So, We don't have a wedding date yet (Although we are close to getting this done) and I thought it would be fun to have a look at wedding dresses, just so I have a better idea of what suits me etc. 2nd shop in, and I have found the dress. Like seriously. Kinda took me by surprise as I wasn't expecting to find it until this time next year. Price wise it is within budget and my FMIL has offerred to pay for it and then I pay her back as I don't have the full deposit up front right now. But what worries me is getting the dress so soon. I suffer with Anxiety so my silly head has created stupid anxieties and fears over the wedding. Like If I buy anything wedding related before we set a date then it's bad luck. And this is kinda what I am struggling with at the moment. That I am getting too ahead of myself and I shouldn't get the dress. But I love the dress so much, I cried when I had it on and I didn't even need to think about it - I just knew this was the one for me. Are my fears/worries legit or is this just my anxiety.
You and your H2B could always set a date?
try it on again, if you are still sure it's the one, then go for it. I was slightly unsure, but thought I was being silly, now I've got 2 and have to sell 1! Go with your gut, wish I had trusted mine...
If you are close to booking it I'm sure the dress will still be in the shop when you book the date- unlike clothing stores they tend to have the same dresses for quite some time. If you are unsure about this ring the shop they will know when that dress won't be stocked anymore
I went dress shopping beginning of November and not getting married until June 2020, I sort of regretted it as I found the dress I love but years in advance. If you’re sure about the dress and know you’ll regret not getting it then I don’t see why not, I doubt I’ll find one I love more than this one and thankfully it’s a 2018 style so unlikely to be discontinued anytime soon. :)
I know whete your coming from but it is your anxiety playing tgem ganes on you again. You found your dress you know its the one get it dont lose it now. I did the same went wedding show on been engaged 2 weeks lol next thing i know im walking out of there with a receipt for depoust on my beautifull dress. Date not set discussed nothing but got my dress lol 2019 we get married but shop has an excellent wedding seamstress so i not worrying about fittingvibto it properly yet. My h2b was really chuffed got a bargin and my dress. Takes the stress away one main things off the list.
So my advice is go get your dress and enjoy xx
Buy the dress! I went wedding dress shopping before we'd set a date too and found and fell in love with a dress so I got it and never regretted it xx
As a fellow anxiety sufferer I can honestly tell you the brain pixies are playing tricks on you. Go try it on a second time and see how you feel. Ignore the anxious thoughts and try to rationalize it. You like the dress; you're getting married; you'll need a dress. Who cares if you've yet to set the specific date. Allow yourself to enjoy this and be kind to yourself
Can you get a refundable deposit? I know when I bought my dress I had 6 weeks to change my mind and return it (originally I was going to keep looking because it was the first shop I'd been to but then I decided not to because I was so in love with it). If they give you 6 or 8 weeks breathing space where you can change your mind and lose nothing would that help your anxiety? If you are THAT close to a date mind you. I'm sure you have nothing to be anxious about but if it feels like tempting fate can you rationalise as you can get a refund still so you've not REALLY committed?
Be a shame to miss out on your perfect dress!
Only other thing is that is wedding is a long way off what you want to wear might change which is a risk buying the dress years in advance.
I got my dress recently and we haven't set a date yet lol
The first day I went to look at what type of dress I wanted for my wedding, I found the one. I bought it there & then & as the wedding got closer I had anxieties about whether I should have waited & maybe I would see something I loved more. I would go & try my dress on again & every time I did I fell in love with it all over again - on the day I felt Amazing in it & was so glad that I bought it when I did x
Today my Facebook memories thing told me I paid off my wedding dress 2 years ago... and we don't have a date currently! I'd say go for it, because you already know it's the one - why wait?
I can relate to this - in your head you know it’s silly but you can’t make yourself believe that. Got with what makes you feel the most comfortable. Can you explain to the dress shop and get your date sorted first then pay the deposit? Good luck xx
I got my dress 18 months before the date. My maid of honour and I went shopping and I fell in love. I ended up just getting it because I thought if I don't buy it and can't find something closer to the time I will kick myself.
I did this.... still no date and got £650 worth of dress to get rid of that will never be worn cause I then lost a ton of weight (we're talking 10 dress sizes, so absolutely zero chance of taking it in)
I suffer with bipolar and anxiety myself, so I tend to have stupid delusions! Buuuuut, if you are dead set on the dress then DO IT! BUY THE DRESS! I have not a set an actual date yet but we have decided on sometime in summer 2019. I have also found my perfect dress and as soon as I have got Christmas out of the way, I'm going to have what I call " a bipolar episode" and buy my dress! If you want it, get it. Don't waste valuable life time umming and arrring . do what makes you happy xxx
I bought my dress when I saw with my ex, we were engaged but fell apart shortly after. I love that dress so I never threw it out or sold it. Now I'm getting married next year and I'm wearing the dress. I went through a crisis of superstition over it, my other half has no problem with me wearing a dress I bought but never got to wear. But then I figured, it's just a piece of material, not voodoo, and I'm sure God or whatever has better things to do, like run the universe than send a bolt of lightning up my arse for wearing a dress I love lol. Get the dress, feel the fear and do it anyway huni xx
If you love the dress get it..the shop.should store it for you..
Gives a. Incentive to set a date.
Go for it x
I got my dress a month after we got engaged and had it for 3 years before we got married. I left it at my mammys house under lock and key
I understand. Anxiety makes something as emotionally charged as wedding planning SO much harder! If you need more time to make a decision that's fine! Take your time, maybe talk to the shop about it, and do what feels right for you :)
I got mine 2 years in we have are self 3 years the thing is if it's the one you truly say you stop looking it's like every thing eles you always see others but if this is the one you won't need to carry on looking
If you really love it, get it. We haven't set our date yet, but I have my dress because I fell head over heels for it and nothing else I tried on made me feel more beautiful x
I got my dress in may last year for my wedding a few days ago. I also found it by accident but when I wore it on Friday everyone loved it and thought it was perfect for me. If you do get it just make sure you are happy and try it a second time. Take lots of photos as well (if you can) to remind you if you start having doubts after (I did). Take people with you to help remind you how beautiful it is and how it made you feel if you do decide to try it a a second time
If you've found it, go for it! You know it's right, the only reason I could interpret that you're unsure is because it may "jinx" everything. It won't, go for it. Alternatively, wait until you've set the date and then go and get it xx
I got my dress 2 months before we set our date, if your heart says yes then go for it!
If you like it that much it'll be fine
me and my fiancé got engaged this April, but we haven’t set a date, not even living together yet. I went to the bridal shop as it had a sale on and found my perfect dress, I bought it there and then and saved £900 Including veil and tiara. Im Worried that I will change my mind closer to the wedding when we get round to setting A date but i chose the dress for a reason so I’m sure you will be fine and will love it just the same as you did when you bought it.