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UKbride Member Request 3 Nov 2017

We didn't put an RSVP date on our invites but at what stage does it become...

We didn't put an RSVP date on our invites but at what stage does it become rude for people to have not responded? 6 months before?

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 3 Nov 2017

Hi I would say 2 months :)

Susan Coleclough
Susan Coleclough 4 Nov 2017

We are having a meeting with the venue four weeks before the wedding with final numbers so I would agree with Lucy and say 2 months.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

Our hotel wanted numbers 2 weeks before so we asked for final numbers three weeks before. Depends on your hotel. We also had guests who worked shifts and who couldn't tell us their shift patterns until couple of weeks before wedding.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

I put our RSVP date 5 months before our big day and unfortunately was still chasing people up to 1 month before our wedding day to find out who was coming and who wasn’t. Personally i suggest putting RSVP dates on as to some people it isn’t priority to let you know (even though it should be) I would agree and say 1-2 months, it depends with your venue as to when they need your final numbers and menu choices. Our venue were fab and gave us 2 weeks before the day as a definite deadline xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

People should definitely respond by two months before. As you will have to give final numbers for catering etc and it is crucial that you know who is most likely able to attend.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

I would say 2 months if it's for the following year people can't booked holiday until the new holiday year has started. X

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 5 Nov 2017

If people don't let us know by 3 months before they won't be coming as that's when I'm paying my final fee for our venue. And as we are paying per head then we definitely need to know! And I'll be making that clear by telling them not writing it on the invite xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

Ha mine I had people not reply 6 weeks before! I ended up texting them then I had people not turn up who said they were and vice versa’ on the day I just went with the flow! Lol x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

I would say 2 months before or your final payment date! If no RSVP by payment date then no seat at the table!!x

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 5 Nov 2017

1 of my bridesmaids finally replied on the Tuesday before the Saturday ! 😮

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

I'd say a couple of months. That's why you need to put an rsvp date, that way people know if you want it earlier.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

Some people.are so.rude. We had my husbands aunt and cousins rsvp.they were coming to our wedding so we catered for them
They didnt turn up. Nor let.us know they went coming. We had 4 empty places.
When asked why they disnt come they said it was because Irish people would be there...which they knew would be when invited

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 5 Nov 2017

We had to give final numbers 2weeks before so asked for 1 month before on RSVP card allowing a couple of weeks to chase up - only had 2 groups (around 4 people) to chase after the deadline too :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Nov 2017

When does your venue want final numbers?That's usually a good thing to go by

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Nov 2017

Some people never rsvp and always have to be chased

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Nov 2017

Lmao Ciara Mc Carron 6 months is rude? We send our invites out 6 weeks beforehand and rsvp is two weeks then yer lucky to even get the rsvps in by then

Andrea Lawlor
Andrea Lawlor 6 Nov 2017

Check when you need final numbers for the venue you will be using and add 1 month to that.

I need final numbers 6 weeks before so my RSVP date is 10 weeks before

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Nov 2017

I get married in 12 days and still had loads of people not rsvp so annoying just say if ur coming or not so I can cater for u etc would rather them tell me they are not coming then just not respond

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Nov 2017

I put an rsvp date of 2 months before the wedding and clearly stated if a response was not received buy a certian date there space would be given to someone else so please don't just turn up. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 6 Nov 2017

Before you confirm final numbers with your venue usually 6-8 weeks before, we had 2 guests unable to come due to ill health and a long journey, totally understood that, good to have evening guests on stand by for day time, we were lucky enough that 2 of our evening guests were delighted to attend the whole day rather than just the evening, they totally understood our predicament x

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