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UKbride Member Request 17 Feb 2018

I need advise. My maid of honour is starting to expect her opinion will...

I need advise. My maid of honour is starting to expect her opinion will change mine to the point she's glaring at me when I say "Well it's my wedding and we're not having that" She's started an open relationship with some who eats with his mouth open so now I'm getting anxious because I don't know how to say call it what you want but I call it friends with benefits hes not coming and ruining other people's day by having to listen to him eat

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Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 17 Feb 2018

What advice do you need? To tell her she is no longer your bridesmaid or to issue the invitation minus her new friend when she may remove herself from the role?

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 19 Feb 2018

I’m really confused what your asking. Are you asking how you approach the subject of his eating, how you tell her he’s not invited, how you tell her you don’t like her ‘open relationship’ or how to approach her about it being your wedding and you having what you want?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

This is my favourite post on here ever!
Just tell her he's not coming - it IS your wedding. No one needs a noisy eater

Natasha Harris
Natasha Harris 19 Feb 2018

Hahaha 😂 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Tell her that there is no plus one, if anything she is likely not to want to go! (Two birds one stone!!)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Look just give your invitations out minus the plus one for your maid of honour and explain that you cant accommodate him at your wedding as you had already starting paying for the reception and for your guests meals (price per head) and at the time he wasn't on the seen therefore wasn't included

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Victoria Mellor can i uninvite Matt because he eats noisy too? 🤣

Heather Perry
Heather Perry 19 Feb 2018

Think if shes like that, id probably tell her she isnt a maid of honour

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Can you just invite him to the evening reception ? She will be too busy with her MOH duties in the day anyway. Maybe compromise? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Debbie Hardie the struggles haha xxxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Seriously?? Lol.. have you got a system for.vetting the eating habits of all your guests??

Aimee Taylor
Aimee Taylor 19 Feb 2018

My "ex" MOH tried taking over everything to the point of she was calling it her wedding party and how I have to buy what she wanted to wear (which was boarderline hooker ) needless to say she last a month then was told where to go

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Hayley Munro Bee Sutherland this is hilarious

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

You serious!! You are not inviting someone because they eat loudly?Wether you want to call him boyfriend or friend with benefits is either here nor there, the fact that your MOH would like him by her side on such a special occasion shows she sees it differently. Is it worth losing a friendship over?

Lucy Glew
Lucy Glew 19 Feb 2018

This is a joke right? 😂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Sarah Porteous soz, you can’t come to the wedding ...you eat too loud 🤣🤣

Natalie McCarthy
Natalie McCarthy 19 Feb 2018

Sorry love but you are having a bridezilla moment...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Natalie Wood x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

I was in a similar situation I am unable to have kids at my wedding so I told my maid of honour and because her son can't come she pulled out of being my maid of honour oh well her loss not mine. If you don't want someone there just tell them it is your day and you don't want anything to spoil it x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 19 Feb 2018

Rachael McIlveen I'm demoting you from MOH cause you eat too loud 🤚

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Is this even real though?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Ok, let’s be a little realistic here. Firstly, if she’s challenging you and kicking up a fuss when a MOH role is to support you, is she really right for the role? Is there someone who might fit what you expect better? It’s a privilege to be asked to be MOH, not a right.
Secondly, casual relationship and noisy eater or not, weddings are an expensive business. Why would you invite someone you barely know? People agonise over inviting family they haven’t seen for years because of the cost of it, why should someone you have known 5 minutes be there just because your MOH wants him there? Plus, there seems a good chance you’ll end up with pictures with a man that in years to come you’ll be wondering who he was and why he was there.

Stacey Harrison
Stacey Harrison 20 Feb 2018

U can't not invite some coz th way thy eat

Laura Osborne
Laura Osborne 20 Feb 2018

This has to be a joke surely? 😂😂😂

Amy Riggle
Amy Riggle 20 Feb 2018

This is hilarious 😂 Tori Richardson! Do I need to vet Jays eating habits?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

Haha just choked on my tea lol some of the questions on here..so I'm kind of confused is the sole reason you don't want to invite this dude because you don't like how he eats? Maybe I'm missing the point but seems like a bit of a silly thing to be fretting about imo.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I'd double check with all your guests to see if any others are noisy eaters?? Either don't invite them all or you could sit them all together at the back

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 20 Feb 2018

I thought a wedding was about marrying the person you love? This is pathetic and childish. Grow up.

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