Charlene Hook
Charlene Hook 28 Jan 2018

I’m struggling with planning my wedding. All I’ve managed to do is book...

I’m struggling with planning my wedding. All I’ve managed to do is book the ceremony venue. I originally wanted red and black colour scheme but am so unsure now. Both of us want a small wedding but we have big families and that’s what is bumping up our guest numbers has anyone got any advice for me?

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 28 Jan 2018

Hi do you mean you have booked the ceremony and the venue. The easiest thing to do is just invite nearest family members only :)

Stacey Hutchinson
Stacey Hutchinson 29 Jan 2018

For the colour scheme you should look at the colours you want, using pinterest is great way to help decide on a colour scheme. As for the family invites as Lucy said invite only close family for the day and extended family for the evening,

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Close family at the wedding and others at the reception. That's what im doing.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Close family and close friends at the wedding and so many at night that's what we are doing all ours is sorted now xx

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 29 Jan 2018

I know the feeling. Our close family comes to 72 people and I mean literally the closest. Extended family and friends is another 50.

We’re not even able to have our best friends at the day because of how big our families are. The only people who aren’t family is the best man, his fiancé and their little boy.. but they may aswell be! I’ve found it really hard to keep costs down! But just get quotes from everyone and everywhere! Get what you want at the cheapest possible price! And don’t be afraid to ask them to do it cheaper, the worst that can happen is they say no xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Me and my h2b have huge families and our wedding package is for 40 guests. We've made a decision that it's immediate family, aunties and uncles and very very close friends only for the day. This totals 50 so we have 10 extra to pay for. Cousins, partners and other friends for the evening which totals 110 with no kids included. I'd love to have all my family and friends and their kids there but budget won't allow it so we've had to just set the rules and go with it. You do what you have to!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

I'm getting married aug and doing red and black but do have a little silver to brake it up sliver and red jewellery and silver tiaras button holes black red silver bridesmaids red and black flowers with black dressers mine's wine with silver crystal flowers mens black suits with dark red shirts silver ties

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

We had only parents siblings and our chosen bridesmaid/best men at the wedding then had reception after for family and friends by splitting the two you could make it more informal like a buffet instead of sit down wedding breakfast etc

Nia Williams
Nia Williams 29 Jan 2018

The venue iv got is for 50 day guests nd we both hv big families but hv limited our day guests to parents grandparents aunts uncles brothers nd sister nd their kids nd hv 2close friends who r bridesmaids,rest of family are invited to night x

Laura Campbell
Laura Campbell 29 Jan 2018

Elope. That's what I'm thinking of doing.. This is stressful...

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Like all the others said, just invite your close family to the day and every one else to the evening. Your family should all understand and just be happy to be invited to the evening do. As for the colour scheme, look on Pinterest for ideas on your colours. Hope that helps a bit. Good luck xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Invite rule
Only invite those people who you want to invite.
Don't be pressurised by parents.
Only invite those who you would want to.pay for a meal for.
Only invite those who you are close to.
Only invite those you are on regular contact with and see often
Just because you have big families doesn't mean you have to invite them all

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

Close family, grandparents, aunts and uncles and closest friends to whole thing. Then cousins, other family and friends to the evening. Your colour scheme choose colours you like and then Pinterest for ideas. My husband and I's favourite colour is navy blue so we did that. My dress was ivory so had that and got married a month ago today so had silver touches and fairy lights to give a wintery look. Don't panic would be my big thing. Just because you have a large family, doesn't mean you need to invite everyone would be my other xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 29 Jan 2018

We went for red & black as a colour scheme.... But found it a bit on the Gothic side - so by adding a touch of white brightened it a bit.

As for the family maybe try to stick to immediate family only & leave out the ones you only see once every few years

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