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UKbride Member Request 11 Feb 2018

Do people take there mother in law's to the choosing of the dress. My mum...

Do people take there mother in law's to the choosing of the dress. My mum wants it to just be me and her.

65 Comments
E Wilson
E Wilson 11 Feb 2018

My mother in law can't keep anything secret she will tell everyone and shoe pictures. I will be taking my Mum and Gran.

Stacey Gray
Stacey Gray 11 Feb 2018

I would take mine id she wanted to come but its your personal choice x

Shelley Rayworth
Shelley Rayworth 12 Feb 2018

I'm only takibg my best friend, she knows what I like an she'll give me her honest opinion and I want it to be a surprise for everyone else x

Lauren Hayes
Lauren Hayes 12 Feb 2018

I’m having the same problem but it is our decision at the end of the day and we decide who we want to come dress shopping with us (without sounding too much like bridezilla) 😂xx

Kirsty Wallace
Kirsty Wallace 13 Feb 2018

I’m taking my future mother in law along to my dress fittings etc. As she has 3 sons so I think it would be nice for her to experience it all. X

Robin Beachell
Robin Beachell 13 Feb 2018

Yeah everyone i know did but it up to you i don't think it fare to leave her out tho I'm taking mine

Ellen Blossom
Ellen Blossom 13 Feb 2018

I want my mum there, and I'm also taking my bridal party. It's up to you at the end of the day, but my mother in law can be rude and upsets people so I haven't asked her. If you want both mum's then take both or do two trips. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I had my friend with me to find my dress and took my mum along for the first fitting (she hates shopping) so it was a surprise for everyone else

Karen Roberts
Karen Roberts 13 Feb 2018

I took my mother in law to be dress shopping along with my mum and both bridesmaid she has 4 sons so wouldn’t experience the dress shopping side of it x

Jenny Collier
Jenny Collier 13 Feb 2018

I took my mum, MIL-to-be and sister who is my maid of honour. It’s personal choice and everyone is different. You do what’s right for you xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Do it!!
I for one loved having my mother in law with us,
With my h2b being an only child it was the only time she would get to do it.

The whole experience was magical and she was so grateful

Amy Vigor-Green
Amy Vigor-Green 13 Feb 2018

I didnt take either mums with as want the dress the to be a surprise on the day for them. They didn't like it but it's my decision.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Yes I did. I had my Mum, Mother in Law and my Maid of Honour when i went for my dress. I loved it as i got all of their opinions of the dresses i tried on. xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

No. I only wanted my mum there, and she didn't want MiL there because she felt it should be a mother\daughter thing.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I did - but only because I am non-contact with my mother.

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 13 Feb 2018

I ordered mine from ebay.. so i picked it by myself..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

My mother in law hasn’t been to any appointments with me, I don’t want anyone they’re apart from my mum and grandma. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Up to you who you take me personally just taking my mum and nan because that's who I want there x

Donna Green
Donna Green 13 Feb 2018

I took my brother and sister my mum and mother in law don't want to see it till the day xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Never in a million years ‍️

Leanne Young
Leanne Young 13 Feb 2018

No I only took my mum. Only my mum and bridesmaids will see my dress before our big day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I think it should be just your Mum. A special time for you two.

Kirsty Charlotte
Kirsty Charlotte 13 Feb 2018

I took mine. She doesn’t have any daughters so wanted her to have that experience.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Take who you want. I went alone

Emma Richardson
Emma Richardson 13 Feb 2018

I just took my mother and my grandma because she was buying it for me, I never took my mother in law to be with us I think it’s a nice surprise for them too when they see you on the day and without being disrespectful to anyone I think it is a mother daughter moment but it’s upto the bride who she takes..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I took my mother, mother in law and my bridesmaids which worked well x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I took my brothers gf with me it was too far for my mil to go and my mum didnt want to come with me xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Am I the only b2b who's breaking tradition and taking my h2b and maid of honour? 🤔 but seriously honey you take who you want with you x

Roxie Houghton
Roxie Houghton 13 Feb 2018

I invited my mum and mother in law.
I'm close to both so I didn't think twice about inviting them both.
Afterwards My MIL kept texting to say how lovely it was and how much she appreciated the invite, it was great to have them both there x

Sian Elizabeth
Sian Elizabeth 13 Feb 2018

I'm taking my mum, my sister in law and my mil along. My mil has 2 boys and so this will be the only time she gets to do something like this xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

If my mother in law wasn't with me, I never would of found my dress! She picked it out for me! :) But it's up to you, I wanted lots of different opinions to help me find the dress! :) Good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Personal choice I only took my mum no one else and never told no one till after I bought the dress

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I took my mother dress shopping on our own the first time then brought my mother in law as well the second time

Emma Kingsland
Emma Kingsland 13 Feb 2018

I didn’t but I did take in laws to see it when I went back in to order it.
Do what you want to do, if it’s just you and your bridal party then that’s the way it is x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I took my mil she has no daughters so was a great experience

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I just took my mam because i don't want anyone else to see it til the day

Lizzie May
Lizzie May 13 Feb 2018

I took my husband to be! Doesn't help you though. :). It's your choice entirely. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I invited my MIL but I've known her since I was 14, she's like a second mum to me.

