Hayley Ledger
Hayley Ledger 1 Dec 2017

I’m having a bit of a dilemma... How many bridesmaids is too many? I...

I’m having a bit of a dilemma... How many bridesmaids is too many? I have 7 close friends all from different parts of my life. Three of them come as a package, my School friends. But I only really see one of them. My main issue is that if I ask one and not the other two, I’m going to offend them and cause friction. Is 7 bridesmaids too many? I’m just worried about the cost of hair and makeup on the day. Any help is greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 1 Dec 2017

Hi if you don't see them then don't ask them. You can have as many bridesmaids as you want if you can afford it :)

Chloé Roe
Chloé R 1 Dec 2017

Why don't you ask the other 2 to do something else at your wedding ie. reading?
But if you want 7 bridesmaids. have 7- its your day

Hannah Nevill
Hannah Nevill 1 Dec 2017

i had the same problem. i decided to have my one best friend and my 2 sisters instead of asking any of them to avoid hard feeling. ive bought them all wrist corsages as a surprise to make them feel special on the day.

Lauren Keable
Lauren Keable 1 Dec 2017

I also felt like this as I have my best friend from university, my best friend who I am now lucky enough to work with and my best friend from years and years ago. I am only have my oldest and closest best friend because I feel that I can't ask one of the others and not have all 3. With having 4 other bridesmaids (sisters/SIL). It is often easier to just pick one closest. I have done this because of the costs x

Stephanie Wood
Stephanie Wood 3 Dec 2017

I'm having 7. It's my choice to have 7 but I'm going to ask if they can pay for their own hair (most have already offered to). I have also said they can wear their own shoes as I'm getting long dresses. The only thing I'm paying for is their dresses. Most have offered to pay for those too but I want them buy them.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

I'm having 6 and a flower girl

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

You can have as many bridesmaids as you want, some people go as far as having 12 or more. I'm only having my sister as maid of honour, my best friend as bridesmaid and my daughter as flower girl, simply because the rest I don't see as much or I'm constantly falling out so I want solid people in my bridal party xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

I dont get "Three of them come as a package, my School friends. But I only really see one of them"

So are you as close to the other 2? Or were you just always a 4 at school so you feel obliged?

I dont see some of my friends but theyre still friends, but not bridesmaids. I think very close friends constitute bridesmaids. Not just friends. I could have probs had 6, but capped myself at 4, also paying for everything so obviously that adds cost.

Each to there own, just make sure your choosing people for the right reason xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

You can have as few or as many as you want. Ask.if they can contribute towards dresses.
If you can't afford 7 and don't want to offend anyone. Just have the ones you see most often. I.am sure the others will understand

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

I have 6. A’s many as you’d like. It’s your day! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 3 Dec 2017

I have 6 my best friend my sister my 2step daughters and my partners 2 nieces xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I had 6 it is very costly as I paid for everything but if you really want them and can afford it why not only thing I felt was it was very busy the morning of the wedding with such a large party I had 6 my Mum and flower girls and page boys getting ready I found that very over whelming even tho I hired a really large suite x

Amy-Leigh Strachan
Amy-Leigh Strachan 4 Dec 2017

I only have 4 but that's my choice. Ask them if they don't mind paying for their own hair and make up

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I have 9 adults, 2 little ones, 3 page boys, 2 best men and 3 ushers xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

You have to base your number on what you can realistically afford, otherwise you’re just causing more stress for yourself

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I had 8 bridesmaids in total, four under 10 years old, three were friends from Uni and the 8th was my best friend and maid of honour it was a little bit of a struggle to find a dress that everyone liked and that suited them, but I think it turned out fine!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I had 11. I found the dresses on ebay less than £30 each we paid for makeup and shoes and my sister did hair x

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I nearly went for 7 bridesmaids but have cut it back to three and a moh.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I was bridesmaid for my sister her friend done our hair (i know not always an option) but we paid for our own make up, nails and shoes and she paid for the dresses. But they were reasonably priced off the internet

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

Only ask the ones which make the effort with you. I always over the years we’re going to ask certain people. But life moves on and there’s no point asking people which live to far, don’t see you, don’t know what you like... I’m struggling to think about my 2 bridesmaids shapes and stuff I’d hate to please 7!!! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I had 5! They all paid 1/2 of everything. Their dress, shoes and hair! They did their own make up as did I. I had my 2 sister in laws (twins) 2 friends and 1 of my sisters. My other sister was my witness and one did a reading. There are ways around the cost!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 4 Dec 2017

I have 7 plus a junior bridesmaid and a flower girl, they have all bee so fantastic and cooperative, I've paid for all their outfits and flowers and they've all said they want to buy their own shoes as they know what they'll feel comfortable which is okay by me, also they are all going to help each other do each others hair as they e all said they would like a few curls and maybe a plait or something which is simple enough to do.

Marie Richardson
Marie Richardson 7 Dec 2017

I'm having 7 but my sister and soon to be niece are both great with hair so they will be doing that and the same niece is also brill with make up so I'm going to have a few tries and see if I like what she can do for me and the others this will all save money obviously x

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 8 Dec 2017

If you don't see them much and don't really want them as bridesmaids don't ask them - you don't have to justify to anyone. It is completely up to you how many you have - I used to be a wedding coordinator and I once had a bride who had 12 (the groom had 8 groomsmen as well).

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