Samantha Miller
Samantha Miller 12 Feb 2018

Is anyone else not having bridesmaids? The issue is that my two closest...

Is anyone else not having bridesmaids? The issue is that my two closest friends despise each other and I don’t want that negativity on my day so I am just going to have any at all. Any ideas on how to break it gently without hurting any feelings?

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Mary Green
Mary Green 12 Feb 2018

Say your not wanting bridesmaids! There’s no hard feelings when you don’t want something - unless you have previously told them they will be bridesmaids. And be honest! End of the day if they are not friends then you saying the truth about your feelings shouldn’t make a difference because it’s your day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

Im not having friends as bridesmaids, im havin my childreb and that it, my best friend bit peeved cuz means alot to her but im npt ha in a big do

Sarah Lockey
Sarah Lockey 14 Feb 2018

I’m only having my sister and my soon to be step daughters. Just have to be honest and tell them x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

I'm having 1 MOH but no bridesmaids x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

Just tell them you are not having any bridesmaids, I would also consider telling them the truth that it is mostly as they don’t get on well. No doubt as they are your closest friends they may want to get involved with your wedding somehow, if you tell them it’ll make it easier for you!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

Tell them the truth. You not having bridesmaids as they don't get along and you are not choosing between them. Might give them the kick up the backside they need. Surely they can get along for one if you really want them to be there for you.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

I'm only having my 3 boys , no bridesmaids . Couldn't decide who and didn't want to offend anyone , so just decided not too ! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

Cand afford bridesmaids so not having them xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

Since you two can’t put your differences aside for five minutes and insist on being childish and immature....... no just maybe go for something subtle but touches on the truth. I’ve decided this because you two don’t get on and I don’t want anyone to get their feelings hurt.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

I'm having zero bridesmaids. Too much agg and drama. Save you a bomb on dresses and etc as well. Plus every person I've spoken to said they hated being a bridesmaid so it's another excuse not to bother :)

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 14 Feb 2018

I’m having my two daughters as my bridesmaids and my h2b’s niece as my M.O.H as my “best friend” can no longer give a shit and no one else bothers.... keep it in the family and I know I won’t be disappointed. Just tell em you’re not having bridesmaids and leave it at that - it’s your day and you don’t owe anyone any explanations cx

Anya Williams
Anya Williams 14 Feb 2018

My friend didn't have bridesmaids - it's the thing she regrets. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

That makes me very sad and guessing it makes you sad too :(. Quite frankly, if these girls love you and are your best friends, they should get over themselves and be civil for your sake! I'd be honest with them though and see if they both have enough decency to be civil.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

I've considered this but wouldn't it look odd in photos? x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Feb 2018

In just having my 2 daughter's.

Amy Dear
Amy Dear 15 Feb 2018

I’m not having bridesmaids, only because our wedding party is so small, if I did that would be half the guests 😂 xx

UKbride Member 15 Feb 2018

Tell them the truth they might be mature enough to put things aside for your big day

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 15 Feb 2018

I’m having bridesmaids but I’ve had to let people down... most have been absolutely fine and one extremely upset. At the end of the day it’s your day and what you want is what counts. Be true to yourself and polite and you’ve done all you can

Lynnette Brooke
Lynnette Brooke 15 Feb 2018

I was a bridesmaid for my friend and she asked another of her friends who I really didn’t get along with (she had bullied me at a previous job to the point where I had to leave) but we made it work even planning my friends hen do for her together and going for meals etc as a group. Your friends should see that it’s your special day and do what they can for you. In my case it didn’t actually get as far as the wedding day as the other bridesmaid had been seriously slagging off the bride so was fired. Good luck with whatever you decide and have the wedding you want 😊

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Feb 2018

Just say your not having any bridesmaids. End of. Dont need to say no more than that

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