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UKbride Member Request 31 Jan 2018

I have fallen out with my bridesmaid and she has ignored me for 2 weeks!!...

I have fallen out with my bridesmaid and she has ignored me for 2 weeks!! How long until I can tell her she's not invited??

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 31 Jan 2018

Hi who's fault was it for the falling out ? Don't leave it any longer get it resolved. If she is being unreasonable then tell her her services are no longer required :)

Patricia Hales
Patricia Hales 31 Jan 2018

I had a similar situation, I know what kind of person she really is.
The only advice I can give you is try to talk to her and if nothing happens you possibly have your answer. You could send her a txt or letter if you can't reach her. Don't let her reaction get you down, think happy thoughts. Everything will fall into place, good luck.

Sophie Pollard
Sophie Pollard 31 Jan 2018

I’m in the same sort of situation apart from the fact that we haven’t argued, she just won’t respond to me. I am going to wait until I need to buy the dresses (about 6months before the wedding) and if we still aren’t speaking then I will tell her she is no longer invited x

Dawn  Roberts
Dawn Roberts 31 Jan 2018

I'm sorry you're facing this sticky situation. :( Personally, I would try and talk it out with her and depending on her reaction and response, take it fro there. I really hope you manage to sort it out. x

UKbride Member 31 Jan 2018

Same story...invited her to evenibg reception which made it clear shes no longer a bridesmaid

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Maybe she is waiting for you to contact her. Text her and clear the air.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Try and talk to her. You obviously wanted her as a bridesmaid for a reason. Hopefully this one fight won't ruin things for good.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

You can tell her at any time. The question should be though, are you sure you no longer want her invited or is it just a reaction to the current situation. I’d not leave it longer to sort out, try speaking and then make a decision. Don’t just do it as a knee-jerk reaction. Once you’ve said you’re uninvited, you can’t take the meaning behind those words back even if you do re-invite x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Don't be to hasty you clearly were very good friends before this? Or you wouldn't have asked her to be your bridesmaid. You need to bite the bullet call or message her talk it out before you make any rash decisions you maybe angry now but try sort it. Xx

Emma Ross
Emma Ross 1 Feb 2018

One of mine ignored me for a year, when I messaged to ask her what’s going on I got blocked, I then found out she didn’t even want to be bridesmaid! Just talk to her and go from there x

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 1 Feb 2018

My Maid of Honour fell out with me last month, Hung up phone during a phone call. ... within days she sent me a long message on fb saying she quit & that we have drifted apart... After 14yr friendship, She says i dont support her lessbian lifestyle.. Which is most hurtful cause i was the only 1 she kept in touch with after leaving the area & me that took her in when she wanted to leave & listened to her cry on phone atleast once a month when, they had a row... It hard to see a friend in bad controling relationship & Not be able to help. But it was her choice & i accepted it.. Now i have whole outfit & no1 to wear it....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Try to sort things out first

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Maybe send her a message saying when you're ready to talk about things then I am too .. if she doesn't respond in 2 weeks I'd try make contact to say you no longer want her as bridesmaid.
Unfortunately weddings sometimes bring out the worst in people whether it be jealousy spitefulness or selfishness depending on how strong a friendship you have will decide whether or not you want to get through this or cut her out of your life. I think without knowing the full story it's hard to advise 100% but hopefully all is sorted well before your big day you don't need that hassle and she should understand and be less stubborn if she's your bridesmaid x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Surely if she is your bridesmaid she means enough to you to sort things out, not just want to uninvite her?! I'd text her and say that you really want to meet and clear the air.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

As above. Talk to her.
Do not text unless you have to.. there is No tone of voice or meaning being words in a message and so it can be taken the wrong way if that person is led or upset etc
Speak to her. Go visit. Phone her. Make the effort.
Not because you have too.. but because if you are or were close... if you don't you may always wonder what if in the future and you can't turn back.
If you do all the above at least you know YOU have done all you can. You will not be always be to blame yourself.
Be honest with her and say your upset.. miss her etc what ever is applicable.
If she's in a bad relationship it may not be her choice or idea.. so try to get her alone. Face to Face is best as it's harder to fib to someone you know..

Having been in a bad relationship before I know. And it's hard for friends to stay with you.. but if you want her there. Speak to her.
If it's still a no go.
Leave it being the better person and know you have done nothing wrong.
Then have a look around you and see who you would like to be with you on your special day x it's two special people's day. As long as you two are happy x That's all that matters xx

Sarah-louise Neilan
Sarah-louise Neilan 1 Feb 2018

I myself have fell out with a brides maid because I chose a diff maid of honour my weddings 2 year away but this girl was acting more of a zilla than I was refusing to wear any dress I pick it was either she picked or she's not coming even though I'm the bride and buying them! Then she tried to change my colours which I refused to do so it was just a little change slightly different colour but we ended up in an argument told her it's still open if she wants her bridesmaid spot but then she says she needs to think about it so as alot of people have said fuck her (excuse the French) as far as I'm concerned she's out I now need another bridesmaid to fill her place since so want three lots too do now this added in by Tim the type of person that won't give in if your out then your out that's it don't care if it's two year away you don't treat me like shit or act like it's your wedding so nah not happening sorry for the rant

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Surly being a bridesmaids it’s a best friend and someone you have known for a long time!! What a shame try to sort things out!!
I’d hate it if me and my bridesmaid fell out she means the world to me

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 1 Feb 2018

Tell them straight out their behaviour is added stress

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