 good luck!

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Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 5 Jul 2018

"I don't want my friends to look prettier than me" is not an attractive attitude...

Belinda Ann Welbourne
Belinda Anne Bingley 5 Jul 2018

I showed my MOH and bridesmaid a few choices of dresses just to get their opinion but then chose the one I liked best from the options , end of day I'm paying for them x

Claire Newstead
Claire Newstead 5 Jul 2018

Your wedding, your choice. As long as they're not in something ridiculous then they should be happy with your choice. They're allowed an opinion but you don't have to listen to it. I was bridesmaid for my sister last year and she picked marshmallow pink dresses for us all and I abhore pink. It's overused in weddings but I wore it anyway because it was her wedding, her choice ❤

Carley Elliott
Carley Elliott 5 Jul 2018

Id want them to feel nice too.... and comfortable....i chose the colour for mine but let the choose the dress they all agreed on one x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I have to say: YOU'RE the one in the wedding dress and the one getting married. Regardless of what dresses they choose or how intricate they are everyone's attention is on you and you're partner and the whole day is about the two of you. Nice dresses on your BMs doesn't detract from celebrating the love between you and you're partner :/ I told my BMs they could wear whatever they wanted, I just gave them the colours to pick from. They weren't very good at looking for dresses though so in the end I sent them some ideas and two of them picked the same dress but in different colours and one had a completely different style all together. I wanted my bridesmaids to be happy, feel beautiful, comfortable and confident on the day just as much as me. We all looked amazing and we were all happy!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

It's your wedding and you're the boss. Stuff them all. If they don't want to wear what you chose, then walk down the aisle without them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

You pick there outfits. It's your wedding. I picked two dresses I liked and gave them the option which one they wanted soy two are wearing different designs. You could do it that way but you still choose

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

My dress is so simple too and I was struggling with the same thing. Have gone for the multiway dresses as they suit ALL body shapes!! (I have a size 6 / size 16 / heavily pregnant bridesmaid and all look stunning) M&S currently have them for £49

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UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

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UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

If your footing the bill it’s your choice if they are they kind of need a bigger say in the dresses.

Michelle Sprules
Michelle Sprules 5 Jul 2018

It's your day. You choose what they wear xx

Charlotte Flower
Charlotte Flower 5 Jul 2018

Wed2b have some lovely simple bridesmaid dresses, your girls could have different styles but all in the colour if you wanted. XX
https://www.wed2b.co.uk/bridesmaids/get-the-look

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 5 Jul 2018

I think let them have a bit of a say. You don't want them hating how they look as they will avoid photos. If you're paying then really they need to go with your choice. If they're paying, it's unfair to make them buy something they don't like.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I'd say it's your day and they should respect the choice you make for their dresses x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

You're the bride. Doesn't really matter how intricate their dresses are because all eyes are on you! But explain to them how you feel. If they're paying for it there needs to be an agreeable dress as they are out of pocket. If you are paying them I'm sure they'll understand you want a planet dress.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

I went with what I liked for them, but they said they liked it too lol so hopefully they'll feel good on the day. I've also gone for a simple dress but it suits me and I feel great in it.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

It’s your day it’s up to
You xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

Its your wedding they wear what yiu want if they dont like it they can just be a guest

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 5 Jul 2018

I was 50/50 when choosing my bridesmaid dresses. I sent them a bunch that I liked and asked them to pick a few from that list to go and try on. That way they were all dresses I liked and it meant that I could control the budget, the colour, length and style and they weren't going and finding £200 dresses that might not be appropriate. You want their dresses to match the theme of your wedding and to compliment your dress there's nothing wrong with that. I would recommend doing what I've done, send them a few that you like and tell them that the final dress is coming from that list. Best way to do it I think.

Emma Howe
Emma Howe 5 Jul 2018

I think it depends on who’s paying!! If I was bridesmaid and paying for my dress I’d like to have a bit more of a say, but as a bride who has paid for their dresses, I sent them pictures of the ones I liked, took into account the things I knew they liked and what I had in mind and they were perfectly happy x

Kathy Deane
Kathy Deane 5 Jul 2018

My dress was very simple and my bridesmaids were intricate and lace. At the end of the day, you are the bride and they won't outshine you ( that sounds terrible but ypu know what i kwan haha). Simple and stunning will be the overall effect, don't over think it xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

Pick a couple that you like then tell them they can choose between the ones that you’ve picked x

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UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

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UKbride Administrator 5 Jul 2018

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Viki Nemeth
Viki Nemeth 5 Jul 2018

I chose 4 different very simple but elegant dresses for my bridesmaid and maid of honour, they chose the ones they thought would suit them best, all I asked I want them in the same colour and to wear a pearl necklace on the day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jul 2018

Don't be to fussy! I have very simple elegant dress but going for off the shoulder knee length dresses for my maid and bridesmaids. But I'm not giving them flowers. You could be mean and do ^ that to them lol

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Jul 2018

I was struggling so much to find bridesmaids dresses, after all 6 is a huge number!! I was so worried that they would be unhappy and how could I possibly get 6 different women to agree on one dress. Eventually I decided to get them all different ones, which in itself has been difficult and not sure I would advise this to future brides with alot of bridesmaids. After a lot of stress about it one of my lovely bridesmaids Louise said to me 'you're the one that will have the photos on your wall for years to come, not us, so it doesn't matter what everyone else wants' best advice ever and have lived by that!

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