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UKbride Member Request 10 Jun 2018

Really don't know what to do we get married very soon. I was having my...

Really don't know what to do we get married very soon. I was having my sister in law and 16 year old neice as bridesmaid bit they have fallen out to the point she kicked my neice out. I can see fault on both sides. The problem is not sure what to do as having them in the same room would be a disaster so do I ask one not to come and if so which one both have said they can't be in the same place without trouble

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

I'd say either they sort it out or both not come it's your day so they need to not be so selfish for one day if there is any risk of them ruining it xx

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 11 Jun 2018

I agree with Vicki

Sharlyne Dickinson
Sharlyne Dickinson 11 Jun 2018

I'd say if both are refusing to be civil for your wedding day then drop them both it's their problem it shouldn't be yours and they've no right putting it on you

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

Yes if they can't sort it out then I would say they both can't be anymore as it would only be fair to not favour one against the other and then cause an argument with yourself x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

I'd say they can still come but just as normal guests, no special duties.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

Tell them that if they can't be civil to each other for one day then you don't want either of them there. If they can't keep out of trouble as part of the bridal party then I doubt they would behave as just guests.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

I would say be blunt with them. Tell them to sort their stuff out and if they can't don't bring it to your wedding. ... if they don't have anything nice to say keep quiet until after YOUR day.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

Think they need to sort it out or both of them not come. Shouldn't be a stress you have to deal with and certainly shouldn't ruin your day x

Hanna Smitham
Hanna Smitham 11 Jun 2018

I know it has nothing to do with the fact you’re getting married but kicking a 16 year old out? She’s still a child. There must be some way to resolve the issues so that both can attend your wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

Neither. Its not fair for you to choose, re arrange them as guests and they can decide what they do.

Laura Osborne
Laura Osborne 11 Jun 2018

if they arent prepared to settle their differences for just one day i would tell both not to go! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

They’re being selfish, it’s not about them. Tell them to sort it out between them or neither of them gets to be bridesmaids.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

I’d say sort it out or neither of you cab be there! Don’t choose one over the other!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

If they can’t be civil neither come. How horrible to put you in that position tell them to do one.... or grow up for one day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

I think this is really hard without all the facts. We have no clue as to what has gone on to end up with a q6 year old being thrown out of her home. It's easy to say get on for the day but it's not always that easy.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

Sit down with each of them and ask them to behave for one day since they love you. Otherwise, none of them comes to your day!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 11 Jun 2018

I'd say neither and pick someone else....

Chloe Mclean
Chloe Mclean 11 Jun 2018

Id speak to them about what they would feel comfortable with on the day either make up or one of them/ both of them not be there x

Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 15 Jun 2018

I would speak to them both together and tell them if they can't grow up and act like adults then neither of them can come to your wedding that way it doesn't look like you are picking sides.

Angela Cowan
Angela Cowan 17 Jun 2018

I agree if they can not put their personal problems aside for you then maybe tell them both not to come they shouldn't make you choose xx

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