After finally getting our day guest list together due to our budget, we now have been told my h2b's neighbours have to be invited because his parents were invited to their kids weddings. What would everyone do, we talk to them but not enough for me to invite them to the ceremony, especially when the majority of the day guests are family apart from the bridal party and 2 other couples. Any advice would be great.
Hi, I'd say invite them to the reception only, as your ceremony sounds pretty intimate with close friends and family. Perhaps the neighbours children that got married had a different budget, no wedding is the same. I'd just make sure they have special treatment at the reception somehow.
That's my view.
I agree with Sharlin, just invite them to the reception x
Definitely invite them to the evening only, it’s your big day and if you start making exceptions the list will carry on growing! X
It's your day, you decide who you want there. I'd probably agree though and just invite them to the evening do'
Hi I would invite them for the evening only who's wedding is it anyway :)
I would invite them purely for the evening, it's your wedding and people do understand about budgeting.
Were you invited to the weddings? If not why should you invite them to the intimate part of YOUR day!
it's your wedding you invite who you want and what your budget allows x
It's your day not your in laws up to u who u invite x
Let his parents pay for them if they're insisting or else don't invite them
Nothing to do with the parents! Invite them to the evening or not at all! Good luck x
nope, no way; evening only. it's your wedding and your guest list is done so you would have to cut someone you really want there.
I had the same from my mum. She wanted me to invite 8 of her friends to my wedding as she went to their childrens weddings but we just don't have the space. A lot of our friends can't come to the day either. I just explained that we are limited to a number for the day so her friends can come to the evening. I'm sure they would understand if you say you are limited for space
While I appreciate its your wedding, who is paying for it? If the parents that are asking are paying for the wedding you need to tread carefully x
My partner and I are paying for it all ourselves so sod everyone else! Lol ;)
At the end of the day it is your wedding you choose who comes.
Im on doing my guest list with my other half and he keeps saying we should invite this persons parents as they invited mine to their wedding. To which I responded "thats stupid, if we made a list based on things like this the whole town would be coming and we arent millionaires, we can only afford so many people and the important ones come first"
I would make your list of everyone you want to cone if money was no object the organise them in to categories e.g. group a is family and best friends, b group friends, c colleagues and friends of friends, d group everyone else. Those in group a are in for definite. Then look at your budget to see how many people you can afford to attend.
We cant always please everyone especially on a budget
Tell them if they want them to come the need to pay for them as you have a budget x
Evening invite ? xx
A lovely evening reception invitation is enough
Remember it’s your day, your wedding. Invite who you want there, do not invite people because someone in your family or otherwise tells you to 🙂
Are the in laws offering to pay for them? Xxx
Told people for our wedding its upto us who we invite if you want them at a wedding then get married ya self. Simple as that. Don't care who knows who or who babysat who. NOT HAPPENING.
I would only invite them to the evening, remember this is your day. People shouldn't dictate in who they want there x
If you feel like you have to invite them, then invite them to evening. At the end of the day it's yours and your h2b's wedding not his parents wedding.
Don't invite them. Simple.
I wouldn't invite them at all.....this is your wedding and you don't have to please anyone but yourselves - certainly not for circumstances that are nothing to do with you and are not your responsibility! All you "have" to do is ensure you and your partner are happy.
Put them on a reserves list. Meaning make sure everyone you want to the day is invited then invite the neighbours evening only for now and potentially bump them to the day if people drop out xx
Unless your parents are paying for it, do what you want
If you're in laws want them there as them to pay for them x
Evening invite 👍🏻
Evening invite. Sounds like you’ve already been having a hard time for the day and no doubt excluded people you would have wanted there
This may help. I no it helped me a lot.
Just for the evening.
I myself have done this on my first wedding. Didn’t invite aunts and uncles I wasn’t really close to or even seen for over a year.
One aunt got so offended she boycotted the whole thing but to be completely honest, I couldn’t have given a flying toss.
It was our day and she was the one missing out in the end.
It has to be about you two as a couple. Just you two.
Just say they are more then welcome to pop along to the evening. But they cannot come to the day as there is only a limited number for close family and your personal friends. Guest lists are such a pain but you can’t have everyone with a budget ️ good luck.
Do you socialise with them or just speak in passing. If it's the latter I really wouldn't invite.
Simply have who u wish it is your wedding
If family wish others to attend and you are happy for them to go if parents or what not are paying then fair enough but otherwise have who you want
I wouldn't invite them personally. Weddings are a personal event and you should only have who you really want there :)
I wouldnt stand for being told I have to invite anyone! Put your foot down, why the heck should you be inviting his parents neighbours lol there is no rule that just because someone's been invited to someone elses wedding that you have to have them at yours...it's your day not his parents day. if you don't want them there at all then dont invite them, if you want to compromise then just invite them to the evening...it's your choice, don't let them make you feel pressured.
evening only in my opinion xx
Just ask them to the evening