Julie Locke
Julie Locke 21 Jan 2018

Is it just me but im due to be married in july yet feel like cancelling,...

Is it just me but im due to be married in july yet feel like cancelling, money a strain, dont know where to begin or continue with wedding preps. I love my man more than anything,

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Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 21 Jan 2018

Hi Julie, I can relate to this as I was feeling that before Christmas. Main thing is have you got your wedding venue and the registrar booked? After that everything can be sorted a thing at a time. Write a list of what you want, dress, bridesmaids, guests (numbers could be dictated by venue and price) and work through it a bit at a time so that it doesn't feel so overwhelming. Good luck

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 21 Jan 2018

Hi I don't but not as excited as I thought I would be still too much to do :)

Alison Jarvis
Alison Jarvis 21 Jan 2018

I’m quite enjoying it although I’m getting married in May and started by booking the venues and register office last July . The easiest way to start is having a in-depth conversation with your h2b and find out what he wants and then you can book your venue. Once you know where it’s going to be you can then choose your theme/colours. Try not to let it over whelm you. I found the most stressful thing to sort was the dress . Good look and if it all becomes too much you can always postpone it for now and do it next year.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

I'm also getting married in July and I'm having a depressive stage. I can't get excited about it. Everything's booked and deposits paid etc but money's tight. Our everyday life is a strain atm and having to move house :( your not alone!!! Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

I think most brides at some point feel like it's all too much. I know I have! Just think about the end result though, you end up married to the man you love

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

Bust through this bit, everyone gets to the bit where you just feel like life would be easier if you weren't stressing over a wedding. It sounds cliche but it really will all come together in the end, and you'll be wondering what you were worrying about xxx

Rachel Turnbull
Rachel Turnbull 21 Jan 2018

I’m getting married in April and we’re like that just now.

Both of us are struggling a little financially with it being January and Christmas costing a fortune etc, and we still have a good bit to pay out on the wedding but I must admit, it has never once crossed my mind to cancel.. Only thought I’ve had is to cut back on food costs or days out etc and trying to save money on other things where we can in the mean time, we have a 2 car household and I’ve cut back the use of mine as much as I can to save money too. My insurance will be up for renewal and I won’t be renewing, I’ll be sorning my car until after the wedding. I’ve tried selling things I don’t need anymore too etc. There are ways of getting a bit extra cash in 🙂

I’d be happy to donate all my wedding stuff to someone it could help out after the day too if anyone is in need 🙂

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

I’m getting married in may and I’ve just started so I can feel your pain! Just be patience and don’t stress your self out xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

It is normal to stress so don't worry on that side of things. Write down everything you have done so far, then write down everything you need to do. Shop around for deals, weddings don't have to cost the earth. I did my own favours and made my invites on Vistaprint. I did the bottles of whisky for the men myself. I bought a huge bottle of whisky from Makro and bought the little bottles online, saved almost £100. Tell your h2b how you feel, he probably doesn't realise how you are feeling, he can help too.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

Same getting married in July and feel as tho nothing is getting sorted and still so much to pay out

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

Funnily enough I had a very similar conversation with my fiance last night. I am so sick of everything right now. We have had nothing but problems thrown at us since we booked our wedding. Extremely tempted just to do it ourselves right now. All that matters is that I marry him

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

I get married in June i think by the time every thing paid for it will cost £2000 I have cut costs with what I can I have got family that are hair dress and makeup and got a car we can use for the day and another thing for favoured extra eBay and wish is a great service I got my dress in wed to be that cut costs of dress down to I hope this helps you

Tracey Whitehouse
Tracey Whitehouse 21 Jan 2018

We're getting married in 11 weeks and I was getting a bit stressed, talking it through with my fiancé has helped.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

See we decided to go very basic (never wanted a big flashy wedding) having a ceremony at the town hall, then a few drinks in a local bar before heading off on our honeymoon, we just want to commit to each other with our close friends and family and as with everyone finances are tight, for us its perfect - and no crazy hassels, found a lovely dress on amazon, just shoes to worry about now have a chat with your H2B and just do what makes you happy! Hope it goes well what ever you decide xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

Hiya, please don’t stress. Have you shared any of this with you fiancé? Also do you have bridesmaids - have a girly night in. Tell them you’re feeling overwhelmed and ask them for ideas to help. Divvy up the duties. Get them to do DIY jobs. Ask people at work to collect jam jars you can decorate.
Alternatively, make the wedding smaller - marrying your guy is all that matters after all. Have a smaller less formal party a few days afterwards. More relaxed and less stress. XxX

Cheryl Ellen
Cheryl Ellen 21 Jan 2018

If it’s due to financial issues then could you not have the wedding of your dreams at a fraction of the price and more personalised if you do lots yourself?