It's all about who you are close with and who you want to be there

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Personal choice. I just went with my mum but my bridesmaids and mother in law were invited to a fitting and to see my dress once I'd chosen x

Bethany Smith
Bethany Smith 13 Feb 2018

I asked my Mum what she would prefer. Its obviously 'my day' but my Mum being there was a big deal for me. So I asked her if she would mind me inviting my MIL or of she would feel a little pushed out.

In the end I did invite her but she wasn't able to make it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I only took my mum with me. I’m the only girl with 4 brothers. So wanted just a day for me and my mum. Plus I don’t get on with my mother in law so it wouldn’t of been right for her to be there as I know for sure she would of made remarks.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I was going to but not now after all the upset caused recently

Andrea Lawlor
Andrea Lawlor 13 Feb 2018

I would have loved to as mine only has boys but she lives 300 miles away. I took mum and bridesmaids instead 👍👍

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I took my soon to be sis inlaw with me. Her n i have the same tastes in fashion plus she will tell me if it looked horrible on me. So when she went wow to my dress. Knew it was the one :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

its what YOU want that matters, not what your mum wants, nor what anyone else does.

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 13 Feb 2018

In took mine to the first session but the rest were just me and mum

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

My mother in law came with me. It was my choice and wanted to have her there and for her to be involved.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

As a mum of the bride to be I had no objection as my daughters m in law to be has 4 sons. We all get on so my daughter asked if I would mind. Why should I ? But brides choice :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I asked my mil to come to the first one with my mum and sister. But after that I didn't ask again cause I only wanted my own mum there as thought it was a special mother/daughter moment. X

Clare Mayfield
Clare Mayfield 13 Feb 2018

I am taking mine with me...she is just as much a part of our day than anyone else x

Dawn Louise
Dawn Louise 13 Feb 2018

I took my Mam and my 3 month old son xx

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 13 Feb 2018

My MIL didn’t come to mine, and I think most will understand that it is a very personal thing for the bride and her family and close friends. However I did let my MIL look at the dress when I brought it home as she looked after it for me so H2B wouldn’t see it

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I only had my mum and matron of honour (sis-in-law). I have invited my mother in law to the dress fitting instead

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

Mum & daughter only x

Rebecca Saunders
Rebecca Saunders 13 Feb 2018

I just went with my mum and dad xx

Georgia Fuller
Georgia Fuller 13 Feb 2018

I had my mum, my mother in law, my cousin, my two second cousins (ages 3 and 6 at the time), my auntie, one of my bridesmaids, and my 90 year old gran. Take whoever you want

Nikita Byrne
Nikita Byrne 13 Feb 2018

I did but in all honesty it wasnt a big wow moment for me. I was picking a dress. I think especially if like my MIL they have no daughters its a very nice bonding experience

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

I took my MIL. She only has boys and I wanted to include her in this special moment. It was also a nice opportunity for her and my mum to spend some time together :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Feb 2018

My mother in law saw me when i walked down the aisle.... i took my best friend with me... then my Mam and one of my sisters x

Samantha Drury
Samantha Drury 13 Feb 2018

I had my mum, mother in law & bridesmaids all wanting to get involved with the dress choosing.

So the first time it was was just mum & me... then i took mum & the mother in law
Next booking will be adding the bridesmaids so they all get a look in & a say & everyone is happy

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Feb 2018

I had my mum and my nan and grandad with me

Hannah Dale
Hannah Dale 14 Feb 2018

It’s completely up to you and how you feel I’m taking my mum and his mum and my bridesmaids

Jessica Melling
Jessica Melling 14 Feb 2018

It's your choice and no one can make you feel bad about what you choose. If your mother in law would like to come, why not? If she isn't bothered either way then don't take her. X

Kerry Martyn
Kerry Martyn 18 Feb 2018

I tried dresses on yesterday... took 2 friends and my partners aunt (my MOH) I found 'the dress' before I purchase I shall be taking the MIL to see it

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 18 Feb 2018

I didn't. She didn't expect to be invited and she also lives across the country from us. I have shown her a photo though.

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