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UKbride Member Request 24 Nov 2017

I was wondering if anyone has had their Mum walk them down the aisle? My Dad...

I was wondering if anyone has had their Mum walk them down the aisle? My Dad is still in my life and we have a good relationship, but my Mum raised me and I would like to honour her by having her give me away. Problem is that my Dad is invited to the wedding and I don't want to upset him by telling him, but I also know that my Mum will be upset if he does give me away. All in all, I'm just considering walking down alone to save the hassle. Thoughts anyone??

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UKbride Member 25 Nov 2017

I'm having my mum and dad give me away as I'm the first child my mother has seen married whereas my dad has children from a previous relationship all of whom he has seen married but never given them away so I wanted them both to do that :) I think it is your big day and you need to have what you want happen or live your life regretting not doing so. If having your mother give you away is what you want, you only get married once, people get over being upset but you can't go back and change your day once it's happened, do whatever makes you happy and will give you the day you deserve! X

Steph V
Steph V 26 Nov 2017

My cousin had her mum (my Auntie) walk her down the aisle. She saw its as her Mum has not only been her mother but also her father so why give that honour to anyone else that her Mum.
If you don't want to have your dad walk you down the aisle that's your decision to make and he should be happy that he's witnessing you get married. :)

Jennine Williams
Jennine Williams 27 Nov 2017

Have u considered having them both give u away? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

I had my mum walk me down the isle she loved it, I didnt invite my dad he's never been in my life x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Do whats in your heart its your wedding x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

In traditional Jewish ceremonies both the mother and father walk the bride down the aisle. Do what feels right for you

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

I'm having my grandad walk me down the aisle. I met my dad at 16 and my grandad brought me up. I told my dad and he was fine and understood. If you communicate with your dad you'll probably find he understands and will be fine with it...soften the blow by asking him to do something else like sign as a witness or something x

Rachel Turnbull
Rachel Turnbull 27 Nov 2017

I have 2 Dads. My Step Dad raised me but I only have a good relationship with them both now but never growing up. I couldn’t choose, so I’m walking down with my daughter and step daughter. It’s my choice and that’s what I want to do ❤️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

I don't have my mother in my life or my father. However I do have my step dad. We used to have a great relationship but are a little distant. Even though he is coming to my wedding next November, I'm thinking of asking my Auntie to walk me as she's the closest thing to a parent to me. Go with your gut! They are there to show support and love, so they should be happy no matter your decision

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Have them both walk you down the aisle.....each of them are happy and so are you!

Laura Shindler
Laura Shindler 27 Nov 2017

I’m having my Mum walk me down and both my brothers are doing the welcome speech x

Joanne Doyle
Joanne Doyle 27 Nov 2017

My daughter waking me down x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mum walked me down the aisle as my dad passed away when I was younger

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mum is giving me away as she raised me on her own :) x

ADEL BALMFORTH
ADEL BALMFORTH 27 Nov 2017

My mamma gave my sister away 11 years ago and will be giving me away next year xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Have both

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mum walked me down the isle on Saturday. It’s your choice, my friend had her son walk her down he isle.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

I know choosing someone else or doing it by yourself seems like the less stressful option but ask yourself how you'll feel when you look back on it? If you truely want your mum and feel she deserves to walk you down the aisle, why deny her that once in a lifetime moment? You can always ask your dad to do something else really special to mark your relationship with him, like a father daughter dance. Or failing that, as them both to walk you. But personally, I wouldn't want to always wish I'd given one of both of them that opportunity because I didn't want them upset. They will probably be equally as upset to not be asked at all.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

I'm having my mum walk me down she's my rock my best friend I don't talk to my dad

Sarah Cupcakee Maybury
Sarah Cupcakee Maybury 27 Nov 2017

I'm being escorted by both :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Have 1 either side

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My ma is walking me down the aisle

Charlotte Mixture
Charlotte Mixture 27 Nov 2017

I had this problem too! Was thinking about asking my brother but I have ended up asking my Mum and my dad! They don’t get on at all so just hoping for the sake of their only daughters big day they can act like adults and not cause any trouble! Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mom and dad walked me down the aisle but my mom gave me away xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

IM having mine along side my dad ️

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

It's up to you. I was thinking of doing exactly the same but in the end I thought that he's my dad, it's only right that he walks me down. Mum hated the idea but for 'tradition' sake and my own personal want, I made the right choice. If you want to walk down the aisle alone as an 'independent woman' then go for it! Someone is going to be upset whatever you choose, do what you want to do without worrying about pleasing everyone else :)

Charlotte Priest
Charlotte Priest 27 Nov 2017

I'm having my mum walk me down the aisle. My dad doesn't make an effort with me or my sister. My mum has earned the right to that honour. He hasn't x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

