UKbride Member Request 25 Mar 2018

Hi all, wondering if anyone has any advice, we want to get married at a...

Hi all, wondering if anyone has any advice, we want to get married at a specific church because close family members are buried there, so it's special to us, both of us only really go to church for weddings, funerals etc., so didn't really know how organising a church wedding works. We have arranged a meeting with the vicar and the meeting is going to take place at my house, does anyone know what sort of questions there will be? Should we put food out for him? If so, light refreshments or a proper meal? Is it appropriate to talk in the living room sat on sofas or should it be at the dining table?

Alanna May
Alanna May 25 Mar 2018

I would ask him if he wants dinner are he may have other meetings that evening and you dont want him to feel obliged to stay x

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 26 Mar 2018

My Father was a vicar. I would suggest light refreshments, i.e. tea, biscuits and/or cake would be in order. If you wanted to offer a sandwich it would not go amiss.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Mar 2018

No food. Have a look at the website called your church wedding. That is what your Vicar will point you too. He will ask questions why you want to get married in church, understanding what marriage is etc. He will also ask all your details and you will fill in a purple form. You will need to have a qualifying connection to the church or attend for so many weeks to be married there. My dad is a Vicar and I don’t think he’s ever been given a meal. A cup of tea yes! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 Mar 2018

We had a church of England wedding. At our initial meeting with the vicar he asked about our eligibility to be married in that church as you have to have a link with the parish but there's lots of different ways you can have that. He also asked a bit about us, how long we'd been together etc as part of their responsibility is making sure it's not a fake marriage. He also talked us through the church requirements e.g. attending a marriage preparation class, banns being read at both the church we were married in and our local parish church as we'd moved away from the area, as that's an important legal bit. It was all quite relaxed. We had more in depth planning meetings with the vicar who married us at a later date

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 30 Mar 2018

If it's CofE, you may find this helpful

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 31 Mar 2018

I think you're over thinking it just tea and biscuits I would ask about about costing and payment methods, maybe if they do a wedding prep day (We did one which was fab) also I would check about rules with flowers etc we got married in Lent so we had to remove all flowers after the service. Also maybe work out dates for banns to be read so you can be there. Good luck


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