Emilie Sandelance
Emilie Sandelance 21 Jan 2018

We get married in 5 days time. It has been stressful. We have doubled our original budget. But I know it's all going to be worth it. Stick with it. You'll wonder what there was to worry about afterwards x

Catherine Hind
Catherine Hind 21 Jan 2018

Take a breather, talk to your hubby to be and good friends. Look at what you need to do and break it down priority order one step at a time. Then cross each completed task off. Do you need everything that you've got to pay out for? My hubby to be is sorting out music playlist and gift website on Prezola while I'm sorting out stationery etc. Its not all down to you to do everything. We've been quite strict with our budget as priced everything up before we started so we knew what we had to save for. Getting married should be a happy occasion so try not to get stressed x

Sharon  Fowles
Sharon Fowles 21 Jan 2018

We are getting married in August, its been a roller coaster since we got engaged last Febuary... we planned a small simple wedding at registry office followed by reception in local pubs function room.. Rooms are lovely, was so excited. Got dress i love.. finished Booking everything 4month ago, managing fine financially til my h2b's hours got cut unexpectedly at work.. Basicly loosing the spare that we were saving for the rest of wedding...
Leaving us £1,400 short, & can't get loans, etc.. Thankfully my wonderful mil2b has offered to lend us £1,000.& is paying for the food, & cake. Which has taken bit of the pressure off, but we will still have to pay her back, soon as poss.. I have been very stressed about it loosing sleep 2 but my h2b just kept saying it will be fine.. then 2 weeks ago my maid of honour fell out with me, after 14 yrs, So that has cause more stress, & now i have to do my own make up too cause she was doing it for me.. i havent a clue so sat & watched youtube for few hours to find, i need to go make up shopping & lots of practice.. lol.. And my dress still needs altering, but if i keep comfort eating it will fit just fine, & i will of regained all the 2stone 6lb that i lost.... Good to know i am not the only bride to be thats stressing, Good luck every1..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

I felt like this and we have just decided to have a week day wedding with parents and kids followed by a meal and then a party on the following Saturday for extended family and friends. I feel so much better as I’m not one for fuss and my h2b as been married before. It kind of depends on you and your h2b but at the end of the day it’s about you 2 and no one else.

Rachel Higgins
Rachel Higgins 21 Jan 2018

Same(: getting married end of July and only just started planning 3 weeks ago! Partner in navy so trying to plan as quickly as we can before something comes up i.e deployment!!! Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 21 Jan 2018

Lisa Bennett
Lisa Bennett 22 Jan 2018

Hi, yes can relate to this.. we have a church wedding with family and close friends, have opted for an afternoon tea at the pub opposite afterwards ( £7 a head) and then have a reception in the evening at a hotel. I’ve cut back on lots already, found bargains on eBay, making invitations on vistaprint, M&S do ready made cakes you can stack yourself! My most stressful thing was bridesmaid dresses, but opted for embellished maxi dresses from Very in the end, elasticated so hopefully no alterations!

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 22 Jan 2018

.....remember this as I got married in September 2017 ..... Happy for you to private inbox me on what you have left to do in case I have contacts to make it cheaper .... Important item is your man & you & your registration = so you get married .... & then either do it minimal to keep costs down OR just get married only & when you can afford it do a special anniversary renewal of vows in 5 years time ..... Plus don't forget to ask if any friends are good @ cakes, tailoring , photography or work in spare time as DJ or good with a I-pod shuffle ....
Warm wishes & look after your health ,
Love Sarah xx

Caroline Larner
Caroline Larner 22 Jan 2018

Weddings come with a lot to organise and do so can feel stressful and overwhelming! It sounds like you are feeling a little out of control so make use of online tools like wedding checklists, budget planners etc. to put yourself firmly back in the driving seat. If money is tight then budget on the extras like decorations etc. or spend some time making the favours, decorations etc. yourself with your bridesmaids and family. There are lots of ways to save money (not giving favours, shopping on ebay and esty, DIY decorations, flowers in jam jars etc.) but set a budget for each thing and stick to it, you may even end up saving money on some items which can be redistributed elsewhere. Most importantly, remember that this day is about you and your partner and sealing your commitment - all the rest is just extras so don't lose sight of that. Good luck! :-)

Donna Milner
Donna Milner 23 Jan 2018

I'm getting married in July it is our seconď time got engaged 5 years ago so decided to book it church was hundred pound more than register office so we have gone for the church I'm having all the room dressed seat covers etc all bought off eBay it was cheaper to buy than hire all I'm trying to say is get on eBay iv sat hours and got loads of beautiful stuff it dosent have to cost the earth iv been fed up and down but it will all fall into place good luck enjoy your day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 24 Jan 2018

Hi getting married myself in June. My advice would be to be a ruthless delegator. If someone else can help and wants to help. . Let them. Remember this is HIS wedding too So he should be taking on some of the planning and arranging burden. Also consider interest free credit cards, not that I would suggest people go into debt , but there are some good deals out there which help spread the cost over 2 years. If you are strict with your budget and repayments it might be a solution. Good luck.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 25 Jan 2018

I know how you feel, my wedding isn’t for ages but the way life is at the moment with money and family problems it feels pointless.
But then I remember what it’s all about and it keeps me going! Looking around the venue made my whole day and I tried to forget all the shit that goes alongside the planning!

Julie Locke
Julie Locke 31 Jan 2018

thank you for your support, we are practically there with the big day, just the trimmings etc. i tried talking to him but all i get is dont worry it will get sorted. im also post natal stage baby 10 month old. i have 6 boys so they my page boys, im not having bridesmaids as i got no one who i could say should be one xx

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