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UKbride Member Request 2 Jun 2018

Hi, I just wanted some advise. Long story short, I've been with my fiance...

Hi, I just wanted some advise. Long story short, I've been with my fiance since school, not long after we left school I got very ill and went into a wheelchair. After 7 years I got a lot better and we decided we wanted to get married. Last year for the first time, since I was 16, was able to walk. So I went and bought my wedding dress excited to walk down the aisle. I went very simple comfortable but lovely with the dress. Thinking I'm walking down the aisle that's all the 'wow' I need. But Ive had a very bad relapse, only able to move my head eyes and fingers for now. Which is an improvement to how I was. But do I stick with my simple, nice dress or find something that's going to make me feel more 'wow'? I only have 3 months left! Am I cutting it all a bit fine? It's made me think more now because we collected my bridesmaids dresses last week and they all look even more gorgeous than normal and I love them all, but i feel a little second best to them. That's not meant to sound as bridal bitchy as it may have come across. Ha Should I suck it up and listern to the people that keep saying I look fine and lovely or just ignore and go for another? Thank you for any help!!! Sorry for the life story x

22 Comments
UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

I felt the same with my dress it was really plain with just a tiny bit of ‘bling’ (I wanted a seam to be hidden!) and my bridesmaids were quite glam but once everything was out together it looked amazing. Also you will never look second best you’re the bride!! Xx

Chelsea-Anne Horrocks
Chelsea-Anne Horrocks 4 Jun 2018

If your having doubts and can afford to get another dress I would have another look. You only get this day once. If you find something then you could always sell on the original dress or wear it for the evening do x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

It’s your day, wear what makes you feel fabulous. I hope you have a lovely wedding

Gemma H'ins
Gemma H'ins 4 Jun 2018

You can always buy a large 'poofy' overskirt to dress it up a bit, then take it off for the evening if you want. Wed2B have some lovely ones :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

Your H2B will only be looking at you! If your dress is the dress you fell in love with I say wear it. If your not happy ignore others and go with your heart xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

You could always wear your simpler dress in the evening, or even the day after if you want to feel really wow! Go and have a look at some other dresses and if you keep comparing to the one you've got, you know it's the right one x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

All I can say is look how simple Meghan Markles dress was and it was stunning, go with your gut hunny and what makes you happy and remember what the day is all about, good luck it will be fantastic whatever u pick xxxx

Laura Nelms
Laura Nelms 4 Jun 2018

If it was “the dress” and you still love it , i wouldnt change it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

Go for the WOW factor. You’ve said that word repeatedly in your status, and if this dress doesn’t give you that, and you can afford it, get something that makes you feel amazing. If people are saying you look fine and lovely, then that dress isn’t the one for you. They should be saying you look amazing. It’s your special day, make sure you feel special and don’t settle for anything else.

Louise Scullion
Louise Scullion 4 Jun 2018

You could try and add some more accessories. A blinged out belt, tiara, veil or over skirt could add that wow factor without having to buy an entirely new dress

Rachel Carey
Rachel Carey 4 Jun 2018

I think what you've described as a 'simple, nice dress' can be fine if that's what you want and feel it's the right one for you but reading your comments I feel that you're unsure and you're no longer sold on it being the one. I would definitely look at other options, it's your big day and you need to feel 'wow' in whatever you pick, not just hear from others that you look 'wow' or fine or lovely.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

It’s your wedding day, you deserve to feel amazing! If the dress you have now isn’t making you feel like a bride and you can afford a different one then I say go for it!!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

You can get lovely bridal belts. Which may change it up or a bridal skirt and jewelry always changes it aswell!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

Very sorry to hear that u have taken Ill again, personally I would say do what makes u feel best, but what I will say is that no matter how beautiful ur bridesmaid will look. No one will be looking at them, every guests eyes will be on u. This is ur day, so do what u want to do, if a new dress will make u feel more special and u can do it then go for it. If u love the dress u have and feel great in it stick with it. This is ur day. Don’t worry about anyone else. Think of number 1 it’s all about u have the best day xx

laura barker
laura barker 4 Jun 2018

Personally, if it was me and I was feeling that way I would get something that makes you feel amazing. Even if its something cheaper from ebay or 2nd hand, that way you can choose on the day if you really want :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

Stick to your dress, it was your choice but bling it to the max (head piece, ear rings, belt or sash, etc, go for it as it's your day!) and really shine - no accessories for the bridesmaids though x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

Do what makes you feel amazing x

Stephanie Smith
Stephanie Smith 4 Jun 2018

You do you! Screw everyone else! If you want a new dress then get a new dress. You don’t want to get to the big day and be miserable and feel 2nd best! This is YOUR day! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Jun 2018

You deserve to love your dress and have that wow moment so i say go for it!!

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 6 Jun 2018

At the end of the day the bridesmaids will never outshine you, your happiness and love will be the thing that stands out on the day. As long as you feel beautiful in the dress that should be all that matters. If however, you dont feel beautiful in the dress now, maybe look for ways to improve it or see if you can find an alternative xxxx

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 7 Jun 2018

Add a vintage belt ......a special flower crown & have your hair styled beautifully .....that will be enough to make you shine .....at the end of the day it is all about you and your future husband , everybody else fades out ..... Don't start married life in debt by overspending .....
Enjoy your special day ,
Love Sarah xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Jun 2018

Whatever dress makes you feel like the most beautiful person in the room on your wedding day whether that is a simple dress or a sparkling giant princess ballgown. If you love your dress then wear it, but if you think on the day you will feel second best to the bridesmaids then maybe shop around. There are places where you can get beautiful off the rack dresses to take home the same day. Xxx

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