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UKbride Member Request 9 May 2018

I know a few people have bridesmaid and maid of honour issues.. after some...

I know a few people have bridesmaid and maid of honour issues.. after some advise on how to tell my maid of honour she’s being a bitch without upsetting her! My mum and girls all give suggestions, which is great, but Mum gives suggestions and my MOH said “it’s your wedding not your mums” I’m aware of this, 70% of mums suggestions are Not happening. But my MOH gave a suggestion then went off on one cuz I said no! ????... then this week shes now dictating who I can or can’t invite to my hen because the MOH doesn’t know z friend!! The MOH has been very involved in planning, but her snide comments are really getting me down, to the point I don’t want her to help anymore. Help!

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Michaela Sharp
Michaela Sharp 9 May 2018

I think it's time to stand up and find your voice. These things can spiral out of control so quickly. You need to tell your MOH it's your wedding and you want it your way. It's nice to have suggestions but don't be upset if you don't take them up. Also invite who you want not everyone knows everyone at weddings. Good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

It’s your wedding and I would be speaking up and putting her in her place. If she doesn’t like it then tough xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

Tell her out right she is being a butch, don't worry about upsetting, cause all this is upsetting

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

Why are you even friends with this person!? It really confuses me why anyone would allow such a horrible person to be such a big part of their wedding.

Sandra Modesto
Sandra Modesto 9 May 2018

You just have to be honest with her and tell her she’s been upsetting you.. I’ve had a similar situation with a family member and I just got to a point that say yes to quiet them down but carry on doing whatever it is I want to do lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

BIN HER

Michelle Palmer
Michelle Palmer 9 May 2018

Take a step back and breath, my mum is more into the planning then I am, and I love it! I tell her I love or hate it and that’s it! As for your friend, just tell her you don’t want that at your wedding and that’s that. She can plan her own when it’s her time 🙂

Just take a step back... it helps a lot!! Haha xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

I like how she's quick to point out that it's not your mums wedding but pot calling kettle!!
I find it absolutely bizarre that bridesmaids and MOH have so much say in people's weddings these days. Tell her help is appreciated but opinions are not- you and your partner should have the day you want xxx

Amy Eager
Amy Eager 9 May 2018

It's really hard. But you have to put EXACTLY what you want first. We're always worried about offending our friends. But the reality is, true friends should know when their behaviour is likely to upset you.
Take that from someone who has seen a lot of people true colours this year (and that's before the wedding planning started!) #Shit

Michelle Sprules
Michelle Sprules 9 May 2018

You need to be firm. Just because your moh doesn't know your friends, they are your friends and if u want at her night, that's your choice not hers. My moh doesn't know my friends but she still invited them, because they are my friends.
Stay firm

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

Just remind who's wedding it is x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 9 May 2018

I would he saying bye bye... honestly don't let anyone stress you out... get rid of her... you'll only regret it and it's your big day afterall x

Suzanne Hunton
Suzanne Hunton 10 May 2018

If you're over 18, can I suggest you try having an adult conversation with her, where you express your wishes and feelings in a calm but assertive manner? I know it might sound a bit weird and left-field, but Using Your Words is an actual thing.

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