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UKbride Member Request 17 Mar 2018

Trying to sort our guest list, I have aunties and uncles I speak to and some...

Trying to sort our guest list, I have aunties and uncles I speak to and some I don't. Do I invite all to keep it fair or only invite the ones I speak to? I don't want to cause any unnecessary friction? X

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

U would invite the ones you speak to and invite the others to the reception. I have alot I don't speak to and they aren't being invited

Khati sturley
Khati sturley 19 Mar 2018

I have to say I wasn't going to invite one of my uncles as I hardly ever see him but I felt awful as I'd invited all my others I invited him.

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 19 Mar 2018

I'm only inviting the ones I speak too. The others won't be getting an invite at all

Cathy McBrearty
Cathy McBrearty 19 Mar 2018

We have only invited people who have an active part in our lives. I have relatives I haven't spoke to in years that haven't had an invite at all, others are invited as evening guests and those we see/speak to regularly have been invited all day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

Personally, I would invite those you speak to, and if you have capacity invite the others for the evening. We are having to make some tough decisions with our invite list, and having to reflect on where we have or have not been included in certain family/friend occasions. This guest list thing isn't easy!

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 19 Mar 2018

Ive invited those i speak to..On my side & weve invited most of h2bs relatives so i get to meet them & they have a catch up as they live miles away..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

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Kay Sanders
Kay Sanders 19 Mar 2018

Its your day no one else’s, invite who you want there and focus on enjoying your day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

I only had the people who meant the most to us when it came to family there were one i didn't invite

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

If you don't speak to them is it going to cause an issue anyway? I wouldn't personally x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

Guestlist is one of the hardest parts of wedding planning, so you have my sympathies! People said to me that no matter what we did, someone would be upset, so just invite the people we really want to be there.

Stu Reeve
Stu Reeve 19 Mar 2018

Yes I know I'm actually a groom (but when it's two guys getting wed and neither of you looks good in a gown..etc) My other half and I have been having exactly the same quandary so we're very much going for the approach of only inviting the ones we speak to often.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

You’re day invite who you want! I learnt this with my 1st wedding where I was “expected” to invite family members I’d not spoken to or heard from for years because my parents felt it was right! 2nd time around please or offend it’s my day so I’ll invite whomever I see fit!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

I haven't even invited a sister because we don't talk to each other! Much better to brave a bit of friction when you send out invites, than have to deal with guests you don't actually want there, taking up the space your friends could've had!

Hollie Clifford
Holly Clifford 19 Mar 2018

I’m only doing the ones I speak too xx

Rhian Priest-Dibben
Rhian Priest-Dibben 19 Mar 2018

I speak to all apart from 1 really, so have to invite them (as would be only one not invited haha) other half on the other hand is only inviting one as doesnt even speak to his others

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

I’m only inviting the ones I still have contact with. They can’t really get upset if they don’t know you that well. Personally, I wouldn’t expect to be invited to the wedding of family I haven’t seen or spoken to for years.

Amy Carr
Amy Carr 19 Mar 2018

Best rule I was ever given was only to invite the people you have seen in the last 12 months. It's an old tradition that I really think needs taking seriously. Weddings are costly without having to invite great auntie Ethal from the back end of nowhere, who held you for 5 minutes as a baby! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

Me and my h2b made a choice early on that full day guests would be invited only if we had both met them that includes family and friends xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Mar 2018

It’s your wedding. Invite whom you want there, ignore family politics. Don’t think I’d want someone I don’t speak to at our wedding!!

Amee Goulding
Amee Goulding 20 Mar 2018

Im not inviting people who dont actually make an effort with us as a family.
I have two half sisters who i am not inviting, they dont text or come see me( if im lucky i get a facebook happy birthday) . My dad thinks im wrong but ive put my foot down and said if they want to come its evening only which i know they wont due to location of the reception. Its the same with most of my family, whereas my h2bs family even though most live in Scotland all ring and text send cards so they are all invited. When they come down they make a point to see us.
Its your wedding you invite who you want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Mar 2018

I have 4 uncles on my mums side and only 2 are being invited! One I haven’t spoke to since I was 15 and the other one just causes shit at every family occasion so I don’t want my wedding being one of them! If you don’t talk to them why waste money! That’s the way I see it!

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