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UKbride Member Request 3 Jul 2018

My wedding is in a weeks time. I started planning in February and everything...

My wedding is in a weeks time. I started planning in February and everything is now done, paid for, fully arranged and organised. Has been for the past month. We have spent what we had (no borrowing or debt) and even came £1000 under budget spending only £4500. So why do I still feel absolutely NOTHING for the wedding? I am not excited, nervous anything. I absolutely adore my htb but I just don't feel anything for the wedding. Is this normal?

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 3 Jul 2018

Hi I have gone from being really stressed to completely chilled out but I

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I wasn’t excited/nervous until I was about to walk down the aisle. Then I fell apart. Don’t think it hits some brides until it’s crunch time.

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I felt nothing until the morning of the wedding, then I was excited. You're not strange, don't worry yourself!

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

Your organisational skills paid you off with calm feelings. you have done everything on time andi believe that you will feel emotional the day you are gonna wear your wedding dress and see your husband staring at you while walking down the aile.

Samantha Lindsay
Samantha Lindsay 4 Jul 2018

I was the same so calm even when I was having hair and makeup,it wasn’t till I saw my husband at the end of the aisle that I fell apart xx good luck on your day xx

Kylie Brennan
Kylie Brennan 4 Jul 2018

I've just got a couple things to pay off but I'm all calm too calm infact

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I was the same. Even photographer said I was one of the cellist brides wasn't until I got in car and set off I got really nervous

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I was fine up until I was in the car on the way to get married... Literally did my own hair and make up in my mother's... My maid of honour was way more nervous than I was! I love my husband totally so there was no need to be nervous or anything else x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

Yes it's perfectly normal! I felt like I was going to someone else's wedding, even on the morning when i was getting ready and even when i was fully dressed it still didn't feel like my wedding. It wasn't until we were in the car and hit the driveway for the venue that i finally felt excited. I think it's the build up to it all that makes it feel strange instead of super excited like you'd expect to feel xx

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

Apart from my photographer stressing me out on the day I was too chilled out, I ended up being 20 minutes late and my vicar was going straight on holiday so she told me off lol. Until I started walking down the aisle I was fine, then I started shaking to the point my dad was holding me up lol

Laura Roberts
Laura Roberts 4 Jul 2018

I was the same. I was due to walk down the aisle in 10 mins and I still didn't have my dress on (it was a zip up so didn't take long to put on) my moh was panicking so much I gave her my glass of prosecco to calm her nerves. As soon as I got down and the music started was when I started to feel nervous x

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I was like that, didn't even have nerves on the day.

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I felt like that the day before. Just wait until your putting on your dress and have your hair/makeup done and it will suddenly hit you! Good luck and enjoy it

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 4 Jul 2018

We get married next month... & feel quite chilled.. Inspite having things to pay for & none of the 4 males having a stitch to wear. & my vintage wedding dress hanging on washing line having just washed it in the bath.. & had a disaster with my veil on monday, but h2b ordered me another & its arrived today. BEST WISHES FOR THE FUTURE..

Steph Farries
Steph Farries 4 Jul 2018

I felt exactly the same way right up to the wedding and even on the morning. But standing outside the venue where the wedding took place the nerves finally kicked in 😁 enjoy every moment as the day just flies by

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

It’s the calm before the storm. I was calm for most of the planning then in the last month before everything became so stressful I was just glad when it was all over

Rachel Higgins
Rachel Higgins 4 Jul 2018

Oh gosh i thought i was alone. And i feel terrible about not feeling like I'm suppose to! Getting married on the 28th this month!! I want to be all bouncy and jolly 😂😂 but nothing. Hope i will be buzzing on the day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

You'll feel different on the day. I did. Once the make-up artist arrived and I was sat there in my satin PJs with a glass of bubbly, I started getting excited.

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UKbride Administrator 4 Jul 2018

I was nervous until the night before the wedding, around 7pm when we met up with all our fanily and friends for a meal. After that I was completely relaxed, which surprised me. I only got nervous as I stood in the church doorway, but a quick swig of whisky sorted that xx

Kathy Deane
Kathy Deane 4 Jul 2018

I didn't too.. It just feels like a check list of things that need to be done. I felt like this until the night before. Our day was fab and stress free. Don't worry xx

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 4 Jul 2018

I get married in two weeks and it doesn’t seem like the run up to our wedding even h2b is calm which is strange cause if you new me I thought I would be falling apart by now just hope it doesn’t happen in church good luck to you have a lovely day x

Alanna May
Alanna May 4 Jul 2018

Calm before the storm. Enjoy it and congrats!

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UKbride Administrator 6 Jul 2018

Yes!! I felt exactly the same. I wanted to be so excited for the day, and I was looking forward to it but not that feeling I thought I should have. It made me worried that that I felt nothing - not nervous or even doubting or happy or excited just nothing. Everyone around me was far more excited about my wedding than I was! On the morning of the wedding I woke up went for breakfast and BANG like a train it hit me. OMG I am getting married TODAY! You will be absolutely fine, it will come - it might be a week before, the day before or the day of but you will get it!! Promise ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 7 Jul 2018

I thought I wasn't feeling nerves because we'd been planning for so long (3 years), I'm so relieved to hear I wasn't the only one, no matter how long you've been planning!! My family was far more excited and nervous than I was.
I got my nerves in waves on the day, like when different vendors arrived and when my dad saw me in my dress. The real moment it hit me was as I was walking down the aisle, I burst into happy tears and had to hide my face behind my bouquet!!

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