Danielle Wilson
Danielle Wilson 24 Apr 2018

We already have our invites printed up, we are only having a few children...

We already have our invites printed up, we are only having a few children (young siblings, nieces, nephews and close cousins) most of which are flower girls/page boys. I'm wondering how to go about telling our friends and distant family members their children aren't invited, we have hit total numbers and can't afford to add them on.

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 25 Apr 2018

Just dont put them on the invite, explain due to numbers or say we love your kids but thought you deserved a night off x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We have had this problem as we are limited to 32 day guests and if they all bring their children our numbers almost double! We just told people this and asked them to keep this in mind when deciding whether to bring their kids! Most of them were pretty keen to leave the kids at home tbh.... I don't think it's unreasonable to say that, while it's not a child-free wedding, you are limiting it to close family.

Rebecca Bradley
Rebecca Bradley 25 Apr 2018

just put a note in the envelope to say sorry but due to numbers only those stated above are invited i hope u understand and enjoy your day/eve childfree

Olivia Skiplorne
Olivia Skiplorne 25 Apr 2018

We are only having bridal party children. Same issue as we don’t want to cause any offence but our venue isn’t child friendly. We were thinking a little poem in the invite about leaving the kids at home and having a night off x

Danika O'Connor
Danika O'Connor 25 Apr 2018

In my experience (got married last month) you need to make it super super clear. Otherwise people just assume their kid, girlfriend of 15 minutes, or roommate can come along. We did email invites, and this meant that we could send everyone an email should we have forgotten something or want to clarify something. It sounds harsh but people really do just assume everyone they know is invited 🙈

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We’re deliberately only putting the adults names on the invites. But a couple people we’ve had to have conversations with about their other half’s/children and they’ve been pretty understanding..

Michelle Goldsworthy
Michelle Goldsworthy 25 Apr 2018

Ive not had a single issue, in fact I’ve had parents excited for a day off from the kids. I found most understand and have been there and know the costs

Emma Kingsland
Emma Kingsland 25 Apr 2018

In the invite
Respectfully this is an adult only occasion/celebration

Naomi Smith
Naomi Smith 25 Apr 2018

I was planning on putting the names of people on the invite that are invited. So only adults names or if kids are invited then il be putting each individual on the invite so hoping that works for me x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

My sister just put it on her invite no children.. but she doesn’t have kids.. to be honest when we’ve been invited to weddings a children aren’t invited we make the most of it and enjoy and child free day xx

Sarah Asquith
Sarah Asquith 25 Apr 2018

Although we do love all of your little cherubs we would request that our wedding remain adults only. So book a sitter and dust off those dancing shoes!

Beverley Askew
Beverley Askew 25 Apr 2018

I put just the people's names we were inviting. Personally I think its rude to assume your children are invited if their names are not on the invite, if it was me receiving the invitation without their names then I would assume they were not invited, but we have had a couple of guests who have asked and I just explained that no, unfortunately we were up to our maximum limit.

Kayleigh E Alman
Kayleigh E Alman 25 Apr 2018

We’ve automatically thought that kids weren’t invited where ever we’ve been invited to x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We've already spoken to most people, but put a little note on the invites to say that we were unable to accommodate children during the day but they would be welcome in the evening.

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 25 Apr 2018

We put he following on our invites:
In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult only occasion. We hope this advance notice means you are still able to share our big day and will enjoy having the evening off!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

If stating ‘no children’ I think you should also mention that only children of close family are invited.
If I got an invite stating no children but when I got there I see other children were there I’d think that my children weren’t good enough to be invited, but if it states only close family members children then i think everyone would understand.

Although if I ever get an invite I always ask if kids are invited anyway as I don’t want to take them unless I have to lol

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We put that we would like our day to be an adult only occassion and that only close family children will be in attendance. It's still caused havoc but you can't please everyone. Xx

Ann-Marie Lamey
Ann-Marie Lamey 25 Apr 2018

Make it very clear on the invite that it’s adults only and the only children will be page boys or flower girls.
A cousin of mine didn’t make it clear I found found out after accepting the invite from his mum that my child wasn’t invited. People may find it a little upsetting that there children aren’t invited to such a big event.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

I’d just be honest and say due to numbers we unfortunately unable to invite children apart from those in the wedding party. Think people would appreciate and understand if your honest. Xx

Stacey Harrison
Stacey Harrison 25 Apr 2018

Just don't put there names on in vites

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 25 Apr 2018

We've put something along the lines of due to venue restrictions we hope you can appreciate that children and plus ones are only invited if named on the RSVP.

Roxie Houghton
Roxie Houghton 25 Apr 2018

Just don't put their names on the invites? Good luck! X

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UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018


UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We received an invite addressed to my partner and I and we had to ask about our daughter because she was never mentioned nor was it mentioned that they were not having children in the day. Not sure how best to address it but I certainly would advise people of your wishes to avoid confusion or them needing to ask xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We wrote specific names on the invites and also put in an information card which included “Due to a guest number restriction at our venue, we are unable to extend this invitation to everyone’s children. We hope that you will see this as an opportunity to enjoy an adult day, let your hair down and enjoy the party with us.” We’ve had most of our replies back and so far no one has questioned it. Hope that helps x

Lisa Bennett
Lisa Bennett 25 Apr 2018

We added “We politely request no children outside the family” to our invitations

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Apr 2018

We wrote the invites with specific names on and a little poem about children...feel free to use it ' to give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears, we politely request no children. So book a sitter and dust off those dancing shoes' x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 25 Apr 2018

Hi I agree with Lisa :)

Helen Ferguson
Helen Ferguson 26 Apr 2018

Your invitation will say it all as you only put those names on. If not being invited then they're not named on the invite & that should be respected


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