What about both? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mum walked my sister down the aisle and she will be walking me down the aisle when I get married. My dad was at my sisters wedding and will be at mine but as my mum raised us I don’t think it was much of a surprise to him. If you want your mum to do it then don’t be afraid. Ask her. You can’t go back and redo it. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My Dad isn't in my life so I asked my brother. He's 13months younger than me and one of my best friends we grew up together couldn't imagine anyone else giving me away. It's your day do what makes you happy xx

Amy Southwell
Amy Southwell 27 Nov 2017

I had a similer problem. My Dad is going to walk me down the aisle, my stepdad pass over my hand and my Mum sign the register. Took me ages to work out how not to upset anyone xx

Jenny Collier
Jenny Collier 27 Nov 2017

My sister had my Mum walk her down the aisle.
Just do what makes you happy. It’s yours and your OH special day x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

I've got my mum and step dad walking me down the isle my sister also has our mum and her dad walking her down the isle x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Slightly different but I'm having my dad and my step dad both walk me down the aisle. I lost my amazing mum in January this year and I know she would have loved this (we did discuss it before she passed) spoken to both and they have both said they would be honoured. It's your day so do what makes u feel happy. Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My son is walking me down the aisle, my dad only came into my life 10 years ago at the age of 24.... my son is the most important man in my life and couldn't see anybody else diving me away he'll be 14 almost 15. Some people don't like it but I don't care xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Mother of the Bride is a unique experience as well, I was with my daughter, sorted her dress for her walk down the aisle, then was the last person to take my seat, traditionally this is a sign that the bride is ready & of my blessing for the marriage, then her Dad walked her down, we both had our moments and it was lovely. Hope you all have a wonderful day xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

How about both your mum and dad - I did that and it was lovely

Amber Neat
Amber Neat 27 Nov 2017

Have them both? X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

Cant they both walk you down the aisle

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mum did n it was lovely we also had a first dance to savage garden which we used to sing our hearts out to. Thus was a surprise she didn't know we were dancing x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mam walked me down the aisle as my dad passed away in 2005. My mam was really shocked when I said she was walking me down the aisle but would never of asked anyone else x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Nov 2017

My mum and my brother in law are walking me down the aisle. My father isnt invited

Ashley Power
Ashley Power 28 Nov 2017

My mother has been my rock for my entire life and been there for me when I needed it the most (even if I didn’t see if that way sometimes) and my dad lives over in Canada and we barely talk or see one another (it’ll be 5 times in 20 years by the time I get married) so I’ve asked my mum to walk me down the aisle as I couldn’t imagine anyone else being by my side at that moment (my daughters are my bridesmaids) maybe make a pro/con list, have them both walk you, have one walk you half way and Your Mum “deliver” you to your husband maybe? Otherwise, stand tall and walk yourself down the aisle, or walk with your future husband.....

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Nov 2017

My mum is walking me down the aisle, my dad left when I was 13, got back in contact when I was 21, have an ok relationship now but my mum was always there for me, she's the one who deserves that honour. Good luck xx

Carolann Topping
Carolann Topping 28 Nov 2017

Have both od them give you away xx

Rachel Dawes
Rachel Dawes 28 Nov 2017

Why not both?

Clare Parker
Clare Parker 28 Nov 2017

When I get married I'm having my mum and step dad walk me down the aisle. I was only going to have my step dad because my mum can't walk to for too long but she wanted to do it so I said they can both do it. At least that way if my mum needs any help walking down then my step dad will be there to help me. My real dad isn't getting invited x

Kendra McCormack
Kendra McCormack 28 Nov 2017

Personally I wouldn't worry about it too much, obviously if your mum was the one who raised you then your dad should understand that for that reason she has took on the role to walk you down the aisle. My mum raised me also with her partner and I only wish that he or at least her could walk me down the aisle but unfortunately circumstances won't allow that, so one of my best friends is doing it. (male friend might I add) They will both be there on the day and she will still speak a few words, as will he partner. They are honestly fine with it so to me your dad should understand what it would mean to you and your mum for her to do it. If your choice is to walk yourself down the aisle then I would agree with that if it makes you more comfortable, I have toyed with the idea myself but I don't want to regret anything afterwards and I only plan on having one wedding day lol. Just don't do/don't do anything you may regret.

Lisa Bennett
Lisa Bennett 28 Nov 2017

My daughter is walking me down the aisle, it's my 2nd wedding and it's been just us for years so thought I'd give her that honour.

Demi McGarry
Demi McGarry 17 Feb 2018

Why not have both of them walk you down the aisle x

Tracey McIlree
Tracey McIlree 22 Feb 2018

I have fallen out with my family so don't speak to my mum or dad so my son is walking me down the isle xx

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